The Dating Thread Number 122: Colour By Numbers

[ConorMcGregorsChin]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

purple that sounds really positive and agree about it getting overinvested....it's great that he suggested it....I think I am the other way I am too cool and think it's off putting sometimes...gotta learn to leave my walls down

Phoenix very exciting, I always find men who have a. Good sense of humour deeply attractive even if I don't find them physically attractive at the outset. Hope you have a wonderful time.

I have agreed to meet Mr.Anerican for a coffee on the weekend as I've secured some childcare....I'm a little nervous as I always find alcohol helps on a first date....have another iron who I'll call Mr. Model because he could definitelY be on the just for men adverts ha.

Have interviewed some au pairs and have found one that the kids and I like so should be able to get more free time going forward....also start my new role next week which is quite exciting....And I'm still NC with my ex - woo hoo

Conner how did your 'date' with the new FWB go?....
Did I miss an update?

I have 3 real irons at the moment and a couple of 'not quite' irons.

Mr Saturday night pull, who I snogged when out on Saturday night. Young hot and probably just Mooseburgers but I can live with that. I have a feeling they would be damn HOT mooseburgers.

Mr Older but can't quite figure out who is supposed to be coming over Tomorrow to look at something of mine which is broken. Going to be a weird but useful 1st date.

Mr Car who I have a date with on Thursday night hopefully but he cancelled last Thursdays one so we shall see.

Not invested in any of them yet (except would really like hot MB) will see how it goes.

SpringTimeSun - ha ha what's it mean to be Mooseburgers?!

Spring We never managed to meet up. It was always a tight window anyway. Going to have to wait till the weekend sadly.
It's been slightly frustrating, but hopefully will be worth it! We've both said we'd like a pretty regular thing we may have totally whipped each other into a frenzy last night chatting on WhatsApp

Couch

Mooseburgers..
If we were to do things 'properly' then the man would do all the chasing. The analogy is a hunting one. He goes all out, gets his moose hunting boots on and after much chasing etc eventually bags the ultimate prize. The moose. (Woman)
Or the alternative, we decide to hand it to them on a plate - a la Mooseburgers (sex quite early that they haven't had to work for)

Hope that makes sense (It's a tad early)

I couldn't go on my date yesterday with Mr Mountain as my car was in the garage, hoping to meet him tomorrow for lunch, texting has got a bit suggestive which is good because I need mooseburger he might only end up being a FWB due to distance, though he asked me if distance would be a issue if we wanted a relationship. If I don't get MB tomorrow I might have to arrange to meet Mr Lost on Sunday.

I'm not on POF at the moment (hidden) so no more irons. I found some really scary messages on messenger off of someone who I blocked who I met on POF, the messages were quite scary and weird, I have taken screen shots but unsure how to report.

MrTeacher has been checking in me with every day via whatsapp but he holds back a lot. I am finding it hard to keep a conversation going as he always seems to not reply & disappear mid conversation. My gut feeling isn't waving red flags yet though. He admitted he didn't want to get too invested before meeting so it's maybe that. sounds like he's been burnt in the past I know I'm probably over thinking things.

myusername it could be that he doesn't want to overinvest before meeting up or it could be that he's not who he says he is(chatting when partner not around).i suppose you 'll have to find out later on.

I was just thinking about creating a Pre Date playlist for when I'm getting ready to kind of pump me up. Do any of you have songs you love to listen to to get you ready?

MyUsername is it because he is teaching and is only getting odd spare moments to message you?

I am posting to remind myself not to over-invest. Could easily get carried away with the incessant messaging with Mr Wig. He drove a 4 hour round trip to have coffee with me on Monday as there was no other time we could see each other until next weekend. Since then the text chatting has continued almost non-stop. We have talked about everything from politics to what we feed our kids for tea. Don't agree on everything but have similar attitudes and values and make each other laugh. The level of connection is in a different league to anyone else I've met on OLD without a doubt.

I am seeing him again next Friday. I just don't want to get my hopes up as I know it could all go hideously wrong. Please kind MNetters please help me not be disappointed again!

See Lovemusic, you are talking Mooseburgers with that guy now, and i get a roasting for wanting sex with that woman by date 5.

Just double standards! I'm sure yours is only date 2 isnt it?

I'm having a dinner date tonight - again hate eating in front of people but in this case I don't really feel it . Tomorrow a lunch coffee with mr Water I'm kind of excited but I think he may not be the brightest tool

rK24 it depends who you date some women may want to wait some may just want to scratch the itch no one is judgemental over here different people different attitudes

ojojo, is he isnt stimulating you mentally, what makes you go on the date tomorrow?

whatisgoingon at the moment my gut feeling is telling me he's just not trying to overinvest. The thought of him having a gf/wife did come up but I'm trying not to overthink as it'll drive me to paranoia. I haven't met the guy yet so I need to do that before I start thinking of any future dates.

Ruby he only seems to message in the evenings.

I'm going to suggest a phone call as I think it would be good to hear his voice and I can gauge more out of a phone call.

Hi again everyone, checking back in on here. The sort of long distance thing I had going had officially ended, he said I just wasn't what he was looking for in a relationship and there wasn't enough there for anything permanent, pretty gutting to hear! And I did like him a lot, he was actually a normal person!

Never mind, I suppose you live and learn. I'll have a day of moping then get myself back in tinder. Try not to over invest again and hopefully I shall be back with more tales of irons :)

Hi everyone.

conor oh that's brilliant I'm totally mooseburgers to Mr Hot Native Londoner. In fact I think I've already been barbecued and am in a bap having a slutty phase after years in a stale marriage

Ruby Mr Wig sounds promising although only practical tip for not over-investing is try to space out the texting. Turn your phone off, read a book, go out, meet a friend. Fill your head with other things you're interested in... Mind you so much easier said than done...

jonsnowsghost sorry to hear that... mope then regroup...

Pheonix pre-date playlist is an awesome idea At the minute I can't stop listening to Dang! by Mac Miller and Runaway by Nyorican Soul... the last one in particular has appropriate, fun lyrics. Need more recommendations though!

Mr Hot Native Londonder (HNL) keeps on texting... mainly saucy stuff so we're definitely in the FB zone. Trying to do some self-protection though by not texting too much. Also am back on OLD to try and find someone to go out and do fun things with... not sure it'd work with Mr HNL. We may get arrested

rK24 because sometimes I feel I put my guard too high and as it's not very stimulating conversation online it may still be in real life . Maybe not but will give it a shot. Before you ask I don't go out with everyone no I'm quite choosy as I think my time is extremely precious

rk24
i get a roasting for wanting sex with that woman by date 5
Nothing wrong with wanting,is how you react when other party is not on the same page. All dating is case by case basis.

RK that's quite an aggressive response. Do you push for sex? Do you know why by date 5 she's not up for it?

Phoenixmama - rk24 has a whole thread about his issue with being ghosted, have a read :)

Just read your other thread Rk. Well that escalated quickly!!

Ghosting is abhorrent. I had a guy tell me he was just running into a meeting & he'd drop me a text after, only there was no text & he deleted me from bumble. It makes you feel like shit. Ultimately I just believe they haven't had the same experience as we have. And they're cowards. I do t want to be with a coward so onwards & upwards and all that!

phoenix exactly, ghosting is disgusting. My date at least surfaced eventually and gave me the heave ho. I felt a bit led on but its in the past now.

So much drama on his thread Phoenix ,especially yesterday. Ghosting is awful but unfortunately its a part of online dating game.
My 2 month relationship did not ghost me as such ,he sent an angry message listing all my tiny little faults and blocked me on all platforms we were friends with .When I showed the list of my faults to couple of friends trying to make sense of it all,they said he's being petty and something else must be decisive reason. Anyway I feel ghosted after that too because I was cut off without being able to discuss things with him.Put me off dating for a very long time !