The Dating Thread Number 122: Colour By Numbers

[ConorMcGregorsChin]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

Eating This is exciting - try not to be too nervous. It's not like you'd have forgotten how to do it My post marriage sex repertoire is far more varied and interesting than ever before.

So Mr Irish has gone a bit quiet. I know his mother's in town till tonight but he's been messaging quite a bit when she's been around (even going as far as to say that she asked him what he kept smiling about when he looked at his phone). I hate all the not knowing & I wish people would just be bloody honest about where they're at (including height, age and how many kids they have! WTF?) Am taking the good advice offered by you lot though and not getting excited about a date until the day (and maybe even then). At least I haven't booked a sitter for this one - see I am learning!

Phoenix thank you. That's what I keep telling myself. Surely you can't forget

Bren Yep. Non gesture really. He knows I wouldn't/ couldn't up and leave...

Eating I'm also surprised about the third date. No attraction? You said he wants to meet again so looking like Saturday. Are you just feeling obliged?

Flower Bloody hell. Yep. That's why it's good to get first date done quickly. Sort the liars wheat from the chaff..

I'm bored today. The only dating app I didn't delete is Zoosk. Zoosk is shite. It is where all the ugly people hide. But I paid for a 6 month subscription so.... I'm avoiding / ignorinh all the potatoes (do many old horribly scary looking profiles from men professing to be 37 and clearly 20 yrs older) Anyway, I've messaged 10 chaps who I thought looked pretty hot and sounded interesting. Will be interesting to see response rate. In the meantime it shows I'm online so all the gurning fits holding potato twats continue to chance their luck. Sorry I'm sounding a bit bitchy and negative but seriously, I've met 50 men in 4 years and not a decent one among them!

Morning everyone, lots of activity on here to catch up on.
MrMusic has swapped a work shift to see me this Thursday which is lovely but I'm still not sure. This will be the second date. He's just far different, which isn't a bad thing, to what I'm used to. He seems to be over investing!
MrExercise is a lunch date tomorrow. We bumped into each other yesterday out of the blue which was hilarious! He came across and said hi. He rang later to confirm our date for Monday. He's the one who I haven't invested in at all and now seems to be the best bet. He's had my true self at all times.
MrSlowBurn is still there. He's asked if I'd like to meet. But nothing actually decided. If it wasn't for the other two I wouldn't have carried on messaging but I'm so intrigued what he's actually like!

In other news the guy I went on coffee date with ages ago I'd becoming a pest. I won't go into details as he's the sort of guy to lurk on here. I made it clear I wasn't interested but he's chasing and making me a bit uncomfortable. I really need to block him but there's a part of me that prefers knowing what he's up to.

Zoosk is where the ugly people hide.....arf

Ooh Purple that all sounds good in your first post. But the other guy, have you told him you aren't happy with him pestering you?

Soooo many typos in my post. Reflective of my mood I think. I want attention / entertaining / wooing and I'm not getting any dammit may also be a large element of sexual frustration
Anyway, post should read 'Gurning fish holding potato twats' or GFHPT for short.

Connor I have tentatively agreed to Saturday. Time, venue to be agreed closer to the time. I think I felt like I owed him a second chance. I'm not sure if my judgement clouded by date 2 and I feel I need to see him again before I can decide.

That makes me sound awful. I will tell date 3, I won't make firm plans with him until I'm sure I'm going to see him.

I have a potential date next week with Mr Water . I'm not sure as conversation is none existent but I'm thinking about it as a training session . Like another gym sesh

Conor totally feel your pain. I'm frustrated & annoyed with the whole process. I'm also feeling very fragile emotionally today for other reasons. It's hard sometimes not to take all the ghosting, cancellations, etc personally. I cognitively know it's not about me but on an emotional level it's hard.

Hugs and Phoenix
I honestly think it's got to the worst ever possible phase in online dating. It's peppered with liars, catfish, people who have no idea what they want and sweetshop mentality. I feel like it all needs scrapping and we need to start afresh somehow. But differently. I mean it's the same people on Tinder, Bumble, POF and OK Cupid. The paid sites are either awful or slim pickings. I read that the lovely Eden from Celebs Go Dating has a dating app called Would Like To Meet. Apparently it's the only app where all photos must be verified. I hate being tied to this bloody stupid process but sadly boredom my desperate need for attention gets the better of me!

Thanks for the welcome, God this thread moves quick

Well last night was a big waste of time. Why on earth do people message when they are well out of my area, like a plane ride away? The only person that the conversation flowed told me later she wanted a 100% lesbian I'm only 50% Might switch to look at men now, the women are slim pickings.

Conor I haven't as it's only become an issue the last few days and Ive been so busy I haven't had the head space to form a message along those lines.

Woken up to a flurry of messages.....one guys message in particular has caught my eye....I will call him Mr. American because he's from the Windy City.....quite easy on the eye and very engaging.....meeting him for a drink in the city next week....I am excited and scared....no idea what to wear...perhaps black skinny jeans and one of my Reid's/Hobbs tops....he's a little bit older than me but I do find him attractive!

Conor I've just had a look at Would Like to Meet, can't locate the app for android only the website. From the blog and blurb it doesn't seem very current. Not much activity on Twitter or Facebook either. I'm just wondering if anyone is actually on it? It appears to be a paid service but it doesn't seem possible to find out the prices without starting the sign-up process which doesn't seem great.

Anyone here tried it?

Hello everyone!

Good to see you all - I've kind of being following from a distance, a bit too busy to post.

Conor, Phoenix, sorry to hear you're in a bad patch. when OLD sucks it really sucks. I find that sometimes there are just no decent prospects and when it's like that, it's really important NOT to find yourself thinking "what if I did have to go out with men like that?" - as if you could somehow be forced into it against your will. (the scowling shirtless man in a gloomy room with the camera up his nose and the tangled venetian blinds in the background) (we've all swiped left on that guy. And his cousins. Often)

I am DYING of nerves over a date tonight. On my own in the house with no kids and trying to do some clearing out to distract me - but going very slowly

Had a tool messaging me all last night and all morning. Conversation reduced to him ranting about his ex and how she wronged him.when I mentioned I'm not even remotely interested in his failed relationship with the person I never met and it's very off putting,he Had a cheek saying conversation is not about exes but about approaches to life and told me to get over it. I didnt bother to reply obviously but he unmatched me! Why do I get them weirdos messaging me wasting my typing energy?grrr

Phoenix I'm feeling like that at the moment, the constant ghosting, even when I'm not that keen on them lol. Makes you feel like there's something wrong with you. The more dates I go on the worse it feels x

Anti Good luck with the date!
I'm seeing my new FWB tomorrow for the third time. This is the first time we are actually planning DTD as such. The other two meetings have just been 'getting to know each other / feel comfortable'
Shit man. He's hot! he'd better not disappoint

Whatgoing on I attract them too

Thanks Conor!

Hope it all goes well tomorrow.

I have a really ridiculously nice chap assiduously messaging me every single day. I am starting to feel like a bit of a heel about him.... as I doubt I'll ever meet him / it's going to work out. Is he going to be complaining about me on some other forum?

I went out for a couple of drinks last night with my sister. No time to shower or shave my legs/underarms and ate stinky food for tea and what happened.....met and pulled a very hot, much younger man!!!!

Probably just as well I wasn't MB ready cause I so would have but we've been texting today and are planning on meeting up again.
Feeling happy today tho.....I've still got it hahaha

Plus a rearranged date with an iron that I've talking to on and off for a while now.

Things looking good this week.

Oooh Spring go you!
How much younger?
(New FWB is 20 yrs younger)

Only 7 years. Younger than I'd usually go. He's very much young single and fancy free (and fit and hot) and I'm a single mum with 3 little ones and the curvy/wobbly bits to match but even if it's just a one night wonder or a FWB I'd be happy lol.

These nights out there are you many young girls wearing not very much that I always think being slightly older that I've no chance so it was a nice wee confidence boost (after a rubbish wee while) if nothing else at all.