The Dating Thread Number 122: Colour By Numbers

[ConorMcGregorsChin]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

Been that's a good idea . I'll wear my suspenders and a nice dress .Hows that going to work in reality though when I'm supposed to wear top and leggings ? I guess ill change into them in front of him

Please can I join this thread? I have decided that perhaps the only way to stifle my feeling of loneliness is to date....still very much hung up on an ex but I don't think it can harm going out for a few drinks....have been offered a promotion in work which means I can afford some childcare so should have two nights off a week to date....joined bumble, Guardian Soul Mates and Bumble and have a few matches who are proving to be quite lucrative....it's definitely taking my mind off the ex if nothing else...

whats with regard to your chiropractor, please be careful. I'm in a very similar field.
We have extremely strict rules / boundaries regarding clients. For very good reasons.

I have arranged date no 2 with Mr Mountain on Tuesday, I'm not used to having 2 dates this close together (usually it's at least a week when they live far away). He's working near by so I offered to meet him for lunch.
He hasn't really said much about his ex, he has moved into a new home by himself quite far away where he doesn't really know many people (but a lovely area which is why he chose to move there). He has a really gentle nature which I'm not used too but maybe it's all a front, he could be a complete and utter twat but I will just have to wait and see.

whats I don't want to burst your bubble, but I'm a paediatric medical professional and there would be major ramifications if I dated anyone who'd been under my care. I was swiped on Tinder by a dad of an ex patient, I see him around a lot and we chat fairly regularly as he works somewhere that I take the kids, so he knew exactly who I was. Even if I'd been interested I couldn't have acted on it anyway. Also, I feel a bit embarrased to go back there any time soon as I feel like I've given him the wrong impression, even though I was just being friendly.

Sorry, I don't want to sound negative - enjoy your appointment and a bit of gentle flirting :) but unless you want to find another chiropractor if things go wrong if you approach him then I'd leave it there!

Embarrassed, I hate typos :)

lovemusic your iron sounds lovely. I'd be a bit worried that we were dating the same bloke were it not for the mechanical heart comment ;)

I'm really enjoying my guy's company. I'll call him Mr Tatt :) also have had lots and lots of very good sex in addition to lots of chatting. Definite crazy chemistry but he seems pretty grounded too. I like him a lot!

Let's hope it continues to go well with both our irons Wotch ,I think my main worry is his heart, maybe I should have asked more questions about it but I didn't want to be nosey, I don't really want to fall for someone who could drop dead any minute , he has a lot of plans for the future (places he would like to visit) so I'm guessing he's not planning on dropping dead any time soon. I'm trying to hold out until the 3rd date to DTD but sexual tension is high as it's been a while since I was with MR Surf .

Oooh. wotcher and Love all sounds good. Definitely ask some questions about the mechanical heart. I'm sure he won't mind that you'd be interested to hear about it.

And Love if just been going to ask about Mr Surfer as I've just had my old Surfer iron reappear. He's been working away and is due home soon but wanted to send me a plane ticket to join him for a while to show me that he's serious (He says I always run away and hide from him) this may be true actually

On a separate note, is anyone else hopelessly addicted to Celebs go Dating? and slightly in love with Callum Best

Thanks for reality check Connor and Watcher I knew that already but somehow got carried away as after so many years knowing him in patient/doctor capacity I know him in social context now too and few intimate details about his personal life and the one of his brother. The brother is now in my home country experiencing romance with local woman (of my nationality).
But I have been told by his colleague years ago that there is strict code of rules for example they not allowed to touch a patient in certain situations.
To be fair even for me, I wouldn't date anyone I know from work no matter how much I liked them .For the sake of keeping my reputation intact if nothing else!

Since registering on bumble last night have 23 matches. That sounds promising lol NOT. Used to have hundreds of matches on tinder and only handful that were quality.

Connor I am so addicted to it. Calum Best is lush x

Need'welcome! Just pile in with experiences and questions! Sometimes if a convo gets flowing we may forget to say hello but it's not cliqueiness just distraction so don't be shy! When I broke up with XH I was on the dating scene super fast and had a ball. It really built up my confidence too but I was only looking for FWBs rather than a relationship at that point so I wasn't being too choosy and looking for Mr Just Right. How old are you? I'm 51 and there's a huge difference in 'flow rate' of interest in me at 51 as opposed to 47/48. Even though my pics look no different.

Love enjoy the sexual tension! Re the heart it might just be a valve or part rather than a whole heart. I'd have to find out more just because I love a bit of medical stuff! Someone I knew had terminal cancer and had a huge operation. During her clear phase she was dating and really paranoid about her scar which was like a huge shark bite around her middle. I surveyed the men I knew who all said they'd love her scar and make a fuss of it and, sure enough, the men she met where so tender about her scar. So if you do get naked with Mr Music love his scar!! He might be proud of it or blazė about it anyway.

Go Wotcher and Love! So glad to hear people having good dates!

Welcome Need!

So another childfree weekend and all of my dates have disappeared, even the back ups I was hoping would come through! So frustrating as I can almost guarantee that there will be plenty of offers next weekend when i have DD! There is nothing I hate more than weekends spent by myself when I thought they were going to be busy and exciting.

Been I love medical stuff too, I'm kind of excited about seeing his scar. I dated someone earlier in the year that had had several big surgeries (cancer in 2 places and army injuries), I thought his scars were amazing.

Sorry Love got mixed up with me irons back there. I meant Mr Mountain not Music! We're not at the stage of handing the irons around the thread! Yet.

Phoenix bummer. Can you take yourself off to a last minute spa afternoon or exhibition you wanted to see? Or just doll yourself up and hit the shops and have a nice grown up meal out with a book. I love doing that. I'm embarrassed to say I've already started Christmas shopping. I'm going to be snowed due to work from mid-October and as I have nine under-nines to spoil I thought I'd get ahead of the game!

Love and Been I sence a bit of medical fetish going on? Whatever tickles you fancy though
Phoenix I am a great believer in new age philosophy and believe the more you don't like something the more it's present in your life. Something must have gone wrong emotionally at some point re childfree days and failed plans.My advice would be feel those days.Dive in and embrace the situation don't try to avoid . Feel bored ,feel lonely ,watch nice tv,go window shopping,drop any expectations. Once you feel you enjoy those days without external gratification and feel happy anyway,situation will change .
Sorry if I state obvious or sound preachy or boring.I know that worked for me in the past.

Thanks Been and Phoenix...I met my last guy through OLD although I must admit he was one of the first dates I went on and I wasn't exactly choosy....Been - 43 living in Ashtead so not as much choice as the London folk although I do work in London so can meet people in the City after work perhaps.....

Phoenix sorry to hear that....nothing worse than an empty weeeknd....my exH never has the kids over the weekend (can count on my hands how many times) so my house is always busy and whilst I'd love a break I suspect I'd get lonely quite quickly.....What I remember dating last year and having way more matches......perhaps there's a shortage of men out there (because it can't be us right lol?)

Need not sure about less men.i know I'm quite picky too so swipe left on average more than half of available ones and out of those I chat with as soon as I feel unhealthy flirting develops or inklings of red flag,I stop so it must be me
Anyway feel bad now about Chiropractor. Replied to me around lunch time today,seem very concerned and very apologetic for not replying sooner and prebooked me appointment for Monday afternoon. I feel ashamed now and not sure I can take time off work for that slot. Although I really want to see him

Need don't feel ashamed.

And also, it's quiet here tonight. Is everyone on unplanned dates? Or drowning sorrows in vino? And another also, where are the blokes on here?

whats not need

Ooh Smeaton sounds good.
I met my new potential FWB again today. Feels kind of relationshippy in the sense that we talk and get on a lot. cueghosting

No dates tonight ,no wine but no sorrows either .Lots of chores to catch up with thought. Perhaps I'll need wibe afterwards
And thanks Connor