The Dating Thread Number 122: Colour By Numbers

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

My ex has a beautiful boarding school educated Worcestershire accent. He could say no wrong to me .but he used to compliment mine more( mine is foreign).

I have a foreign accent and don't like talking on the phone as I don't advertise that I'm not British, I just want to be seen as a person not a foreigner but been told before my accent is actually quite sexy

I seem to get more anxious each time I have a date, not sure why as I find it quite easy to talk to men. I have always had issues with eating no infront of people though. I'm sure you will be ok once I get there. I will order soup as it's easy to eat.

Lovemusic I don't eat on dates I'm the same as you . Find it hard for first 3 min maybe as my self esteem is not very high but once I know how they react to me I'm ok

The eating thing is really annoying isn't it ojojo ,I just get a really dry mouth and I can't actually swallow food (which is why I will go for soup). I really really enjoy food and this iron is a real foodie so he's probably going to think I'm really odd ordering soup .

I just want to be seen as a person not a foreigner Those things are not mutually exclusive? I actually found that my sexy (told my so many ) accent works in my advantage ,men prefer sexy accents same way as women do. What's the male equivalent of panty remover?

Have a great date Love

What did you get up to Been???

Been does the hang over indicate a good night?

Just back from my date, found him really easy to talk too, he seemed really nice, I think I might have talked too much, not sure if he past the kitchen worktop test but he's shagable. Might have had a little kisssnog before I left. A second date is deffently on the cards. Only small red/amber flag is that he hasn't been single very long, moved out of his ex's 3 months ago but said that their relationship had been over for months before. Oh and the other little thing, he has had major heart surgery and has a machnical heart , could this be a problem whilst shagging on the kitchen work tops???

moved out of his ex's 3 months ago but said that their relationship had been over for months before.
Be careful, take things slow ,I mean very slow. He still probably not in the best place emotionally and inevitably will be comparing you to her and might not ready to be for a relationship,even if he wants one.

what that's what I'm thinking though he seems to be pretty settled in his new house, he seems very independent which could be why he has struggled with living with someone? Maybe I shouldn't over think things? I will tread carefully, due to him living quite far away it will make it easier not to rush things.

Well I'm glad you had good date Love . Maybe see how it goes

lovemusic I wouldn't pay attention to reasons for splitting with ex men give you! Through personal experience I found it to be complete BS. You'll find the truth later -either through his family, ex or understanding when you'll know him better.

That's true what, I do have a friend who knows him so I could always find out a bit more about him if I wanted too (not sure I want to though). He has basically said that it was a amicable split nothing messy. Anyway will see how it goes, it's hard to judge someone after only spending 2 hours with them but he seems ok at the moment.

The hangover indicates my age as it's from a girls' night out on Wednesday! Yesterday was OKish but I've really been suffering today. Still, the cloud is lifting.

Whats I need a good voice that's quite deep; accents don't bother me too much but I like proper pronunciation so no dropped consonants etc. Laconic, slightly slow and higher-pitched voices just don't do it for me. I need quick fire wit and laconic slow voices don't deliver.

Eating "too much too quick" is a bit of a red flag for me now. Not a dumping offence but I'd have my twat radar tuned to high. I used to be flattered and enjoy the "connection" (that's another red flag for me now at the beginning) and end up in bed with them even though after a few weeks it became obvious that we couldn't stay the course.

Love shaggable's good! He sounds like he's worth a second date. Maybe the mechanical heart will help his staying power! whats is right about believing what you're told about break-ups. He's in sales mode. The only thing you can go on from a first date is if they do the whole "my exes were all nutters" thing or go on and on and on about their ex. Never see them again if that's the case! If he's moved into a place on his own then that's premium - very rare! I wouldn't worry too much about three months out of a relationship - he's had a chance to set himself up in his new home so he's probably feeling settled and ready. If he'd moved in with Mum then I'd be questioning his readiness! A friend of mine met a smashing chap (with a good job!) on POF a year ago. He'd not long been separated, which bothered her, but she took it slowly and they're super happy together a year later. She's my role model. It can be done!

Beenthere I agree I'm not going to dump him and will see him again when he comes home from his holiday, but there is something nagging that I can't put my finger on.

I am really new to this and have been on my own for three years. He knows this and I can't decide if that is adding to his interest in me.

Ladies I need urgent advice! Just registered on bumble and who do you think I found there? My hot chiropractor that i am friend's on fb with. We know each other many years ,are friendly and discuss all sorts including relationships when I have appointment.on my last visit we didn't discuss relationships guess I knowingly avoided it.But on the visit before last gone to lenth discussing both his and mine failing at that time relationships .that was over 3 months ago. I was thinking (fantasizing) that our patient/friend relationship could turn into more but think it's just in my head as he's just friendly and his rare chats on fb just that-friendly and polite and short.Tge question is do I swipe right or left?

If I swipe right it potentially become either great or very awkward

Oh blimey Whats. Assume you swipe right, shag then fade (I'm so glass half full there ) could you easily find another chiropractor that's as good?

Could you maybe book an appointment next week and test the waters by suggesting a drink?

Something happened at my last appointment too. I was complaining about shoulder pain (us usual) and he does whatever he does as usual. Basically I take my bra off every time but leave top on.This time round he told me to take my top off ( very unusual never before) while I was lying face down. After whatever he did he left the room saying he'll give me a minute to put top back on.And all I was thinking meantime : how good it feels him touching me and if he'd tell me to turn around I'd do and snog him halfnaked. I know bonkers territory!All that is not helping me at all.
But anyway I think booking appointment is a good move.Tell him I'm single now and ask what's his situation is as well.And take it from there(clatching at straws).
Do men on bummble able to see you before you swipe them right?

Whatis I'd def swipe right. If you match you then you know if he's interested right away. He may have already swiped - you're shown people at different times whether you've swiped or not.

And for the record I've done this with people I know in real life sometimes just to see and then totally deleted them when we matched so they couldn't see we'd matched. It has worked in my favour though a couple times.

Love sounds very promising! Keep us posted...

Been hope the hangover has subsided...

whatis ooo how exciting is this?! I'd second the booking an appointment thing... sounds like you have a good spark between you and it wouldn't be unnatural to bring up relationships. Reminds me of that episode in Friends where Phoebe has a crush on one of her clients and can't stop fantasising that "his pants come down a little"

I have date 2 with Mr Hot Native Londoner on Sunday! Another hook up... I'm delighted! Though we've been texting a lot this week, getting to know each other better, he's funny we get on well, he loves being a dad, says nice things about his ex. All good. I guess I have genuinely low expectations (separated from my ex 5 weeks ago, moving away in 6 months' time, just want the sex and some short term fun really) so it's all relatively low stress. But also.... really fooking hot

Thanks all for sound advice. I couldn't bring myself to swipe right and possibly get nothing in return. At that point I would die of shame and look for a new chiropractor! And he's great at what he does so I don't want to loose his service.
I'm totally booking an appointment though,in fact I'm grooming him for it already .Messaged him on fb asking if he's back from holiday ( last update was from him on 8th September while he was away) so I can book an appointment. Get ready for my shoulder pain Mr Chiropractor

Whats I'm picturing you walking into your unsuspecting prey's lair . Hair done, full make up, new sexy underwear, heels, low buttoned blouse... he'll take one look at you sauntering in and gulp. You then purr: "there seems to be chronic problem with my..." and see where his gaze goes!