The Dating Thread Number 122: Colour By Numbers

[ConorMcGregorsChin]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

Ha ha ha time encounters exists? But filth?? Is it posh Tory voting filth?

My worst ever shag came from Times Encounters. Basically it was a hook up. A very bad hook up. He was a squirmer. Kissed like a washing machine and just emitted random swear words throughout the act. I was literally lying there trying not to laugh and thinking: "I can't wait to tell the guys in the office...". Turns out he was on Guardian Soulmates but it seems the Times and the Guardian share the same platform... Caveat emptor!!

Guardian soul mates is on the same platform as several so called dating sites. I have never joined guardian soul mates but signed up to a local dating sight and my profile showed up on guardian, it's also on the same platform as the new sight 'plenty more fish'. I have never payed for membership but I get a lot of messages on there which I can't reply too.

It's like the NSA sites. I signed up to one thinking it would be more sedate (!!) only to be messaged by a young buck with a male friend asking if I wanted a threesome with them... I replied out of curiosity just to find out what made him think I'd be up for that and he'd signed up to a threesome / moresome site and assumed that I was visible for the same reason.

I think if one company owns a load of 'relationship' sites they share the data so there's more to choose from. The same goes for the NSA sites.

Been messaging an iron Mr New for a couple of weeks now and arranged to meet up on Saturday. He does have a really busy job and then has his children quite a lot as well so we don't really message loads. When we do he's really funny and some messages make me laugh out loud. I'm used to irons messaging me lots so this seems really strange to me. How often do you expect an iron to message? Not sure if I'm just being needy lol xx

Flowergirl I generally chat with an iron most days before we meet but it does differ from guy to guy. The last iron I had we chatted every day, just general chit chat messages. I've had some irons that don't chat much too, perhaps one or two texts every few days so it does differ a lot. Do you want to chat everyday with your iron?

Shock horror but I have a potential iron. I'll call him Mr Car. He seems quite chatty and has just asked me out for a drink this weekend. Hoping there's some potential. He's quite hot judging by his pics too which is a bonus of course.

Ideally everyday and actual proper chat in the evenings.From my experience only out of that scenario ,consistent chats and attention I got into relationships. Twice. One that lasted 3 years and one that lasted 2 months (turned out to be miss wrong for him). Have a new iron Mr Driving instructor. Very consistent with contact, gave his Facebook already,seems nice but I like Banker more!

Flower I like to to send and receive just one or two messages a day before meeting otherwise I start to over invest.

MyUser the bonus is when he actually looks like his hot photos. Actually that's a miracle rather than a bonus.

Thanks all. All previous irons have messaged quite a lot but this one doesn't so it just seems different. It's not a bad thing just seems different but I guess I haven't over invested like I always seem to do normally x

Beenthere yep I agree, I'm half expecting him to not look like them, or be ten years older with a beer belly. It would be nice if his pics actually represented him, here's hoping.

flowergirl the one good thing about not messaging as much is you don't become overinvested.

I went out tonight for a first date

Really liked him!! Which probably means I will never hear from him. Stupidly sent him a probably over enthusiastic message when I got home
Bloody hell ... I think I am really really out of this game now . Just can't take the rollercoaster anymore :( :(

Did he reply Ruby?

If his pictures look hot remember to run them through CTRLQ and Tineye.
Sad but necessary I'm learning.

what no :(

I have eaten chocolate and am going to bed.

And giving up on dating :( :( :(

Been this was very funny and spot on..."the bonus is when he actually looks like his hot photos. Actually that's a miracle rather than a bonus"

Demon dentist I dated had photoshopped his photos I'm sure. I went on 3 dates as the entertainment factor he was nuts was worth it. I wouldnt even hold his hand and I'm usually a DTD on date 3 person so it wasn't even a FB situation.

Mr Electric has written to ask me out and not put off by the fact I said I'm dating someone else as he's seeing someone too. Lucky woman with his cheating arse.He was a budget well dodged!

Ruby I agree with Smeaton and good on you for being honest and not playing games if he doesn't respond it's not your message and may even not be you...you know very little of his background and it's easy for him to try and impress on the first date.
I hope he does reply though!

Ruby don't send another message for now no matter how much you might want to. If he's interested he'll be happy to have received your message and it's not unreasonable if he gets back to you tomorrow. I hope he does.

Lana Mr Electric! That poor woman.

Springtime teach me - what are ctrlq and Tineye?

What are ctrlq and tineye????

Lunatic exp photos are shit he's really hot irl. And still a lunatic.

Exh posts either really dweeby pics or one from about 10 years ago eggnog he was still bodybuilding.

No irons but no apps fir me.

Thanks Been Lana Smeaton for your calming words!

I've calmed down now and I haven't sent any more messages. Maybe I just need to toughen up a bit and remember no one owes you a relationship.
I really liked the guy from last night but he is going through a divorce and he seemed a bit bruised by it all so it's quite possible he's just not in the right place right now.
Hey ho. I have another couple of "irons" who I am chatting to but I have a super hectic week so not going to be able to meet anyone for a while anyway. Counting my blessings, I have a lot to be thankful for in real life-friends, family and work.
Hope everyone else is ok

Tineye is an image reversal site where you can find if pictures have been lifted from google, for example. Can catch people out if they've stolen photos from somewhere. I think that's what it's for, I've used the site myself in the past if I have a gut feeling about someone's photos.

Ruby I think if someone doesn't message you within a hour after a first date then they are not interested. You messaged him to show you had a good time and are interested, he hasn't replied so forget him, if he was interested he would have messaged so after saying 'had a great time, hope to do it again soon....' . Move on to the next iron.

Chat with Mr Mountain went a bit quiet yesterday, we had been chatting loads but yesterday he was taking longer to reply and conversation was a bit boring so I went on POF and he was online so obviously talking to someone else (which is fine but I hate it when people take so long to reply because they are chatting to several people at once). I'm not going to bother messaging him today as I suspect he has lined up another date with someone else.

I hate that too Love. I tend to think if you get to swapping phone numbers then I take that as having slight priority over finding new people on POF. I like to kid myself though!

I had a nice chat with MrNurse last night although I do dislike the whole first chat thing as it's so stilted. We are meeting tomorrow night so we will see. He isn't my usual type but I'm pushing my boundaries