The sentence that ended your relationship

[OhHolyFuck]

Sort of a taat, but reading sosos grammar school thread and it got me to thinking

When ex-dp and I were 'trying' (i.e. I was doing the pick me dance/hysterical bonding and he was sexting everything with a pulse and lining up his next victim girlfriend) we had a conversation about celebrities we'd like to be

I said various people for their attributes and then he said he'd be Peter Pan - when I asked why he said 'because I don't ever want to grow up, it's boring isn't it?' and it was a 'scales falling from my eyes' moment - I had morphed into this boring responsible dowdy mum but thank god one of us had because he was simply never going to take responsibility for anything

Every letter he didn't take back to school that I'd had to fill out, every time he was late for work, every time he lived off microwave burgers and spent 20 hours a day gaming - it wasn't me, it was him looking to be forever 16

So what was yours?

Do you know your problem OnlyGodKnows why? You have too many fucking opinions.

This was in response to me asking if there might be any truth in a friend of his alleged assault on the son.

Although I stayed with him a while longer, it was that one sentence that killed our relationship. I had to walk on egg shells all the time as the slightest thing that wasn't supportive of his views and off he would go.

A text message.

Him: "I have something to tell you."
Me: "You got her pregnant didn't you?"
Him: "Yes."

Married for 6 years. I had fertility issues. He'd been having an affair with his best friends, girlfriends best friend all summer. I'd eventually asked him to move out, but we were supposed to be dating and working on the relationship. It was supposed to be all over between them. As it happened he was still sleeping with us both.

That was the end point.

TBF, we're both probably happier now. But she'll never know how much he fucked both of us other. And she's still a massive bitch who got involved in someone else's marriage knowing full well we were still married and together. I hope she thinks on it if it ever happens to her. And it still might well.

waves at Becca who is probably here

'Good luck finding a man who doesn't do it.' [cheat]

Will you stop fucking winging?! God thats all you fucking do. I'm fucking sick of it!

Him to me after I asked him to stop smoking dope in the house round his grand kids (he was a lot older than me) Strange thing is I didnt even have the energy to cry by this point. I just came back, got my shit n left.

"you look like shit" said by him to me, one dreary January evening.

Yup, that'll be because I was working FT, doing all the drop off and pick ups for our child, all the cooking and cleaning and shopping. Found out after how badly he'd managed the finances - left with nothing but a suitcase of clothing, my car and wedding ring to keep for our child.

i knew we had been dead in the water for 3 years by that point, so once the flick was switched, I carved out a new life. Happy now!

'Sometimes I'm embarrassed of you in public' apparently for being a little quiet compared to himself, the 'life and soul' of the party.

Diagnosis of social anxiety, on anti depressants at the time. Years of misery and unkindness prior, but that was the one that really woke me up. I remember thinking, wow, you're just not on my side are you? And realising I was stronger on my own.

I left him for a man who is better than him in every single way, it was most satisfying

"Isn't mummy useless....isn't mummy a waste of space"

Something similar to mine. I was painfully broody at the time, but no kids planned. One evening, he laughed nastily at me and said "that's not how you cook it, you stupid cunt"

I knew, if I had children with this man, he would be encouraging them to laugh at their mother and call her names and tell her how thick /fat/ ugly /stupid she is. And I knew no child deserves that childhood.

I'm so grateful for that lightbulb moment that got me out just in the nick of time. I'd endured PA, EA, SA, FA from him but it was that sentence - him being as affectionate as he was capable of being- during the honeymoon phase of the abuse cycle that showed me who he really was.

Mine started telling "funny" stories to our kids. Somehow I always looked stupid or lazy in these stories. I remember my five year old looking confused and saying "mummy doesn't do that." he still does it now if he gets the chance when he bothers to see them that is. He calls ds my "bodyguard" because ds won't join in with the "jokes".

MsGameandWatching your son sounds great! Takes after his mum and not his dad, clearly.

"I'm sorry"

Took him 2 years to finally apologise for being a violent c*nt. When he finally did it made me realise that an apology wouldn't cut it.

AnAirbourne.. - I wanted to apologise as I felt my comment was harsh. I was feeling frustrated that you were with a rotter, as well as feeling really low myself, but I should have been more understanding. I really hope you get out soon and make a happy life.

To our toddler "Isn't mummy a c**t".

Not long after "If you weren't so pathetic you'd have left me ages ago." After years of EA that really hit home. Utter contempt. I couldn't keep burying my head in the sand and hoping things would get better.

A big thank you to all the women who post about abusive relationships with such honesty and bravery. You have taught me a lot.

'Yes, I've slept with her'

It ended for me at that precise moment. I guess it ended for him several months earlier.

You wanted it really
You know you did

When ex fil told him 'you need to control your wife' and ex dh replied 'yes I know'.............because I told my friends ex had hurt his finger and didnt ring pil (despite them not having spoken to me for 3 years, them saying I was nothing and didn't exist in their eyes etc)

'No you aren't, you fucking whore'.

When I was literally in the process of miscarrying a 12 week pregnancy and he wouldn't stop shouting at me about something and I begged him to stop because I was losing a baby.

To my shame, it took me another nine years to leave but I'm almost free now.

'We can stay together if you want but we will never have sex and I don't see you like that any more but it's up to you'

Hmmm, let me see..

This was when I was 20

Spam reported.

On me telling him that I had dated the man he was friends with and that he'd raped me. "Well you were his girlfriend, so it's not rape"

Previous to that "I don't really like kissing you that much, only as foreplay"
Twat

'I'm pregnant'

'I don't love you. I don't even like you'.

Ouch!

'Why didn't you come home last night?'

'I bumped into *Dave (friend from uni) and we ended up playing pool for hours and I didn't realise the time'

*Dave's girlfriend had tagged him at the airport in Rome the previous evening.