How would you feel if your DP/DH had a takeaway for 1

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I am wrong to be hurt by this. After a stressful day DP announced he is going out for food. Comes back with a chinese takeway and sits in the lounge and stuffs his face. Then offers me leftovers err no thanks. He has in fact done this twice in the past week. To make matters worse he knows I am broke.

Selfish twat! Did he ask you before he went out if you'd eaten? Do you usually eat together? What did you say to him?

He is not your 'd'p he is a complete prick!

Do you live together?

I would pack my bags if someone did this even once. I couldn't live with someone that selfish.

I'd go bloody mental at the inconsiderate prick for not asking if I wanted anything/offering to get me something. If he offered, I said no or I'm ok etc. Then I'd have no issue.

The roast got incinerated by him and I had to turn oven off as kitchen black with smoke still sitting the now black and ruined "because I was not making anything else" he was going out for food. Yes we normally eat together as I do most of the cooking. We have been arguing alot. Yes we live tog, in fact this is my house.

Errrrr, tell him if he's not providing food, you're not providing lodgings!

He is being deliberately awful so you ask him to leave. Give him what he wants. Behaviour this shitty is not accidental. Sorry OP.

My DP would categorically never be so fucking selfish!! I'd honestly be rethinking my relationship if he ever was, it's indicative of a complete lack of care or concern for you in general imo.

So he burned the dinner and then went out and just got enough for himself? God, some of the men I've read about on MN are just fucking horrible.

twist do you really think so. He says he loves me but is being horrid. Found myself sitting in my car yesterday having a good cry because he was ranting and raving. In the end I got angry with my self for being so weak and went home. To more ranting and raving.

My well I did get offered left overs ( which he ate anyway)

Last week I ordered myself a chicken kebab and dp went and collected it for me (my dd works at the chippy and he was collecting her at the same time) dp did not want anything and was making something else.

That was honestly the worst kebab I've ever had, I just could not enjoy it through the guilt of dp not having anything. For your dp to sit there and eat it without even offering says a lot op.

It might be viewed as very petty but I would stop doing anything at all for this lodger. No cooking, cleaning, shopping, sex.

Either you are in a relationship where both of you support each other or he is a lodger where you charge him rent and bills and you live separately but under one roof.

Ps. My oh once ordered pizza whilst I was asleep. Didn't order me anything and I woke up as he snaffled the last slice of pizza. I'm not proud of how I acted as I think the words banshee and fury were appropriate. But who in hell does that? Very selfish.

Two things - he's mean and he doesn't like you. What other explanations can there be?

pandora lol. I know it does sound petty but hurtful none the less. I was too upset to eat anyway and know he would have ordered something I do not like. We had little upset on Saturday ( which of course was all my fault) . Thought we should just get on with the day, seems he has other ideas. This is not the first time he has done something like this.

No OP this is horrible. It's not just a takeaway, it's the fact that he doesn't care enough to get you something to eat. Definitely sounds like he's being an arse to force you to break up with him.

It would never happen in my house. Totally weird behaviour

I know this is a bit random but I watched "girl on the train last night" and you know the bit where it turns out the ex husband makes out she does terrible things when she is drunk, well think this is happening to me though obviously not so extreme. I am bemused and asked for an explanation ans he is just sporting nonsense.

spouting nonsense lol

That's really mean, and unbelievably selfish. Wtf? Our rule in general is if we don't have enough cash for everyone to get a takeaway, none of us get. My brother used to get a takeaway and bring it round and sit and munch it in front of the kids until after the third time I lost my shit and told him to either bring food for the bairns or not bring anything at all and to stink his own house out with his spicy food!

Turf him out.
He trashed what food you had, refused to fix it, and then went out to buy HIMSELF food but nothing for you?
Are you KIDDING me?

Get shot of him, please. He's foul.

Why would you put up with that?
Just why?

Kick him out! WTF is wrong with people like him, I cant imagine treating anyone this badly

He's abusive. Tell him to leave, and not to contact you again (outside of collecting his belongings, etc.)
He will not get nicer if you are more obedient. As PP have said, it's possible he wants out of the relationship but doesn't want to be the 'bad guy' who dumps you. Either way, there is no reason to put up with this behaviour.