#3 He IS having an affair

[worldupsidedown]

Ok, here we go for round #3 in which we know DH is having an affair, and does not give a flying fuckof 25 years inc 19 years of marriage or respect for his LW and DD and now we try to establish what the hell thinks he's going to do next and hopefully learn about the YOWHLTF while trying to keep a calm and dignified posture

Survivor - Beyonce
Don't stop me now - Queen
Shut up - Black Eyed Peas
Sisters are doing it for themselves - Eurythmics.
Anything by Alanis Morrisette.

Those were the songs I used to sing my little lungs out to in the car during my awful break up. Now when I hear any of them, I smile at how far I've come and how much happier I am without Twat in my life.

You definitely deserve a night for you op... very good.
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Aww sorry World what are the odds I feel bad for posting that link now! Hope you pamper yourself and get dolled up to the nines, the event sounds like a lovely thing to look forward to. The shirt wanker sounds like he's continuing to be an absolute prat just ignore and disengage as much as possible. It will annoy him the more nonchalant you appear, even if under the surface you don't feel it. At party/event again act like you don't even notice him and ideally if he is in your eyeline be suddenly engrossed in conversation with the nearest good looking man. Even if you are just asking "where is the ladies."

Eek spiders it is the season I've been freaked out by several past few days. Only thing worse than seeing a spider is when they suddenly disappear. Cue much - "Gaaah is it on me" angst.

Pink's So What! I'm still a rock star is uplifting

Ok, you're not technically a rock star,
but, World, you definitely ROCK !!!!

You are handling all this brilliantly.

It'll give you a

Unfortunately it's not to early for spiders. I had to remove a HUUUUUUGE monster from the bath earlier this week. Not sure if it's the recent wet weather coupled with a drop in overnight temperatures that has prompted them to come out of hiding earlier than usual.

I can recommend a spider catcher. You still have to deal with the horrors but at least at arm's length.

You know what they sayif you dont feel greatFake it!! that may well annoy the hell out of him as he may expect you to be in bits, but who cares!!

I couldn't get back to sleep until about 4, I was just dosing off when I heard a car in our drive and saw lights. Who'd be coming up our drive at that time, unless ExFDH had booked a taxi for the wrong day or something. Sneaked downstairs, my boy (dog) close by. I saw some lights in the lane. I didn't hear a stirring from FDH. I checked the camera, it was the the milk van! We don't have a milk delivery so he either got the wrong house or we've got a CF driver who thinks he can use our big drive to turn around - our lane is single track and dead end.

DH isn't coming to the party, this was always just for me, can't have him cramp my style can I!

I've found some excellent tracks on Fleetwood Mac's Rumours album, Dreams, he's ruined Chris Isaaks ' Wicked Game' for me for ever, he was strumming it that last weekend. Now I know why.

Last Goodbye by Jeff Buckley.

My face is so dry it's ridiculous, I've put moisturiser, oils, emollient. Fuck knows where they've been absorbed to!

And he wouldn't cramp your style even in if he was there because you are cool and you rock! Enjoy pampering yourself and the do itself. 😎

Try bodyshops shea body butter, smells awesome I use it every where it's really good on my sensitive skin too.

Could you book yourself a facial, if that 's something you'd enjoy?
Just be aware that becoming suddenly single seems to send out pheromones that men pick up on and your judgement may not be the best right now. I had various men (work colleagues, exDP's friend, a neighbour, washing machine repair man...) trying to 'console' me. I was truly astonished. One of my (entirely platonic) male friends likened it to being the wounded gazelle at the back of the herd which every predator in the district thinks will be easy prey!

In a slightly different genre, I used to find Basement Jaxx's Good Luck helpful when I was dumped by a fiancé back in the day. Also, the Queen song you need is 'Who needs you?'

world presume he hasn't got back to you re choosing mediator? Good decision choosing the one you would like.

Will you have to get cover for pets when you're overnight at your event?

OP your strength is unreal I hope that if this was to happen to me I can handle it like you!!!! Also Sell his ticket and pamper yourself some more!!! Xx

I've just hand written a letter to him asking him to pack all his things and leave when he goes to Athens and not to return. It's too upsetting for both of us with his presence, even if he's only in the spare room. Now deciding if to leave it on his bed or not.

If he has any conscience at all he should realise how upsetting it is for you and DD, respect your wishes and leave. Put the letter on his bed.

Staple it to the selfish idiots forehead!!! Or yeah go with your original plan and leave it on his bed lol.

Tape it to the door?

I think you're absolutely right. He can't continue living there and going off to her as though everyone is ok with it and accepting. Keep stressing how it's hurting everyone and as he's chosen to move forward to a new woman he needs to completely move on and out.

On his bed, and good luck.

Good for you. Time to take control

Done it, kept a 'photo' copy

Well done you.

One thought..... hope he doesn't play silly bu**s pack everything in his car and leave it there.

I hope he has the empathy to be able to think of yours and DD's feelings and to realise that he needs to move out asap.

My cheating exH (him if the no cheese spread) didn't move out for 3 months. I made damn sure I went out much more than him and didn't tell him where.

He saw fit to comment to me before one of my nights out that at least he was still wearing his wedding ring. My reply: well aren't you just the fucking Saint! Did you keep it on when you were shagging her too?