Is he having an affair #2

[worldupsidedown]

Continuing on from 'is he having an affair'

23:03 and still not home.

I also think you should meet him to talk somewhere away from the home. Then if you get upset you can just leave and not have to look at his stupid fucking face for the rest of the night.

What PsychedelicSheep said ^^

DD, me and BF just took dogs for a walk and BF had to catch a train home, he's off on holiday tomorrow- Athens!

DD doesn't want to talk to him or call daddy and more, just by his first name.

I need to text him back then write down questions

How do I record on my iPhone? I've never done it

1. Don't meet at home - you are giving him power by him arranging to talk when he wants and at the home he's basically shat on.
2. You are not 'waiting' for his plans - his plans are can we live as separated and everything else be the same. If he says he needs time, he's just carrying on and trying to shove it behind your back again.
3. It is entirely possible that she cancelled her weekend due to him telling her you found out, and they'll both go to the hotel he booked for you. You cannot believe what he says, OP, that surely must be obvious now.

I still get the sense you're hoping for a miracle and I desperately don't want that bastard abusing your loving and trusting gentleness any more. He doesn't deserve one cell of you. He will probably come up with some grey vague thing where he stays but separately while he works through his confused feelings. Translation: how can I drag it out because everything is exactly as I want it like this, what a drag having to discuss it.

I'm soooooo furious for you! And that other thread where there's an OW asking stuff and trying to justify herself!!! Omfg!

DD doesn't want to talk to him or call daddy and more, just by his first name.

I really hope he thinks this cheap (or rather, not so cheap) shag is worth it.

I despair of some men,truly!

I've got no sympathy for the MYOW but I'm sure he's spun her a line about how the marriage has been dead for years, no sex, only together for DC etc.

Utilities > voice memos > hit the red button

You need to talk without DD being around.
Is that possible?

I agree not to meet at home.
Well done for being so strong!

If you are going to record then put your phone on silent first. The red button does a distinctive beeeeeep.

And make sure the time starts or you'll be kicking yourself after

Am I going to a #3 thread?

We'll all follow you if you do start thread 3 op

I think you seem to be getting valuable support so that is a good idea.

this affair as been going on a while, he's had his ducks in a row for a while and checked out of the marriage long back.He had to make sure the affair was worth it before he'd give up what he's had.
Years???

That's kind of him to say he will get his own tea, does he think he's gonna get a text back
No it's okay I'll cook for us!!!!

By the way he's acting he's got no remorse
A text to his daughter, a text, wtf

Anything you want to know, now is your chance to ask, he will probably protect who she is etc.

I agree to not let him know about solicitor advice, keep this to yourself
Only.
Re CC , you don't want your name attached to anything where he can spend on it and you take half the cost. No way. Let him get his own
You get your own.

Take care of your daughter, her world as been turn upside down also. X

I agree with the recording, just so you can clarify things later on. Good luck tonight World, hope you keep us posted.

#3 he IS having an affair

Sorry I've not worked out how to do links

#3 He IS having an affair
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3002772-3-he-is-having-an-affair

New Fred

to record on an iphone 7, go to 'extras' then 'voice memes'. just press reed button.
Good Luck!
May be you need to be prepared to hear that OW has been around longer than you think? I wonder how old she actually is, but that's just me being really nosy

If he isn't home yet, take the time to write down what you want to know.
How longs has this been going on.
Remind him , you wanted to grow old together, have grandchild and laugh at when you were both got Zimmer frames in 20 years tme, great to remind him he is OLD...
Tell him that since he is moving on, then you need to split it all and he will have to pay for his own home and towards one for his daughter. So he is going to be very much poorer than he is now.
Tell him you would like him to GO.
Should he not go, you won't do anything for him, own shelf in fridge, please don't use your food, yes it's childish, but as he has decided he no longer wants you to be his wife, you have no need to enable his smooth running life, and he needs to take charge of his everyday needs.
Don't say anything about the creditcards, he will leave you a papertrail, that will be used against him, look on about 40k to pay if it gets bad and goes to the final settlement.
He is going to realize very soon 51 and starting again is hard, she will want to go out and do stuff, he will want the dogs, the slippers and the TV. This is not going to be as he thinks.

Yes - what do you want/need from this meeting?

No doubt he wants to make himself feel better about what he has done - share the blame etc.

What do you want to have by the end of the meeting?

Am I being dim - the first post on this thread is 5 Aug 2017 - confused.com? Or am I reading it wrong?!?? Sorry, maybe it's a continuation or something???....

On the 'original' #1 thread that is.