Is he having an affair #2

[worldupsidedown]

Continuing on from 'is he having an affair'

23:03 and still not home.

I concur, don't reply to his ridiculous texts.

Just ignore him..then ignore him again..and some more. Much more effective than sending angry texts back and showing you give a shit.

He hasn't actually realised what this all means for him has he? He still thinks that things are going to be how he dictated when he got found out. He thinks last night not having dinner made etc. is World being angry and upset and that things will settle down. Because he hasn't bothered to speak to World or even consider her at all, I reckon he thinks things will settle down and he can have his sad desperate older man new life and still have all the trimmings at home.

A jeweller can help cut the ring off (he ended the circle so it seems fitting to have it cut off lol)

Definitely don't do anything for him. Just text back saying 'Not my problem now, do it yourself. Sorry it hurts, it will get easier' 🤣

Love the way he says thank you for moving his stuff! He thinks you are setting up the new accommodation arrangements in your new role as housekeeper! Bless...

Face pack on, my skin is horrendously dry

I've not replied to his text. Freind just messaged me if I'm ok, if we spoke at all, I've sent her the texts.

Wills/Poa man is here at 10, I'll tell him what's happening and get his advice.

Presumably the pets are his too, so book yourself a break, pack leave and text 'if away, you'll need to feed the animals'

Simple!

Rub some soap around the ring and it should slide off. Next stop the jewellers and buy yourself a nice ring on his cc. Time to treat yourself or he is just going to spend the money on YOW! Show him how strong u r!!!

I wouldn't go away now. Stake ur claim on the house. Get a personal trainer. Start working on urself and focus all ur attention and anger on getting the right lawyer and getting as much money out of that patronising twat. Make him so uncomfortable in the house that he moves out! It must be painful seeing him so carefree and uncaring attitude whilst he is out having his cake and enjoying his midlife crisis.

Do everything methodically, behind the scenes, keeping your cards close to your chest. Anything he objects to, respond with: "I'm sorry it hurts."
You are doing marvellously, stay strong x

Freind wants me and DH to talk, suggested I ask to meet him at lunchtime

What strikes me is how unremorseful he is and patronising. You're doing so well, I would be screaming at him by now.

But you do need to make his life as uncomfortable as possible and quickly. He thinks he has it all worked out.

I'd focus on lawyer, finances (start getting cash back today) and filing for divorce as soon as possible. You need to unnerve him.

What happened with your H, Euphemia? I remember your threads.

Get the rings cut off, World, and if the stones are pretty or valuable have them reset. Turn something broken into something lovely just for you

Meet him to talk about what? He doesn't care, he doesn't want to save the relationship and neither do you. Friend is just trying to be nice without knowing the full situation. Do not text him asking to meet him!

If he wants to talk to you, he knows where you are!

I don't think you should be the one reaching out to talk.

Who is the friend?

You shouldn't have to instigate any conversation! Or partake in any conversation for that matter.

Not until you have legal advice.
What is there to talk about?
He's with another woman.
Does she know this?
Does she also know he's told you it will get easier?
The smug fuck!

OP don't meet him 'to talk'

WTF is there to talk about?

He's cheated on you and betrayed your trust.

He's not remorseful, he's arrogant and entitled.

What would talking it through achieve except give him the idea that you maybe want to work things out and take him back, hence putting him more in the comfort zone that he can keep his options open?

Keep your head and dignity in tact. Get rid of him asap, he's a leach. Your friend might mean well, but honestly do you want this prince of a husband in your life for another 25 years? You'd be forever thinking he's cheating again/be on edge.

It's a life sentence, not a marriage.

Pleased to hear it Euphemia

Is the friend the BM? Because his loyalties will be with DH I'm afraid. What can you possibly get out of talking part from further hurt?

Freind plus her DH we've known since early days 23 ys?, her DH worked for my DH. They are couple DD would go to if worst case scenario happened for DD & me

Straight washing up liquid should help get rings off