Is he having an affair #2

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Continuing on from 'is he having an affair'

23:03 and still not home.

As he spoke to you tonight?

Sorry you ate going through this OP.
I agree with the advice regarding the solicitor.
One thing I'm curious about, other posters are advising to get a 'shit hot London lawyer' - how does a SAHM afford one? My ex had one & it cost somewhere in the region of 50k.

No tiptoeing. Do some loud moving around stuff! Sod him!

My mate's boyfriend was an attractive man for his age, and an entertaining bloke. But he was OLD

Give it an Operation name, OP: Operation Reality (this is what you wanted, fucker) and occupy that clearly very intelligent and astute brain of yours to plan your future. The side effect of your better future without this pathetic man child predictable idiot will be, bit by bit he will notice the sheer enormity of what he's done. Little things do hurt - so these inconveniences will begin to bite. There's only so much takeaway you can eat. He's going to start having to build in time for washing/ironing etc. Sort out those credit cards! You need yo separate the money ASAP. Stop him frigging spending joint money on his fucking jollies.

MIL - don't moan to her. Leave her to contact you - if you initiate it'll go back to him that you're staying in touch and asking questions. She will back him, all the way, every day. Despite how wrong he is, she will back him. Your exterior is one that gives nothing away, underneath you will be paddling like mad and getting everything rolling, please. Hit him now and hit him hard. There's several links further back in this thread re. Lawyers, if no one has pmd look in those links.

You can do this! Xx

No, he's not made any effort to talk to me, perhaps check if I'm ok? Nope zilch

Many SHL will take a case based on the likely outcome for their client. So a client who currently has not very much but is likely to come out with a £££££ settelement is a good bet.

And it also depends on the case. If he can afford to be an asshole and keep batting back with objections and delaying tactics then it will cost more, but if he plays ball then it wont cost loads. Thats why I would advise the OP to get the divorce ball rolling asap, the guilt they feel soon wears off, so better to get the financials signed off while he is still feeling bad (and can spend the rest of his life claiming he got "taken to the cleaners" )

A good London lawyer will probably (almost certainly) be more expensive than a suburban hand-holding one, but the outcome is likely to be much better too for OP and DD. Often there's less toing and froing with them as well, so the costs don't rack up as much as you'd think. I've tried both, and I'd go for the shit-hot one every time. (And no, my costs were nowhere near £50K!)

OP - you did add 'for his age' to attractive - and you still love him.

I am sure that he is good looking - but he isn't honourable or trustworthy and he will seem ancient in so many little ways.

His actions suggest that he is a little insecure about his appearance in his present situation. There is probably a reason for that.

One word Twat comes to mind

That's what I'm saying, be in his face😊 Do not stay in the bedroom
Hold your head high, you have done nothing wrong.

C'mon, tell us about the new shirts! Trendy?

Akani - house dds never stayed in? It's her boyfriend. I'm sure she has spent plenty of time there, it's hardly farming her off to strangers

APTRO Men's 100% Cotton Floral Shirt Long Sleeve Flower Shirt #1902 L https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B017TSUGRW/ref=cmswwrcppapi_qt5IzbD7F0DFK

FUCKING HELL MY EYES

The shirt

Is he Doctor Sasha from Holby?

Holy shit that's hideous

It's seriously not him! I don't know if he's keeping it

Well, all I can say about the shirt is ..OMG and lol

Hold your head high. You and DD deserve better

OH DEAR GOD, MY EYES!!!!!!!!!!!! That shirt on its own would be quite the mid-life crisis.

As for why he hasn't appeared and asked how you are (shame on him - he is looking even less attractive ).

• Perhaps he expected an even better dinner than usual as you attempt to win him back?

• Perhaps it is the easy way to deal with the guilt he must be feeling. If he doesn't see you - he doesn't have to think about it.

Take back your house - if you can't sleep, sing/play music/watch films/cook. He doesn't deserve a huge amount of consideration and being unconfined will probably help you feel a little better.

You are not in disgrace - no need to hide away in a corner!

Let him catch up on sleep at other times and in other places.

I wonder if she chose it for him?

Leaving everything else aside, I'd probably ltb based on the shirt alone.

That shirt is fabric dad-dancing!

Well that clinches it. No way the young girlfriend is going to be seen dead with him wearing that!

Either she chose it or he got it into his head it would make him look younger? It's awful. I would never normally advocate cutting up a shirt but that one deserves it!