New employee annoying

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There's a woman started in our office 4 months ago. She is such a suck up it's unbearable. She works extra hours to 'keep on top' and hardly joins in conversation at work because she is really busy.

She does have a heavier workload than the other 2 women and myself - but boy does she know it.

When she first started we could have a bit of a laugh with her and she'd join in the banter. We take the mick out of each other. However she's started to say things like -'why are you calling me that' - (we call her pussy or flapperjack - just stuff like that).

She also pulled me up the other day - she was going on about some stuff she had to do when I told her to chill out. She said she was chilled and had she done something to offend me because I'd been off with her earlier. She HAD asked a stupid question earlier and tbh I'd been a bit obtuse when I didn't really answer her question.

I'm now getting worried that she's going to go to HR because we swear a lot in our office and I don't know if she's getting fed up with it.

How can I find out and what should I do.

If this isn't a reverse then how dare you?
She is trying to do her job. You are a disgusting bully

Also as a young person who is new to my industry I too would be trying to make a good impression ... bullying, entitled arseholes who are too comfortable in their roles ... like you... should be fired.

Also I am very able to take a joke .. quite simply you aren't funny.

Must admit not read all of the thread but you sound like a nasty bitch and a bully.

I am very happy I don't have to work with you. You need to learn how to behave professionaly.

Officr banter is sketchy territory.

I have similar banter (hate that word though) with a few people at work. It always takes olace away from others. Like if we are in a meeting that is just us. We know eachother really well and know the line.

However you dont just then extend that to somebody else. Especially someone new. They may feel they havevto go along with it to fit in.

She told you she doesnt like it. That doesnt make her weak. Telling you is actually a sign of her strength.

She has a bigger workload than you. So you may be able to hit deadlines it work time. But you dont do as much as her. She is willing to put in the time to make sure she handles her extra work.

She has only been there 4 months. When she has been there a year and has plenty of experience doing the job at you place of work. You may find she handles more work than you in the same time as you. Or takes on even more work.

You are threatened by her. Because she is showing more dedication and is more valuable to the business because she does more work.

Oh and its really easy to have benter with some people and not others. Thats bot difficult at all.

You are on your way to a grievance for work place bullying

I agree with the others, very unprofessional.

Bully's who hide behind 'banter', I hope she raises a complaint against you.

Calling a colleague 'Pussy' is obviously unacceptable, it's takes a special kind of idiot not to know that.

I would like you are crass and disgusting actually. Flapperjack is a really spiteful comment. You are really unprofessional and I hope she reports this.

I suspect that she has more work because she has demonstrated that she is capable, knows her role and has a strong work ethic, rather than the young slim pretty bitches who are too busy focusing on having a laugh at other's expense, pratting about, not getting their jobs done.

Plenty of people join in with banter in the first few days of a new role, to try to fit in, then rapidly realise that this is not something they want to be part of. You sound incredibly immature. I am glad you are taking steps to recognise this. Apologise to your colleague and speak to your other collaborator in this nastiness and tell her you will no longer be joining in with it.

OP you are in th wrong and only a pussy wouldn't have the guts to apologise for their mistakes. HTH