New employee annoying

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There's a woman started in our office 4 months ago. She is such a suck up it's unbearable. She works extra hours to 'keep on top' and hardly joins in conversation at work because she is really busy.

She does have a heavier workload than the other 2 women and myself - but boy does she know it.

When she first started we could have a bit of a laugh with her and she'd join in the banter. We take the mick out of each other. However she's started to say things like -'why are you calling me that' - (we call her pussy or flapperjack - just stuff like that).

She also pulled me up the other day - she was going on about some stuff she had to do when I told her to chill out. She said she was chilled and had she done something to offend me because I'd been off with her earlier. She HAD asked a stupid question earlier and tbh I'd been a bit obtuse when I didn't really answer her question.

I'm now getting worried that she's going to go to HR because we swear a lot in our office and I don't know if she's getting fed up with it.

How can I find out and what should I do.

You sound like a fucking nightmare.

Calling someone pussy is not bullying! I use it when someone asks a stupid question has no-one ever done that. It's just a joke.

No because it's bullying. You need to gain some self-awareness.
I've been bullied at work before and it was horrendous.
So what if she does extra hours, what business is it of yours?

I've heard her swear when she's messed up so she can't complain about that.

I just think she's a suck up and always so eager to please the bosses and is trying too hard.

It is annoying. I've been there for over 6 years and have always been highly thought of by my boss. I get my job done in time and meet all my deadlines.

Well you sound horrible

Are you 12 years old ??

Do you call your boss a Pussy?

You sound jealous. Grow up.

I just think she's a suck up and always so eager to please the bosses and is trying too hard. It is annoying. I've been there for over 6 years and have always been highly thought of by my boss. I get my job done in time and meet all my deadlines

Are you 12? A " suck up" ?? you can't be serious. Who says that about an adult. And why shouldn't she be eager to please. How can she try "too hard"?

So yes, I guess you're worried they will compare the two of you and find you sadly lacking and your behavuour unacceptable

I suggest you stop swearing,stop calling her names and focus on just doing what you're paid for.

I reckon she 'bantered' at the beginning to keep her job and fit in.

Now that she's been there a while she's decided not to put up with the utter cuntishness you describe.

Good for her. I'd tone it down if I were you or HR are going to be up your arse with a sticky stick.

God forbid employees should actually try to please their boss! Being called a pussy and then a wimp for saying that you don't like the name-calling sounds horrendous - I work in a massively masculine, banter-laden environment (in the City) but they are actually lovely people, always putting the hours in and helpful to people who ask questions: give me them over your lot any day!

If this is real (I actually can't believe people act like this) then I hope you have been reported to HR. You sound like a nasty bully.

That's not banter. It's bullying. Why don't you act more professional and stop getting in a strop if someone works later than you

I'm so fed up of stupid posts like this from utterly ridiculous posters

If there's any chance at all that you are for real OP, I'm surprised you're still employed. I would not want to work anywhere near you.

ugh, you are vile.

i really hope this isn't real and no one behaves like the op. What a horrible work environment to force someone to work in.

Ok if you think calling someone names is acceptable and not bullying, try calling someone from HR or one of your bosses it. See how long you keep your job for. Also, would you like a definition of bullying? You seem to have a complete lack of understanding on what it is.

I seriously have never ever considered myself a bully. But reading everyone's posts I should have a think about this.

As I said we have a lot of banter in our office. My friend in there is the same as me and I've never considered her to be a bully just someone who says it as it is.

"Banter" to you sounds pretty horrible to her. I'd be offended to be called pussy by a work colleague. You said yourself she was fun at first, now she's more involved in her job you're basically taunting her for trying hard. You are a bully. You need to wind your neck in.

Well you sound just just awful to work along side tbh. She sounds conscientious and perhaps she showing you all up?

It's clear from your posts that you feel threathed by this girl.

You sound like a bully. Everyone likes to impress when first in a job. Leave her alone and grow up. The name calling isn't you being funny, you know it and so does she.

If this isn't a reverse, then you have a problem.

How can you consider it acceptable to not only treat someone like this but to be pissed off with her?!!

She may well have joined it at first as she wanted to integrate. However, she's under no obligation to join in with this supposed 'banter' indefinitely.

You sound very intolerant.

Ergh! I hate it when people try to pass off vile bullying behaviour as being 'banter'.
You sound like a child.

I hope she does go to HR, and I hope you and your colleagues get royally fucked.

I'm sure the bullies when I was at school would have said it was banter also. I'm no expert but the MH issues that they've contributed towards, to me shows it wasn't

If you called me a 'pussy' at work you'd be more worried about your job than mine.. totally twatish and bullying language and behaviour and I'm appalled that you as an alleged professional' hasn't worked this out for themselves. Twat twat twat..