Anyone left their DP/DH knowing it was for the best but still being in love with them?

[Ifonlyhewould]

How did you get through it? Was it really for the best?

Thank you so much gtimama, that was a very brave thing to do, leave like that. Im so pleased things are getting better for you. I actually feel some relief just at the thought of leaving. That last line of yours 'if you decide to stay' sent me into panic no, i'm not going to stay. You know, to be honest,after a lot of thinking, i'm not even sure if he would want me to stay. he seems to resent my even breathing most of the time. Maybe he is pushing me to leave. Not going to tell him my plans just yet though, just in case!

Ooh MLS. I would LOVE that! now that IS something to aim for!
I am feeling as though i am coming out of a black hole but i started taking AD's at the weekend so might have to give credit to them Ive had them 'in stock' a while but never dared take them. Gosh, the way i feel toady i wish i had taken them years ago!!

melminx - forgive me for this but i couldn't belt him so...... i spat in his sandwich!! Gosh that is so awful! But he had been particulary awful to me at the time and i just couldnt help myself. I got quite a kick out of it the next day thinking about him eating his ham and branston sandwich.

ROFL at his 'ham and branston sandwich' - good for you!

Ifonlyhewould - sorry if I sent you into panic, but having been through this myself I know that sometimes other people give their advice and you act upon it, but in the end it is only you who knows exactly what it is that you are going through and it is only you that can make a life changing decision for both yourself and your daughter. I just meant that if you were to decide that leaving is too scary then no-one else that has offered their advice has the right to judge your decision. I just wish you all the best in whatever decision you make. (not very good at putting my thoughts into words - sorry).

You could use this one too - a friend of mine washed out the toilet bowl with her DH's toothbrush then put it back in the beaker and waited for evening. She said she had a good laugh at his expense when he brushed his teeth that night.

No apologises necessary gtimama, everything you said is perfectly true and so right and you seem perfectly good with words to me so don't put yourself down

I like the toothbrush one, thats great. I haven't been brave enough to do anything else since the 'sandwich' episode but thats one i shall certainly bear in mind

P.M.S.L

at the spit in the sandwich!

That is CLASS

I was just wondering what would happen if i slipped a cupple of these pills in his tea. He might actually smile!!

i mean couple of course

love the sandwich thing!! i had to hit him and kick him and even hit him again because he was drunk but he looked me up and down and said you wonder why i left look at the state of you and i instantly turned in xena warrior princess and smacked the grin off his face!! . i wish you all the luck in the world iohw. stay strong and keep smiling we are all here for you x

what about a laxative or 20 instead?! thats wicked!

IOHW - do it, dare ya!

Melminx - I understand where you're coming from totally but in all seriousness I hope that violence is no longer a feature of your rship. Please don't think I'm judging you at all, am really just worried for you...

cc no not at all was just amoment of intense anger had been looking for him for 5 weeks found him saw the guttertramp heard those words and lost the plot temporarily!

Oh Melminx - don't be - was only a bit worried for you if it's ongoing. We've all been there honestly! sounds like he deserved it a teeny bit!

i am seriously contemplating the use of long life milk. It gives him serious tummy troubles IYKWIM.

A cup of tea with long life just befor he embarks on a long motorway journey would be the best!!

lol @ men if only they knew! [grins]

i know. We really do over estimate them don't we. Trouble is, we going into relationships assuming they are as bright and clever as us - BIG MISTAKE!!

IOHW only just come across your thread. think you have been given loads of amazing advice. Just wanted to send you some hugs and the strength to follow this through .x

Thank you lilyloo, thats really nice of you
I am on a mission to see things through now - NO RETREAT NO SURRENDER!!! (as they say in the SAS)

men clever? no way thick as 2 v short planks but we are daft enough to put up with them!

sas? save our sisters?

Ah yes melminx but we only put up with them for so long so we are not as daft for as long as they are thick!!

too true!

mmmmm food for thought there iohw. Hope you still feeling strong today.