Hello ladies
You Ginnedupmummy are doing fantastically well! I am sooooo proud of you and yes, everything you say makes sense. I would say that you plans for leaving are your bolt hole, you need those plans to see you through, they are your option. You may never use them but they are there for you all the same. At the moment they are part of your coping mechanism.
Im sure that as you go from strength to strength your DH will see the difference in you. It may be noticing this difference that brings him to his senses.
You seem to have a really good system with your friends, thats great
And i meant it, I do fall asleep thinking of you all I feel ive got it pretty good at the moment compared to others. I wish I could do more to help xx
Hi Lily
Im doing ok thank you. Im keeping up the 'technique' and its still working, little things are happening that probably won't mean mch to anyone else but mean a great deal to me. In fact, I have just this minute had a text from him to say he won't need a big tea as he is out for lunch. Now, not only does he not usually tell me these things, he just leaves most of his tea, but he even put a little 'x' at the end of his text!! Its made my bloody day!!