Anyone left their DP/DH knowing it was for the best but still being in love with them?

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How did you get through it? Was it really for the best?

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Thats brilliant news Ginnedupmummy

We seem to be going through a lot of the same at the moment. I'm of he same wary feeling as you so I too am still keeping my guard up, not in a horrible way but one thats just not letting him get too close to me IYKWIM. I too think its making him work harder. I'm also beginning to think he must love me and care about what happens to us otherwise he wouldn't be trying at all. It might sound strange but I am enjoying things at the moment. Its like reading a book of stories with a little bit of happiness at the turn of every page. By the time i finish the book.... who knows here's hoping anyway!

Well done on the job too, thats more great news!!
Don't you go spoiling him too much after his op. As long as he is clean and fed thats all that matters, you don't have to go the whole hog

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I think it's more a case of 'keeping you sane' when you come on here rather than a guilty secret

Just think of the revenge you can get whilst he is laid up, you could really make him beg

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Did anyone see NIP/TUCK last night? That poor lady that spent that long sat on the sofa she fused to it.
Well, I think it's happening to me

Her vice was food, my vice is MN/MSN!!!

IOHW - I still haven't got your email

I have signed up on the MSN thingy but am feeling a bit shy about posting pics - persuade me why it's a good idea again...

Hi Cashncarry - post the pics!!!!

I have enquired with my provider about the emails, apparantly they are hving technical difficulties and my emails are either arrivng late or not at all!! They have asked me to be patient

I hope all is still wll with you cash, i will get the blooming emails to you one way or another!!

Good Morning Ladies

I hope today finds you all well and happy(ish). Got a HUGE pile or ironing and other chores so won't be around much today. Have a lovely day xx

CNC post the pics!!!

Hi everyone,

Sorry I haven't been online much in the last week - been playing doctors & nurses with dp as he had his hernia op last Tuesday. He's doing pretty well a week later, but still in occasional pain, which is a bit worrying as he has a job next Monday and we sure need the money (his one-day job doing a corporate role playing thing pays as much as I earn in three days!!!!) GUM, hope your dh's op goes well. The good thing is, they can't drink before or after . Mine managed to keep off the booze whilst necessary, but he's on a bottle a night now - still, it's better than the previous 2 bottles . Well done you for your attitude. I've tried it myself after our major row some weeks ago, and it certainly works better than being furious.

IOHW, your freezer saga has certainly made me laugh, espec as we're fans of Desperate Housewives. Next time dp annoys me, I may refer him to that episode & hint that I know someone who may have freezer space (though it sounds like you're pretty booked up already )!

Mel, how are you?
Sorry, have to go back to work - too busy to MN as much as I'd like!

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IOHW you can make a fortune you know with all these sidelines writing a book now too who knows what's next. Our resident J.K I.O.H.W Butcher Rowling
Evening everyone else hope alls well you sound like you are doing all you can r/e the drinking.
I am so cross at work someone has used there lap tops innapropriately, i work in a school, so major clamp down and no more mnet at work. God how am i going to cope with stroppy teenagers alllll day

Hi Lily, yes indeed, is there no end to my talents!!

Thats a shame about the computers, that means we have lost both you and cashncarry during the day now
It's getting very quiet around here. We will have to think of a way to liven it up a bit

Hoe about a 'live' mince !

Halloooo (echo noises) .... where is everyone? I sat down at the computer (groan backache noises) with a glass of wine, having spent the afternoon reseeding the lawn, and there's nobody out there . Oh well, might as well go and see how dp is - he's just broken an imaginary egg on my head (do they ever grow up?). Still bleeding - a nurse friend says it's because they kick them out of hospital these days without a drain, but he was quite frightened by the mess. Hope he's up to work on Monday as he's still hobbling slightly. We sat up all last night watching 'Fanny and Alexandra' last night - tired this morning,but it was like the old courting days...

Hope all of you are ok despite the crappy weather. At least the rain will water my new lawn seeds.

hi all trying to catch up with everyones news! Iohw i am so so pleased things are looking brighter for you you have been so amazing for everyone else,its wonderful to know its all looking brighter for you.

Tanee hi how are you how is dh? hernias are ouch had mine while pregnant with dd3 didnt help she was a fat lump!! lol

dh just came in to the office with a " your obsessed with that now dont forget you have a husband" As if with all the whinging they do!!!

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Ginnedup - sorry about the delay - what a bummer! They get all hyped up ready for it and then to be let down at the last moment... Hope he won't have to wait the full 20 weeks as that must be really painful.

Mel, I'm fine at present. Dp is so greatful for me looking after him that he's being really sweet. I've never had a hernia - wow, you had all that AND a pregnancy . My mum had one when she was 18 in 1942 - because of the war, they'd run out of chloroform and she had to have it done under a local anaesthetic !!! They invited her to watch it in a mirror, but she declined . My dad had TWO hernia ops in the early 70s because the first went wrong. With that family background I'm surprised I've avoided it!

IOHW, how are you? You give such wonderful advice to everyone else.

Do you think these poor men get jealous of us on MN? DP accused me of being obsessed - but in a nice way - if they only knew that it's MNetting that keeps us from taking an axe to their heads....

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Hi Guys

I popped on yesterday but i missed this thread, i didn't realise you had ressurected it

GUM I'm so sorry he has let you down BUT don't let that affect you, don't let his moods drag you down, this is where you have to exerise all that strength and control and whatever else it takes to get yourself through this. It will work in that it will give you the 'space' you need while you bide your time. If all else fails, give him a mahoosive kick in the knee Keep smiling sweetie xx

Hi Mel

Thank you for your lovely words Things are working out really well here at the moment. I am feeling really happy but i'm not giving DP credit for that I'm happy because I am happy with me, I'm still focussing on myself and dd in the main and it's working well. In fact, we have just booked a holiday at DP's suggestion!!!
I think he must be liking the happier me too

Next time your DH needs to remind you that you have a husband too, you tell him thats why you come on here.... to forget! xx

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I'm glad you are thinking positive!
Its great to read your posts these days, i can 'see' a definate change in you. You just keep up the good work!!!
You have fab kids, fab family and, you have you!! Sod him!

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oh ginnedupmummy how [saad] must you feel. Why can't he see what damage he is doing ?
Bummer about the op can't believe he may have to wait 20 weeks!
IOHW how are things ?
Think they find a group of women supporting each other very threatening as we all might just realise they are surplus to requirements