Mystery WhatsApp conversation

[Foundwantingalways]

My DP has been acting very very secretive with his phone, I have no other reason to suspect him of anything but the fact that he has been really weird over it and won't even leave it charging in my presence got me wondering. I have his phone password, he doesn't know. I've just checked it quickly while he was in the shower and there's a short message on WhatsApp, clearly only the latest fragment of a conversation, with a number saved in the name ' new'. There's a picture of a baby in their profile pic. There's nothing overly awful about the conversation but he's signed off a few messages with a kiss... This is not like him. One of the messages says 'night x' and before that one says. 'I always want to see pics x'. Now this could be innocent but I don't know of anyone, family or friends, who he'd be willing to send messages with a kiss to? I didn't know how to screenshot but I have managed to scribble down the mobile number. I really want to call it, but I just don't know how to go about it. I was thinking of maybe giving a different name and saying I'm from the local water board and need to speak to xyz, and see if I can get a name that way? I'm shaking. I cannot believe he's having an affair, he's keen for another baby and we're undergoing fertility tests at the moment, I'm so hoping it's not that but why be so secretive, and why isn't there a name on the WhatsApp contact? Any thoughts on my next move? He's on Android and is tech savvy so I don't have a tracking app or anything.

I hope work goes okay today, OP.

Piss in his cup of tea.

Early days for you, still getting over the shock of it all. But later you will endlessly ask yourself why, why did it happen. You can save your self a lot of time by just realising the reason why is that your soon to be ex is a piece of shit and she is no better. That's why - nothing to do with you. All about them and their weakness of character. Take care.

Thinking of you today OP.

I have to brave work tomorrow, he will be there but hopefully will stay the hell away from me. I'm sure the gossip has got around by now though so I'm bracing for looks and comments.

9 our of 10 people will be slagging him off, no you. Hold your head high - you've done nothing wrong.

Thinking of u today op

Found sorry for everything you are going through but just found this on the government website

You can take a child abroad for 28 days without getting permission if a child arrangement order says the child must live with you, unless a court order says you can’t.

Sending you massive hugs. Hope work isn't too difficult for you today

*Piss in his cup of tea
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This. With bells on.

OP, I'm so sorry. He sounds like an absolutely scum bag, chin up, one day at a time 😘

I've read through this thread from start to finish and I'm so sorry that your suspicions were confirmed. 15 months! What a cunt.

Hope it goes as well as can do today op

How's work going op? Is the arse wipe in?

Read your thread, you are brilliant. Hope he behaves like a human at work! Strength!

I bet one of your colleagues has already pissed in his tea

NOBODY, but nobody, is going to blame or look down on the poor woman who's been cheated on. It's alllllll going to go the other way.

Hope your day at work is going OK

I really hope he gets dumped by OW, he doesn't deserve to be treated well

Op so sorry to read this, hoping work is going as well as can bed today & that dp stays away!

Sending you strength and empowerment and kindness to you OP

Hope work was okay today and that he kept his distance

My husband did this. I fannied about and 16 months, we're still not divorced, and we battling about the finances.

Strike while the iron is hot. Get him out of your life and take him to the cleaners before he comes up for air.

Good luck, OP. He's a bastard. I wish I'd handled it as well as you are.

something intrigues me, your name, foundwantingalways is that something to do with him ?

Thanks all, work was OK today, as good as could be expected. Managed to get away with only a small blub on my friend's shoulder! I have decided not to 📍 the surname change. As much as I hate him right now, my dds surname is part of her identity and I can't mess that up for her. If she wants to change it in time then she can make that choice. Other than that things aren't much different, he's still at the apologetic stage but has admitted that he wouldn't have ended things with her by choice. This has just fuelled my icy cold rage, it's helping me to focus and not get misty eyed over his declarations of love. I don't even know if he knows what's going on in his head.

Not sure what that icon is!

And lol at pissing in his tea! Wishing I had thought of that before he left

Well done, you sound so calm

I think I'm still in shock! The repercussions, I just can't think about what's coming and the enormity of it all without crying, but I'm riding the anger at the moment and attempting to sort out bits at a time. He's promised to continue paying the mortgage until things can be sorted, I am hoping he is telling the truth on that but I can't trust him, I don't know him any more. So am trying to work out the basics at the moment. His family are already pushing for access, I've told them I'm going to sort it out with a solicitor but I won't try to stop reasonable access. I don't know what else they are expecting!