Quootie this is ludricrous.
Hdiappears leaving his wife and child (for the umteenth time), his wife is beside herself and wants thier son taken into care and is suicidal.
and you are promising him things to amke him happy??
Why did he not return immediately when he knew the state you were in? when you couldn't cope with DS?
Why are you not asking yourself these questions?
What has he promised you to make up for his beahviour (if anything could)
You are being a doormat and he will continue to wipe his feet on you.
His text saying he loved you, is part of the abuse. Treat you like shit, but give you just enough occasional affection to keep you hoping and hanging on.
I cannot imagine what has happened to you in your life that would make you think that this is Ok, normal or acceptable. It's none of these.
It's abusive, destructive, manipulative and down right nasty.
I think he needs help, I think you need help and I think you need to be separate from each other for a good long while if not forever.
I feel so sad for your DS that you are putting hin through this instead of putting him first.
You are staying because you are scared, not because it's best for DS. It is the worst decision for DS.
I'm sorry Quootie, I know this is harsh and that essentially you are a good person, but as I said before, how bad does it have to be?
What are you waiting for to happen before you will take back the control? I'm frightened to imagine.
What could be worse than sking to have your son taken away?
get mad with yourself, for allowing this, get angry with him. Decide to be a strong person.