Serial Leaver - Left Again. What Do I Do???

[Quootiepie]

My (D)H has left AGAIN. Woke up this morning to find no sign of him and bankcard infront of PC. Wasn't until I went downstairs later on I saw he had posted his key through the letterbox. He left on Monday (I think) until Wednesday night, when I went in the middle of the night to beg for him back at his mums. He had just dumped shopping inside the door, and zoomed off again, me running barefoot in dressing gown trying to chase his car . Previous to that, about 2 weeks ago he left, and just dumped milk for DS through the catflap as he had left him with nothing, although by the time someone had to come and bring me milk. He promises over and over again he wont do it anymore, last night we were totally fine and yet this morning he left. I am not independant at all, and this constant kicking me back down is just too much. What on earth can I do? I dont know even what I mean by that. THe crisis team are coming sometime this evening, and I have thought about getting DS put into care because I really cannot cope another night jumping at every noise, checking the hall for notes or supplies, and just general whatsthefuckingpoint-ness. I do still love him, when he is OK he really is totally fine, realises his mistakes, but... I cant cope with this. I really cant.

Oh no, a broken TV is a bit of a disaster! That goodness your PC is ok!
Sorry I can't help more with the practical things, but our furniture is being split two ways.
I do have a few little boys bits in an age 12 months though (know I have a Paul Smith T shirt & some immaculate shoes which were hardly worn in a size 5F), which you are very welcome to! Did give lots of DS's bits to friends though, so I don't have loads.

Is sky - will try and fiddle later, at least it's keeping me doing housework! Thanks for the offers, I do need to buy him shoes but he has not been measured yet x

Was it C4 - if so same problem here, turn off and on and leave for now.

Was biography channel

eh whats that then

Just unplug sky box and it should reboot when you plug back in. GTG now dd2 up from nap. Going to enjoy the sunshine.

You seem strong today QP, hope you stay that way.
((((HUGS))))))

Me too. I have to go. DH just rung asking where we were, is that the time, oops

I agree, you are strong today. Which is brilliant.

Big hugs {{{{hugs}}}}}

and one for ds {hug}

See you later. You going out to the slide/swings with ds today.

Well if any of them are any good to you, you would actually be doing me a favour because I need to de clutter!
I have Clarks shoes in a 5, 5.5 & 6.5 (all F fittings), which are all in great condition as he was barely walking at the time he was in a size 5. I also have some Baby Gap red suede dessert boots which are a US size 5, so a UK size 4/4.5. They were only worn are a couple of times.
If any of them are any good to you, you are very welcome to them!

Am off out to take the boys around to my parents house for my sins! Will check how you are later. Hope you have as good a day as possible. At least the suns out - that always helps!

quootie

glad to see you are getting and not

that man is best of out of your life....

use the anger, get motivated, and get thing sorted

get on the phone to the bank and get a new card for your account, someone else can hold DS for the jabs, i;ve done it at baby clinic before now when mums have been upset !!

if you have red letters, and they are in his name, then that is his problem , not yours, let them come after him for the money

if he can afford a £500 phone, but not his bills, just further proof of his immaturity...

stay with the anger, and use it to push forward !

go on !! you can do this, you seem so different from the other night, so much more positive already !

QP if the bills are in his name then redirect them to his mothers or where ever else he,s staying, with regards the ground rent, exactly the same thing happened to me when DH1 left me, i phoned them up and they let me pay it in installments.

As someone else said before about lists. i made a list of everything that was bothering me, then i put it into 2 columns, the urgent and the not so urgent and i dealt with it that way.

You sound soo much better today and cheese on toast for DS, brilliant!!!

qp try freecycle for a washing machine too if it is broken. people quite often put them on mine as most would usually just dump them in the tip when they get a new one.

Heard from H, he is on holiday with his cousin at his aunts, could hear seagulls in the background He must be having a wonderful time carefree in the sun, long lie ins, BBQs and what not

he is a bit of a b***d! he went on holiday without his son? dont cancel your bank card report it stolen so if he uses it he gets arrested, its in your name isnt it?

so, his mum must have rung there, and no one bothered to tell me. They let me just rot. MIL knew from SS the trouble I was going through. FOund the reason H left, so will be changing my name on here I think (it was from a MSN convo but if he is doing that he might look for MN convos too) If you spot me, don't say anything

unless I can delete history from AOL, which I have never found out how to do.

what's the reason?

would it not be wasting police time to report it stolen and then they arrest him to found out it was not illegally used? or is it only in your name and not both of your names?

the reason he left is because he is a selfish, immature prick, who cannot take responsibility for his own life, never mind being able to love a wife and child......don't be sad, stay with the anger , and keep drawing on that for your strength and determination

Quootie, you know Lulumama is speaking a lot of sense.
Sending you lots of positive vibes to get through this tough time.
It will get better.

why does he have your card? did he just take it? cos then you should report it stolen. have you checked your bank statement? has he been using it?

Well, H is back wednesday (he says). Crisis team have just been out. Be ok with this name until wednesday I guess, no matter what happens.

He has gone on a bloody holiday
Love get yourself some self respect and tell the fuckwit NEVER to come near you again.

He's gone on holiday!!! What a total t*sser!

i'd chuck his stuff in the nearest skip, say my card had been lost to get anew one, or close the account down and open another one

he took your bankcard to go on holiday and left you with nothing to feed yourselves with

how charming he is, such a catch

What do you mean 'he says he'll be back???'

Not back to you I hope? Tell him that quite clearly. let him know you're getting the ball rolling re the finances and he will need to arrange contact with DS if he wants it, at a time convenient to you.

Quootie he really is the most immature selfish sort of man to behave like this, and you msut not have him in your life making you feel like you're nothing.

You are something special.

Keep strong. Sounds like you're making a good start, and remeber it is just a start. Slowly it will get better abd better.

don;t think i have ever agreed with kimi before ! but what kimi said !!

he is an idle, spinless sod, i have never got so angry on someone elses behalf, than when i read about what H does, he is such a !(($&&$(