The Dating Thread 119 | Summer days, drifting away...

[pringlecat]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.

7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.

1. If it's not fun, stop.
2. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

Question.. would you let someone pick you up for a first date? 🤔

No I would need to at least cyber stalk know more before accepting a lift. Date two in daylight I have accepted a short lift and nore, but not first date.

Vodkalovesme Hell, no. Unless the date is a friend from real life who I've known for years and who I know is definitely not going to attack and murder me.

have just caught up with the thread. pringle cant believe you've ruled out both irons now heyho, if it isnt right..

i have a date with Mr Gym tomorrow (i think, still waiting for him to text where/when). just to refresh, ive seen him around my gym for a few months and thought phwoar and then he popped up on tinder last week. he said he didnt recognise me though.

im nervous, hes definitely out of my league. i almost dont want to go because theres little chance of him fancying me IRL. also dont know what to wear, how to do my make up, hair etc. help!

esk1mo I'm just not feeling it. The Spaniard has chased and I'll probably reply and fob him off out of guilt. Mr PT hasn't messaged me in a few days after previously messaging me all the time. Maybe he's cottoned onto the fact I'm not an easy shag and moved on. Quite likely given he's been online a lot so have I.

How representative are your Tinder profile pics? And how is your hair and make up in them? I think that's your starting point. You want to look like you but on a good day when it comes to a first date.

Tinder is going much better. Clients on there too but I just swipe them away. Lots of matches and messages and less weirdos

I think my Tinder photos were OK. The best of the ones of me on Facebook. I don't wear much make up anyway so they are all fairly natural.

fedup I haven't got make up on in any of my photos, I rarely wear it, if I do it's just foundation to cover up a spot. I don't have much luck from Tinder mainly because there's no one local too me, I get loads of matches but then turns out they are 100 miles away.

Mr Surf isn't doing well at scoring points, I think he's trying but has just messed things up by saying 'he has baggage too' comparing me having kids to him having no friends that live far away. I wrote back to inform him that my kids are not baggage. He has friends that live far away and seems to think this means he has to use his weekends to visit them, it's hardly the same as me having children? He has a choice of he visits friends, I don't have a choice as to wether I look after my children. He wrote back a long message trying to fix what he just wrote by telling me how great I am supporting my kids with little help . I'm not getting my hopes up for fridays date, chances are he will mess up.

I go on holiday next Monday so if things don't go well with Mr Surf at least I can go off and enjoy myself and take a break from the OLD thing.

Sorry LanaDR meant to type Pringlecat and then got distracted at work! I bet loads of PTs would be happy to date you, you sound lovely!

Pringlecat dumb and sweet can only carry you so far so I can see why you can't be bothered to carry it on especially if he is giving the impression he just wants to get laid. I would feel the same about the Spaniard, I will only date tall guys as im tall myself, just feels weird otherwise. Dating is hard, its a lot of effort!

esk1mo good luck with tonight's date with Mr Gym. Don't think he is out of your league, he has chosen to go on a date with you based on your photos so he knows what you look like. Go along and be confident. At least you know you fancy him in person which is a very good start. Let us know how it goes.

Lovemusic Bad choice of words from Mr Surf, how can he compare seeing friends at the weekend with you having children? I can see why you took offence. He's really not doing himself any favours lately! Fingers crossed he redeems himself on Friday.

lovemusic in what world are either of those things baggage? hopefully he was kidding, did he say it in a joking tone?

thank you earthangel and pringle but...he cancelled! said he has been ill this week, which im inclined to believe as his friend has been at the gym alone. but still, havent replied and shall make him sweat. he asked if im free this weekend/next week.

got my nails are hair did for nothin'

*nails and hair!!

Hey everyone, anybody got any tips for not emotionally over investing, finding this bit very hard! Had one date, possibility of date two on the horizon!

This seems apt

Oh @Bant that's made me laugh!

esk1mo I don't know if he was joking, he has sent me a couple messages since saying how brilliant I am and how I deserve some tlc , Friday will be his last chance.

Bant I love it, spot on x

Hi all, enjoying the first flush of tinder . Few potential irons.

LoveBant post it's so true!

And on that note...

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Having said that, just back from Date1 with Mr Bike! It was good, except I wasn't my normal self; was horribly nervous! I don't recall that ever happening. Not to that extent at least. I kept telling myself to chill, and that it didn't matter what he thought. But I was a bumbling wreck

He was chatty, nice, very hot. But the minute I saw him I guess I judged him; that based on his physique he wouldn't be attracted to me. I'm okay with my body but I know it's not everyone's type. I guess I have this assumption that his 'type' wouldn't find me attractive.

Gah.

However, he did appear to be attracted to me. And he's said some lovely things to me since I got home. And we have date 2 booked. So we'll see what happens next...

So true, Bant and anothernew.

Glad you had a good first date with Mr Bike, anothernew. When is Date 2?

Saturday!

If I do ever get the urge to go fishing again I'll state my dress size and put a full length pic up. To avoid feeling like that again horses for courses and all that

Oh. And he's about same height as me. Which I never really thought too much about, and I can't say it put me off, but it was different!

Oh. And Mr Buff slightly reappeared, didn't he. Still not sure what to make of that.

Pringle I feel your pain. Except I don't have a holiday booked. I want to say it's not impossible. You are the prize and all that. Hang on for that right combination...

Thank you Smeaton That is exactly what I needed reminding of!

Dravens I can't give tips for over investing. I know in theory it's not good. However, I'm an optimist, and proud. And it's got me in some sticky situations at times. But, I think, if you're paying attention and looking for warning signs, and things are still looking up, why not get excited! Life is short etc. This thing may not last forever, but it could be a wonderful experience. Have your boundaries, know when to let go if you need to, and enjoy it.

Thank you @anothernew you are absolutely right and that really helped me! Over analyzing has always been a problem for me, but actually going to try and just go with it! Good luck for date number 2! And thank you and @bant for the quotes, they are so on the money! Currently have two irons, so options open as they say!