Mystery earrings

[MarilynMonsoon]

Not sure where else to get advice for this.

DP works away sometimes, we've not had trust issues before and I'm usually happy to wave him off. He was in a hotel for two night midweek this week and nothing out of the ordinary behaviour wise prior to that.

Was going through some of his packing to tidy up/sort laundry - not snooping I have to add, I've never felt he might be doing anything behind my back, but in his wash bag I found a pair of earrings that aren't mine. They are not a gift because I don't have pierced ears.

Since his return he's been affectionate and normal if a bit glued to his phone, but he does a lot of work on it so again not out of the ordinary.

I feel really confused, I've never had a reason not to trust him but I can't shake the sight of those earrings. Returned them to bag but took a pic on my phone. What do I do?

He sounds like a Grade One Cunt. You will recover. You deserve better.

Oh you poor thing, what a bastard. Did he even say sorry amongst all those lies and horrible things he threw at you??

I'm so sorry, What a hideous excuse of a man to say those things to you.

Cunt will find out how challenging I am tomorrow morning

Yes he said 'sorry, but' which fuckingsory at all imo

If you have ajoint bank account don't wait until tomorrow morning.

What a total cunt he is Marilyn, and such a blow for you when you thought everything was going well, you didn't even have any time to prepare.

I haven't read everyone's posts so this might have been said before but don't swallow any of the bollocks he's throwing at you trying to make it your fucking fault - the cheeky bastard!

'He said she was so challenging and interesting and that I was boring'

'Thing he threw at me as he left was we wanted a baby but I can't conceive so he couldn't help his urges with this younger woman'

He's trying to minimise his betrayal of you. You don't have to accept any responsibility for the appalling way he's treated you.

He's an adult and made each choice 100% on his own. He chose to do this to you and you didn't deserve any of it.

Be strong pet, be kind to yourself and ask for/accept all the support you can get your hands on from the amazing people you no doubt will have around you. They'll want to give it to you to try to take some of that pain away. Let them

Have called a couple of trusted friends one is on her way over

I hope his knob rots and falls off.

What a cunt. He was punching above his weight with you, trust me.

If he does find some unfortunate woman to impregnate, she will be tethered to this arsewipe for the rest of her life.

Hopefully, all of womankind will collectively kick this loser to the curb.

You will find someone worthy of you, OP.

What a fucker.
And very predictably he's throwing the blame in your face.

Please remember you've done nothing wrong. Really hope you've got good support around you OP

Thank you all so much I know I should log off and get sleep but I feel part of something here and without him I feel I have nothing

On a separate note, I was once at a friends house and found a pair of my ex's earrings on his mantelpiece, I said nothing, I know they were hers, as I had them made from a design she liked and they were a one off.

I'm so sorry. He is a grade A cunt and he doesn't deserve you. He has taken the low road and tried to turn it on you. This is not your fault in any way, please believe this.

Marilyn - that's so awful - shame on him. Don't be shy about telling people - you have nothing to be ashamed of. He's cheated on you. Not the actions of an honourable man.

I agree with Bore though, if you have access to any shared accounts on line, transfer funds away. Don't know if its legal, but hey you can truthfully claim you acted in complete shock.

So sorry Marilyn. I followed earlier hoping you'd get a much better outcome than this. Take care of yourself

I agree if you have a joint bank account and hopefully you have a separate account in just your name....clear the joint account out and transfer all monies to your own account ASAP....get someone to come round to be with you for support and rational thinking at this difficult time...take care and try to be kind to yourself

OP he is an arse. You deserve better.

Marilyn, keep chatting here until your friend gets there

You sound awesome, not boring, and pretty fearless for confronting him like that.

What an absolute arsewipe.

OP tonight drink. Tomorrow you need to put plans in place.

Financially have you many joint finances?

Also I hate to bring this up but if it has been going on a while you might want to get an STI check.

and for tonight.

So sorry Marilyn - horrible, hurtful responses from him.
Wishing him galloping cock rot,

(I've had a drink too)

Clear your joint accounts, stash money away for yourself if you can. I would seek legal advise too. When your head is fresher, be as ice cold as you can be and get your finances and the legalities in a row.

So sorry OP, I was hoping their was a genuine reason for the earrings. Feel free to let rip on here. Fucking prick!

No joking AFC but last four digits of card no. Are not. A card I regnoise

Oh and definitely get an STI check

Ffs, no joint account I meant to write

I have my own money ok on that count. Can't believe he'd do this after four and a half years though