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Mystery earrings

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MarilynMonsoon · 23/06/2017 13:33

Not sure where else to get advice for this.

DP works away sometimes, we've not had trust issues before and I'm usually happy to wave him off. He was in a hotel for two night midweek this week and nothing out of the ordinary behaviour wise prior to that.

Was going through some of his packing to tidy up/sort laundry - not snooping I have to add, I've never felt he might be doing anything behind my back, but in his wash bag I found a pair of earrings that aren't mine. They are not a gift because I don't have pierced ears.

Since his return he's been affectionate and normal if a bit glued to his phone, but he does a lot of work on it so again not out of the ordinary.

I feel really confused, I've never had a reason not to trust him but I can't shake the sight of those earrings. Returned them to bag but took a pic on my phone. What do I do?

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namechangeforholiday · 23/06/2017 22:37

So sorry.

Well done for telling him it's over. You deserve more

SussexMedley · 23/06/2017 22:37

I'm sorry, OP. It doesn't sound like they have a relationship of substance...pure escapism, and that will crumble in the cold light of day.

DobbyLovesSocks · 23/06/2017 22:38

So sorry you're going through this. He is a complete bastard and you are better off without him. Throwing infertility at you is a disgusting thing to do.
Sending you hugs (and vodka)

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MarilynMonsoon · 23/06/2017 22:38

It is my fertility I was tested have had endrimitriosis since a teen and womb is backwards Tilting, it's me, he left bc he wanted a young fertile girl

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ShinyGirl · 23/06/2017 22:39
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MarilynMonsoon · 23/06/2017 22:39

He said she was so challenging and interesting and that I was boring

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MineKraftCheese · 23/06/2017 22:40

He is a cunt. I doubt she wants a baby with him. I hope he never becomes a father. He treats women like shit.

flibberdee · 23/06/2017 22:40

Oh no OP, I'm so sorry. I was lurking hoping for a better outcome.

Do you have any friends / sister nearby that can come and see you?

MineKraftCheese · 23/06/2017 22:41

He's lying because of his guilt.

Mum2jenny · 23/06/2017 22:41

At least you've avoided being saddled with a self centred selfish twat of a dp! Count your blessings when you've had a chance to realise you've had a lucky escape ( from a total cunt!!).

biscuitmillionaire · 23/06/2017 22:41

If it was because of your fertility problems, then why didn't he say he wanted to split up, you know before shagging someone else? That excuse is a crock of shit, and one he knows will cut you like a knife. He's just a selfish wanker.

I'm sorry OP.

MineKraftCheese · 23/06/2017 22:41

I'm sure he'll grow sick of how "challenging" she is, if she doesn't tell him to fuck off when he inevitably cheats on her because he can't keep it in his pants

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MarilynMonsoon · 23/06/2017 22:42

I thought it would be a mistake, earrings he found and a colleague dinner, this is not happeneningl he's not the cheating type

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MarilynMonsoon · 23/06/2017 22:43

They were together both nights he was 'at work'

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MineKraftCheese · 23/06/2017 22:43

He isn't who you thought.

pizzaeatingmonkey · 23/06/2017 22:43

GRRRRRRRR what an absolute prick! Marilyn he is talking out of his arse. I am so angry on your behalf.
Don't listen to a word this idiot says!! Do yourself a favour and drink a pint of water, have you got family near?

SussexMedley · 23/06/2017 22:43

He said she was so challenging and interesting and that I was boring

Hahaha. It's piss easy to be challenging and interesting when you're not married to someone AND they're married to someone else. Let's see how exciting and alluring they are to each other when they're listening to the other one brush their teeth or blow their nose, or they've washed each other's pants a few times.

You are NOT boring, you are a normal person in a long term relationship.

Idiots.

Noisybastardsshutup · 23/06/2017 22:44

I'm so sorry, what an absolute bastard.

SussexMedley · 23/06/2017 22:45

Oh, and I hope this isn't insensitive, and I am sorry if it is...but any challenging sexiness etc is completely out the fucking window when there's a baby.

Gemini69 · 23/06/2017 22:45

I want to scream for you.... he has behaved and continues to behave appallingly...

MineKraftCheese · 23/06/2017 22:46

He thought he was so clever he was getting away with it and now he feels stupid and angry that you found him out. Bet he doesn't like not being able to prove you wrong. Bet he hates it.

Monkeyface26 · 23/06/2017 22:48

not challenging enough
I think when you've had some sleep & a little time to process this, it might be time to show this arsewipe just how challenging you are.
I'm really sorry.

ChocolatePHD · 23/06/2017 22:49

Marilyn I am so sorry. We are here for you.

What an absolute arsehole, I'm furious for you, how dare he blame the conceiving a child issue, what a low blow the prick!!!! To say that having just cheated on you defies belief.

Take the next few days slowly one day at a time and keep talking to us. Massive hug for you.

Redsippycup · 23/06/2017 22:50

Oh shit. I'm sorry. What a complete wanker.

ijustwannadance · 23/06/2017 22:54

What a prick.

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