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Mystery earrings

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MarilynMonsoon · 23/06/2017 13:33

Not sure where else to get advice for this.

DP works away sometimes, we've not had trust issues before and I'm usually happy to wave him off. He was in a hotel for two night midweek this week and nothing out of the ordinary behaviour wise prior to that.

Was going through some of his packing to tidy up/sort laundry - not snooping I have to add, I've never felt he might be doing anything behind my back, but in his wash bag I found a pair of earrings that aren't mine. They are not a gift because I don't have pierced ears.

Since his return he's been affectionate and normal if a bit glued to his phone, but he does a lot of work on it so again not out of the ordinary.

I feel really confused, I've never had a reason not to trust him but I can't shake the sight of those earrings. Returned them to bag but took a pic on my phone. What do I do?

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MarilynMonsoon · 23/06/2017 22:16

Reicipts not recipes, and he ASKeD me to sort hos laundry from packing the idiot forgot the earrings were even in his bag

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MarilynMonsoon · 23/06/2017 22:19

Thing he threw at me as he left was we wanted a baby but I can't conceive so he couldn't help his urges with this younger woman

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Mylittlestsunshine · 23/06/2017 22:19

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MyOtherProfile · 23/06/2017 22:19

Bastard. Throwing not being able to conceive in is unforgivable.

kaitlinktm · 23/06/2017 22:22

And he's already blaming you - not being challenging enough my arse - well you are certainly challenging him now. He is already minimising - I don't believe this is the first time.

They really do follow the script don't they - every single one.

I am so sorry Marilyn.

SchnitzelVonKrumm · 23/06/2017 22:23

There's really no way back from that remark.

ohtheholidays · 23/06/2017 22:23

What a wanker and do not let him turn this around on you!
He knows what it's like to be cheated on and then he goes and does the cheating what a charmer.

Have you got anyone in RL OP,friends,family that you can tell?

I'm so sorry this has happened to you Flowers

weatherbomb · 23/06/2017 22:23

Marilyn I'm so very sorry & so angry on your behalf. What an utter bastard to try to turn HIS cheating on you difficulties conceiving. Just get rid, you deserve so much better than this Flowers

Beelzebop · 23/06/2017 22:23

Oh no, even though this seemed possible I am so sorry it has turned out like this. For me, that comment about ttc would seal the deal for me. What a bastard, lots of love OP xx

kaitlinktm · 23/06/2017 22:26

OMG - xposted with your last post - how dare he blame you for not conceiving! (Funny how it's always the woman's fault isn't it?) Was he trying for a baby with OW then?

Remember this Marilyn when he is sorry and wants to come back. I fucking hate him on your behalf.

WetsTheFinger · 23/06/2017 22:27

The OW has put them there deliberately so you'll find them

WetsTheFinger · 23/06/2017 22:27

I'm sorry, didn't rtft Sad

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MarilynMonsoon · 23/06/2017 22:27

We talked abou adoption but apparently he. Weds a son of his own blood and this woman can given him thT

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tootalbugging · 23/06/2017 22:28

Wow OP can't believe he threw in the conception thing as an excuse for shagging her. That's worse than the actual deed in my opinion.

You are well rid. I'm sorry it turned out this way.

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MarilynMonsoon · 23/06/2017 22:28

Sorry every one I know I'm drunk but I have no one irl I can talk about this too right now

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smileyfacechocolatebutton · 23/06/2017 22:28

He's an utter bastard. I'm so so sorry. He's projecting all his shitty behaviour on to you so in his head he's blameless. Don't be surprised if you later find out it was him who cheated in his last relationship too. Some men are just compulsive liars. I know you're going through hell right now but please don't give him another chance after that appallingly nasty parting shot xx

MineKraftCheese · 23/06/2017 22:30

I'm so so sorry OP. This is sad. It's scary that someone can seem so trustworthy but be like this.

Hugs, Wine and solidarity to you.

You're well rid of him. He's really showed s nasty side with the fertility comment. What a low life.

StealthPolarBear · 23/06/2017 22:31

Oh lucky her. Wonder if she knows that's the plan.
It doesn't feel this way bit you've had a lucky escape. As a pp said remember how angry you are when he crawls back.

MineKraftCheese · 23/06/2017 22:31

God knows what shit he's been spinning to OW

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MarilynMonsoon · 23/06/2017 22:32

He was so anti cheating bc it has happened to him, I don't understand

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StealthPolarBear · 23/06/2017 22:33

I know, I'm sorry :(

echt · 23/06/2017 22:33

Well, he's making it easier to kick his sorry arse to the kerb, isn't he? Hard to unsay all that shite, and he will try to do it.

Sorry you're going through this horrible time, Marilyn.

Chin up and damn his eyes.

MoominFlaps · 23/06/2017 22:36

I'm so sorry.

I bet you anything it was him who cheated on his ex and not the other way round.

Mum2jenny · 23/06/2017 22:36

Marilyn he's being a twat of the first order. It may be that it is him firing blanks and nothing to do with your fertility.
Just move on, there will be plenty of better fish in the sea.

StormTreader · 23/06/2017 22:37

Oh Im sure shes just DESPERATE to have a baby with a married proven cheating man from work, NOT.

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