Mystery earrings

[MarilynMonsoon]

Not sure where else to get advice for this.

DP works away sometimes, we've not had trust issues before and I'm usually happy to wave him off. He was in a hotel for two night midweek this week and nothing out of the ordinary behaviour wise prior to that.

Was going through some of his packing to tidy up/sort laundry - not snooping I have to add, I've never felt he might be doing anything behind my back, but in his wash bag I found a pair of earrings that aren't mine. They are not a gift because I don't have pierced ears.

Since his return he's been affectionate and normal if a bit glued to his phone, but he does a lot of work on it so again not out of the ordinary.

I feel really confused, I've never had a reason not to trust him but I can't shake the sight of those earrings. Returned them to bag but took a pic on my phone. What do I do?

microsort, available in spain but banned here.

Glad you are feeling slightly better Marilyn and that you have already found a flat, you are so strong. If anything good (apart from getting rid of someone who is so beneath you) comes out of this, it should make you realise that you are a fantastic person who's best comes out in adversity.

Can I add my to cents to the OW debate? - I was (unknowingly) the other woman once. It was a long distance relationship I am naturally trusting as I don't cheat or lie so don't expect others to. He told me he had to live in the same house as his ex because of his child and he couldn't afford to move out because she refused to work and was lazy. (I know, how stupid was I). I don't know if she knew about me (and I bet I wasn't the only one) but I found out that she was pregnant all of the time, and had not one, but two jobs. The house was hers and she had got him his job. The icing on the cake was that I had actually spoken to her several times as she worked at the same firm as me! I felt so guilty, but god knows what she she felt about me. He also referred to her as 'an husk' who happened to have had his baby, in some kind of attempt to win me back. How messed up is that? He is now back with that poor woman. Sorry to ramble, but my point is the OW might not know she is the other woman. She might have been spun the line that 'my ex is a psycho', or 'my ex threatened to kill herself if I leave', or the classic 'we just share the same house and she refuses to move out.' I mean, the OW could have known and been a total arse, but we don't know.

Please don't let him back Marilyn, he will be thinking of you as his stand by. Don't be, you deserve so much better. Also, you might find this site describes your ex quite well - it is about narcissists:
www.lisaescott.com/

The only woman I know whose husband followed your SO's charming slash and burn technique in leaving her, chose to focus on her weight, he told her he'd had to think of other people to keep it up etc. He moved to a flat to enjoy his freedom, she was devastated, lost a shitload of weight. All their joint friends stuck with her, because she's good fun and nice and he's a boring cunt. The batchelor fun inexplicably failed to materialise for her cunty ex and he tried to come back. She actually wobbled! Thankfully she didn't let him. Her heart mended, she put the weight back on and met a gorgeous man who adores her, to whom she has been married these past 17 years.
She hasn't heard anything about her ex for years, but last she heard, he was a right sad sack.

It must be such a shock to find you were so wrong about his values, but you can and will do better. You've lost a nasty liar and cheat, thank fuck you found those earrings.

Lightdrizzle - I love a happy ending

ShE DOESNT WANT HIM

Text:

'Obviously you don't have to take him back but he is on the tenancy and she doesn't want him'

SHE DOESNT FUCKING WANT HIM

Ahaaaaaahaaahaaaaahaaaa!

Oh karma is indeed a bitch.

Hahahahaha😂😂😂😂😂😂 He must feel so stupid and embarrassed. Hope you replied that you don't want him either!

The only reply here is: "I dont fucking want him either. Put him in the bin."

Think he burnt his bridges

Oh dear, oh dear. What a loser.

What Tali said!!

Well sucks to be him then doesn't it....

Not only a spiteful git but a fool too.

Don't you even waste a moment of sympathy on him

Think it's your turn to buy some champagne! It's best served cold!
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I did! I said I don't want him either!

Good for you.

Good for you. Delighted he's got what he deserves. He'll regret this so much and everyone will be laughing at him😂

Instant karma!! Oh my god that's brilliant. Did that come from the dickheads mother?

Ha, ha fucking ha!

Good luck finding a nice little flat and getting on with the next 48 or so years without that twat. At 32 I found myself living back at my mum's with two children, the youngest very severely disabled. I'm now 46 and life just keeps getting better and better.
I'm married to a non-cunt, girls are doing great, lovely friends, comfortable lifestyle.
You sound brilliant, you are in s much better place than him.

Poor little Fuckboi!!!

I hope your landlord is sympathetic tomorrow and you can start making exciting plans to move on, without that wanker. Just move ahead and don't give him a backward glance.

I would be lapping this up if I were you op. Victory dance and everything. Please rub it in husband face a little next time you need contact re the house or anything. Watch him fizz!!

Sorry not husband. Partner. Ex partner. Utter fucking cunting toe-rag ex partner.

Who sent the text? Poor lamb. I can just imagine his wee face when she told him to sling his hookski. And they work together, you say? That should be interesting and provide years worth of office gossip.