Mystery earrings

[MarilynMonsoon]

Not sure where else to get advice for this.

DP works away sometimes, we've not had trust issues before and I'm usually happy to wave him off. He was in a hotel for two night midweek this week and nothing out of the ordinary behaviour wise prior to that.

Was going through some of his packing to tidy up/sort laundry - not snooping I have to add, I've never felt he might be doing anything behind my back, but in his wash bag I found a pair of earrings that aren't mine. They are not a gift because I don't have pierced ears.

Since his return he's been affectionate and normal if a bit glued to his phone, but he does a lot of work on it so again not out of the ordinary.

I feel really confused, I've never had a reason not to trust him but I can't shake the sight of those earrings. Returned them to bag but took a pic on my phone. What do I do?

Have only just read all of this thread, and I am so sorry this has happened to you, Marylin - but I think that, in time, you'll realise what a lucky escape you've had - think how many more years you could have wasted with this excuse for a man. You come across as a lovely person, with a great - if ironic - sense of humour, and you deserve so much more than your pathetic ex. I hope his dick drops off :)

I wouldn't be taking his stuff into work early. I'd be taking it in when the place is full and telling whoever I hand it too that "this is Knobhead's stuff, he needs it as he is setting up home with From Russia with Love" and let the office telegraph do it's job. You have no obligation to be reasonable.

loving these Posts.... just fabulous xx

We have contact Houston

Nasty wall of text calling me a dried up baggage, dull, unattractive and too stupid to notice he was checking out, he was only settling for me, he will take legal action if I just leave his stuff in the garden, etc.

I texted back saying I hoped he fulfilled his dreams having a line of glorious sons with Anne Boleynski - no reply

He doesn't even want kids, he's just trying to turn the blame onto you because he can't face what a pathetic piece of shit he is. I hope he suffers from terrible erectile dysfunction for ever more the cunt.

Trying to be strong but that makes me so down, he had so little respect for me for the majority of our relationship it seems, if my friend weren't here I'd be an even worse mess

Also suggested me turning up at work with his things if he doesn't want them left in the garden. I am an 'unreasonable bitch'

DUMP his stuff in the garden ..

I've never heard of anyone being Prosecuted or even Jailed... for dumping a Pigs clothes in a garden...

legal action.. haahahaaaa

He can't take legal action, he's just trying to scare you into not making a scene. He doesn't want people finding out what he's done. Dump his stuff at work, tell his family what he's said. Then radio silence. Find the French Martini bastard thread - similar situation - she went silent and it drove her ex mad. You've had a lucky escape, don't retaliate to his taunts, you're better than that. Much love xx

His messages are bollox

He's rewriting history to make himself feel better.

Wanker.

Jesus Marilyn he's a complete cockwomble. You are well rid.

Apparently I 'got too comfortable' and 'let myself go' and I can't blame him for looking around at interesting, intelligent women who were more of a challenge.

Are all cheaters this much of a walking cliche? He didn't mention children in his abusive text bomb btw

I have left it with the 'glorious line of sons' reply will not be sending anything else

What a truly horrible person he is. He has cheated on you and now insults you?! The best revenge is to go forth and carve out a truly fabulous life for yourself. At 32 you are young!!!

I had an ex who once tried to strangle me. Of course we split but he then proceeded to tell me I looked like miss piggy!!! I was a size 12 lol. I am now with someone who wouldn't dream of hurting or humiliating me.

You are going to hurt, but remind yourself of what he is capable of and know that you will look back and think it was a lucky escape. I recall you saying when he got back from cheating he was all affectionate. He is a total fake. I wish you well in the next chapter of your life.

This is not the man I moved in with, this is like Jekyll and Hyde

Of course he doesn't want you taking the stuff to work because the whole sorry story will come out and he will be a laughing stock when people realise Anne bolynski doesn't want to know. You so have to do this.

Please resist the temptation to contact him. Do you really want to give him the satisfaction of knowing he's upset you?

Of course he didn't mention children. He doesn't want children. He IS a child and he's lashing out like he's had a tantrum because he's been caught out and is now being punished.

You deserve better than him, and are worth more than him. He and Anne Boleynski can just cock off together.

For what it's worth after I broke up with my ex I downsized into a teeny tiny one bed flat on my own. It was the first time I lived totally alone and I actually loved it. Hoping you feel the same OP.

If I were you, I'd stop the text war, don't send any more and don't read/answer his. They are just giving him a way of hurling insults at you and upsetting you, which you don't need.
It will irritate him more if you start radio silence, and it will give you some head space to start making real plans.
Ignore ignore and then ignore some more, should be your mantra.
Each time you engage with him it proves to him that you still care.

Stay strong, you are doing grand and are going to be fine without this bastard in your life.

I would pay a man with van to deliver all his belongings in black bin liners to the reception desk of his workplace.

My friends husband was a cheating swine and his managers were less than impressed when his messy love life was on display in their foyer.

Oh my, he's a piece of work, please keep all his disgusting texts to remind you of how well rid you are.
He's trying to blame you for his actions. No one forced him to cheat, he did that all by himself, what a cock.
There's no justification for his actions, agree you should read French martini thread.