It's my birthday tomorrow and he's forgotten

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I don't need a song and dance or presents or anything, but he's not even asked if I'd maybe like to go for lunch or something. Instead he's just banging on about the usual taxi service we have to provide the kids on a Saturday. I feel really despondent.

Any chance he might have a surprise lunch or dinner planned? If not it's crap, pure lazy not to do something nice for your partner's birthday. Happy birthday anyway OP, I hope you at least get a chance to treat yourself tomorrow.

Yeah that's a bit rubbish

Have you reminded him? I'd be tempted to say something like "As it's my birthday shall we do..."

Not that he shouldn't remember without being reminded of course.

Lovely thought but not a chance in hell he'd have a surprise planned. I hope the kids will wish me a happy birthday in the morning. If not I'll cry.

It's crap, but remind him. Otherwise yes you'll be crying tomorrow. At least if he knows he can do something....

I mean it is really rubbish, no excuses but still try to salvage something of the day, and happy birthday for tomorrow, enjoy it any way you can x

I have no friends (I like to think I'm really nice, friendly etc but nope, social life is non-existent) but my mums offered to go for lunch with me. Christ I'm pathetic.

If he doesnt remember tomorrow, take a day off and spoil yourself, go to town, have lunch, buy yourself a present, get some nice flowers etc. You'll still remember that he forgot but it'll help make the issue a little less sore!

Thanks everyone. I'll spend the last night of my 20s with a cheesy DVD.

Don't be a bloody martyr. I did that for years myself. It isn't he and the DC don't love you. It is possibly that you're so bloomin good at all the birthday stuff that they're used to your prompts. But yes, its annoying.

What would you like to do, would you like to go out, eat out, afternoon tea, shopping, cinema???

What special thing would be nice to make you feel pampered?

If nothing has yet been planned, what about calmly suggesting thats just fine they can have a few morning hours to get things sorted. Inform them you'll have a nice lie in in the am, followed by a nice soak and self pampering giving them a few hours to dash out and get some presents, cake, cards and plans sorted. When you're all relaxed post pampering they can take over the pampering for the rest of the day.

Happy early birthday.

OP, see how it goes. Then leave children with him or take with you and go out somewhere to have fun. Without him ofcourse.

Agree with Ripple - remind him!

RippleEffects exactly what you said.

Just tell him.... It would be lovely to think all guys are romantic and will surprise you with some birthday treat, but a lot are rubbish with dates and would forget their own birthday if you didn't remind them!

Please don't end up having an awful glum birthday. Just ask him what he has planned for your birthday and see what he says.

Have the kids not remembered?

Well I've booked a table for us (him) to celebrate Father's Day so I guess we can just double that .

I agree with the others. Just remind him and announce what you'd like to do.. It's much better than sulking.

I would say something along the lines of how excited you are about your birthday and you can't wait to see what he has planned.

Then watch him panic!

I forget my own birthday and I never know today's date.

Just mention it.

Happy Birthday to you for tomorrow!!

I too rely on my mother for any treat or birthday idea/outing. Never occurs to DH. I hope you have a nice lunch with your mother and some time out from the everyday stuff.

I agree with a pp, casually drop in to the conversation how excited you are for your birthday tomorrow and can't wait to see what he's got planned.

It's your 30th too?! get yourself something extra extra special!! ps happy birthday!

I would also tell him that you are looking forward to what he has planned for you for your birthday tomorrow

Happy Birthday to a fellow Gemini from me . Am only sorry its virtual.

What an utter twat forgetting your 30th birthday, there is zero excuse for this. I would get divorced for less than this.
Ask him if he's remembered your special birthday tomorrow and then say nothing. He deserves to feel like shit because he is one.
What bloody use is he as a father if he can't encourage the children to make you cards and get some presents for you from them. They will be sad you haven't got anything.

I never understand this playing the martyr thing. Why don't you just remind them and say what you want to do,then have a great day? Sure it would be better if they remembered,but if that's not the case, why spend it miserable,when uou could just say " I fancy doing X for my birthday, what do you think?"

Why don't you just say now "I hope nobody's forgotten what's happening tomorrow!" then leave the room and let them all have their panic and decide what to do.

Unless you think nothing would happen as a result?