It's my birthday tomorrow and he's forgotten

[rainsbow]

I don't need a song and dance or presents or anything, but he's not even asked if I'd maybe like to go for lunch or something. Instead he's just banging on about the usual taxi service we have to provide the kids on a Saturday. I feel really despondent.

Happy birthday OP remind him and hope that he spoils you totally rotten with guilt.

Happy birthday OP, hope you end up having a good day after all.

Happy Birthday!

Given that it's your 30th it's entirely possible that the forgetting is a ruse. I hope so.

Happy Birthday!mine too today there's a lot of us it seems

Happy birthday, OP! ❤🌈🙏

Happy 30th Birthday

I hope he came up good for you.

Happy birthday to fellow 17th-ers and many thanks for the wishes. The kids gave me some cards and I had some through the post to open. He's doing his usual Saturday morning run at the moment. Still, it's a sunny day and I'm going to meet my parents for lunch.

Happy birthday!!! Have a wonderful day

Happy birthday OP.

I'm a bit puzzled though. How old are your kids. They can't be too old if you're only 30. Seems unlikely that children in single digit ages would have got you cards without anyone knowing/helping them plus wouldn't they have talked about it with their dad?

I'm sure he's got something planned

Don't be too hard on him, my DP is useless at remembering any birthdays. He has no idea when his brother, nephew or mum's birthday is. And one time I asked him when my birthday was and he genuinely couldn't remember the exact date. Think he just has a terrible memory and he leads a stressful tiring life too which won't help.
I always give him a gentle reminder and he pulls something out the bag at the very last minute.
It would be nice to all have romantic partners who plan grand gestures months in advance, but unfortunately be this just isn't realistic in this day and age where most of us are living fairly stressful lives.
Hope you have a lovely day and enjoy the sunny weather

My girls are 3 and 7 and my parents helped them to make cards and wrap little gifts. I'm not going to let it get to me. I'm going to take my daughter to her clubs this morning whilst he's out running then will go for lunch with my parents. Screw him. He will not ruin my birthday.

i often threads on here saying 'my dh has forgotten my birthday'
and i never ever understand how it happens unless people deliberately keep quiet to see what happens.

All birthdays are clearly marked on the family calendar and we talk about them!

@OOOH it's nearly my birthday! what shall we do?'

'if anyone asks i would like xyz for my birthday'

' shall we take the day off for my birthday and go to the zoo/beach/shopping whatever'

Why do people not talk about it???

Happy Birthday

Happy birthday!!

Don't be a martyr - why don't you talk about plans as a family for birthdays etc - that way nobody gets upset and people get to celebrate how they want!!

Happy 30th birthday op. My husband wouldn't be able to forget my birthday as I remind him daily for about 2 weeks before hand

If you had reminded him then you could have been woken up to a nice card and gifts from him and something lovely planned for the day. Surely it's better to remind someone than to keep quiet and have the day potentially ruined. He's going to feel terrible when he realises too, which will only make the pair of you feel miserable

Happy birthday Rainsbow. Enjoy time with your parents.

Has he twigged yet? This happened to me. It didn't occur to him that I had to remind him.

Occur to me, oops.

Happy birthday! The children may well have been chatting about making cards etc for mum so he may well be aware! My DC discuss my birthday for days beforehand! Hope you have a lovely day

I have no clue why you didn't just remind him, seems very martyr-ish to me. I'm hopeless with birthdays and need prompting to 'remember' sometimes. It seems you were pretty set on him forgetting so you could have a terrible day
Regardless, I hope you have a lovely lunch with your parents. Happy birthday 💐

Have a really nice time with your parents.

Happy birthday.

Happy birthday

Happy 30th Birthday! Enjoy your day whatever you decide to do

Happy birthday rainsbow glad you got something from the dc.

When you say he 'forgot' your birthday, do you think he really just hasn't bothered? I'd find it odd he could forget but the dc have something for you, surely they'd have mentioned it to him.
Did he say anything when the dc gave you cards?

Happy Birthday 🎂