It's my birthday tomorrow and he's forgotten

[rainsbow]

I don't need a song and dance or presents or anything, but he's not even asked if I'd maybe like to go for lunch or something. Instead he's just banging on about the usual taxi service we have to provide the kids on a Saturday. I feel really despondent.

Just ask him. Every year I say to my DP book so and so date off work and we'll go out for a meal that night for my birthday. This then prompts him to book somewhere. It is particularly bad that it's your 30th and he hasn't planned anything though tell him how it makes you feel or it will always be that way.

It could be worse OP, it's my birthday tomorrow too and I'm going to be 54. Look on the bright side - I'd rather be a forgotten 30...

It baffles me how anyone can forget their partners or children's birthday, I'm hoping he has a surprise planned or at least a present. If not he's got some serious making up to do tomorrow to salvage the day.

If he is that bad at remembering then, next year, it would be better to give him some suggestions of what you want to do on your birthday with plenty of notice so as to prompt him.

I'm sorry if he really has forgotten OP

But have you not mentioned it at all recently? My boyfriend jokes, he'd have to be trying very hard to be able to forget my birthday! Anyone would think I mention it a lot.....it's 13 weeks away in case anyone was wondering.

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Just remind him. If you don't you'll just be miserable tomorrow and why do that to yourself. We always discuss birthdays beforehand so we know what to plan and when.

If you don't remind him it'll just mean everyone is grumpy and that doesn't help anyone.

Him forgetting is shit but why aren't you just talking to him? I never understand this on these threads.

Also the event HASN'T HAPPENED YET!!! I don't get the upset, you don't know that he has forgotten??

I also would just tell him. Pick something you want to do and say keep x time free tomorrow as we're going to y for my birthday.

If it isn't your birthday yet then technically he hasn't forgotten it yet. How do you know he won't come good tomorrow?

How on earth do you let him forget? I countdown on a monthly basis, the. Weekly, and finally daily. Dh hasn't got a hope in hell of forgetting mine. I also email him a list of what a want a month beforehand.
Girl, be more proactive.
And give him a chance, he may have a surprise planned

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Wouldn't your mum have reminded him?? Especially to get something for the kids to give you??

Don't say anything today - when you wake up sing happy birthday to me! Then wait to see what happens. My DH told me we would go out for dinner on my 30th many years ago. Then didn't turn up at normal time from work. I got very upset thinking all sorts - then the 30 guests turned up for a surprise party with all the food etc. He'd spent weeks planning it all as a surprise! Now I just go with the flow. He nay very well surprise you.

Definitely user98765 I've been very subtly suggesting that a romantic weekend away might be nice...

I made such a big deal about my 30th noone could forget. Even the work cleaner signed the card.

You seem to want to feel sorry for yourself about it, hard done by almost. Will you remind him on Sunday when your birthday is over? Seems petty to play such games to test his love. Don't do it to yourself.

If I were you I would say something along the lines of 'what shall we do tonight to mark the last night in my 20s' and go from there. X

It sounds like you almost want him to forget so you can play the martyr. Surely you had a discussion about fathers day so how did you not say 'Oh we can make it a joint celebration' or something. It's easy to forget someone's birthday when life is busy he might be mortified when you tell him.

Happy birthday for tomorrow though

Happy Birthday, Rainsbow!

It's mine today too. Let's have a great time!

Happy 30th birthday! Have a lovely day!
Really hope you get surprised x

Happy birthday OP, LittleWitch and LellyMcKelly - it's my birthday too!

OP, I agree with those who say you need to be proactive- tell him what you want to do. It's a bit wick, but once you've reminded him then hopefully you can enjoy doing whatever it is!

Happy birthday!

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Happy birthday ! I hope you have a lovely day x

@LittleWitch happy birthday too 🎉