Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Another Boring Prostitute/Husband one :(

675 replies

wotabastard · 30/05/2017 21:40

Opened H's gmail on his laptop totally innocuously to access mine and low and behold there was an email from u k pun tin a registration email from last Monday = (don't want to link back to that scum) As you can imagine, well, I'm shattered. Two dd's, married 2013, together over 10 years. Did some digging and managed to change his password so I could access his account but there is nothing to be seen, he's not participating in any threads at all.

I was hoping there would be a private messaging thing so I could get some cast iron proof of whatever he's engaging in, but nothing, or am I missing something? I came and did some digging here and read a few threads on the subject, saw someone advising to enter username and adultwork into google, another escort site, to find feedback, so I entered his username for the other site, and he has five positive feedback listed from 2013- April 2016 on there.
His account is not active on there though anymore, so I imagine he can easily bullshit that away, though one of the girls is literally a 10 minute from us, the others all in local cities.

I'm angry I don't have clear and irrefutable proof of communications etc. I want to be able to nail the bastard up to a fucking wall with the evidence when I confront him.

I have taken photos of everything I have found on my phone and will keep them safe until needed.

I logged out of the website I changed the password for and deleted all search history of my snooping. When he tries to log in I doubt he will suspect me, he's likely to brush it off as a glitch or attempted hack or something. He also doesn't know the password to my laptop or phone. Not out of me hiding anything, just well, WE TRUSTED EACH OTHER. What a joke.

We have been having tons of amazing sex recently too. Like, soul joining in love sex. What a dickhead.

Any advice? I'm going to get a full STI exam on Friday morning.

OP posts:
eyeoresancerre · 01/06/2017 17:43

You are amazing. Bloody well done. We're here when you need to talk.

Racheyg · 01/06/2017 17:49

When I first saw this thread I thought I really hope there is an explanation. Wot you have been amazing, your DC's are very lucky to have a strong mum x

alltalknobaby · 01/06/2017 17:50

FlowersGinFlowers

EverythingEverywhere1234 · 01/06/2017 17:52

Bloody hell, what a scumbag he is and how very stupid to fuck over such a wonderful, strong woman as you. Your children are very lucky to have you Flowers

KeepCalm · 01/06/2017 18:00

Bloody hell what an arsehole. I hope he didn't try to insult your intelligence and left.
Flowers

2littlemoos · 01/06/2017 18:01

Well done OP, what a wonderful person you are and such a strong role model for your children Brew

Mooey89 · 01/06/2017 18:03

Well done OP! You are fucking incredible!

mogulfield · 01/06/2017 18:14

I've just read this and am in awe of you Op, if I ever have to go through this I hope I am as strong as you Flowers

bluediamonds · 01/06/2017 18:30

Well done WOT!

Fair play to you. What an absolute idiot your ex is to throw it all away like this. His loss! YY to PP saying your children are incredibly lucky to have such a strong mother, indeed a great role model.

Prepare yourself for the road ahead; you may doubt yourself when loneliness kicks in and when times seem hard. Persevere as it'll be worth it in the end.

Flowers🌈💕

DearMrDilkington · 01/06/2017 18:32

Be kind to yourself and have lots of supportive people around you.Flowers

AradiasDaughter · 01/06/2017 18:38

I've read the whole thread and I usually don't post. I wanted to say I admire you in the way you've conducted yourself through the whole situation. He's a massive knob and I'm so sorry you're having to go through this.

nigelsbigface · 01/06/2017 18:42

Hope you are ok op

TheMightyMing · 01/06/2017 18:48

Glad you've done it, just be kind to yourself OP xx as long as you and your kids are ok all will be fine xxx

Carlz84 · 01/06/2017 19:06

Well done- you're being so strong OP! Hope you wiped the floor with the bastard!

MummyPigLovesAppleSauce · 01/06/2017 19:12

Well done my love!

So brave and strong. Your kids should be proud of you x

Rach5l · 01/06/2017 19:28

FlowersFlowerswhat a bastard

crazykitten20 · 01/06/2017 19:30

Bless you my lovely. Much much respect and love 💕💕💕

DoIDontIhavethetalk · 01/06/2017 19:35

What a cunt.

And we'll done you!

I'm so sorry he's done this to you and your children

PaulSimonsMatesMissus · 01/06/2017 19:36

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

vickifaith · 01/06/2017 19:37

Welldone you X

NImbleJumper · 01/06/2017 19:57

Flowers Gin Wine Cake Flowers

purplecoathanger · 01/06/2017 20:01

I'm very impressed with how you've handled this OP. Much love and strength Flowers

GirlOnATrainToShite · 01/06/2017 20:02

Well done ❤ x

AnniesShop · 01/06/2017 20:04

What an awful shock all this must be for you, op and you've coped
with it all admirably.

Keep your head high, my love, we're here for you. Flowers

cheesychops · 01/06/2017 20:19

You amazing, strong, brave woman.
You've done the best thing for your family FlowersBrew