Another Boring Prostitute/Husband one :(

[wotabastard]

Opened H's gmail on his laptop totally innocuously to access mine and low and behold there was an email from u k pun tin a registration email from last Monday = (don't want to link back to that scum) As you can imagine, well, I'm shattered. Two dd's, married 2013, together over 10 years. Did some digging and managed to change his password so I could access his account but there is nothing to be seen, he's not participating in any threads at all.

I was hoping there would be a private messaging thing so I could get some cast iron proof of whatever he's engaging in, but nothing, or am I missing something? I came and did some digging here and read a few threads on the subject, saw someone advising to enter username and adultwork into google, another escort site, to find feedback, so I entered his username for the other site, and he has five positive feedback listed from 2013- April 2016 on there.
His account is not active on there though anymore, so I imagine he can easily bullshit that away, though one of the girls is literally a 10 minute from us, the others all in local cities.

I'm angry I don't have clear and irrefutable proof of communications etc. I want to be able to nail the bastard up to a fucking wall with the evidence when I confront him.

I have taken photos of everything I have found on my phone and will keep them safe until needed.

I logged out of the website I changed the password for and deleted all search history of my snooping. When he tries to log in I doubt he will suspect me, he's likely to brush it off as a glitch or attempted hack or something. He also doesn't know the password to my laptop or phone. Not out of me hiding anything, just well, WE TRUSTED EACH OTHER. What a joke.

We have been having tons of amazing sex recently too. Like, soul joining in love sex. What a dickhead.

Any advice? I'm going to get a full STI exam on Friday morning.

Wow just read your posts.
I'm not sure what words to use but I am impressed by your focus, hurting for your pain, in awe of you getting him while he was vulnerable in bed, just keep this up and you will rule the world by Christmas.

Isn't the statistic one in ten men have used a prostitute? That's 9 in every 10 that haven't.

It constantly shocks me how many of us there are who come together and start similar threads. No comfort in it, but we aren't alone.

Yes I fantasised about that one too wot as my H is pretty well known in our circle

wot

You are a fucking inspiration. You are SUCH a role model to your girls.

Strong, powerful, take no shit woman.

Be proud.

I don't know whether to cry for you or cheer you wot, you've handled a hideous situation about as well as anyone possibly could but it's still devastating what he's done to you and DC. It baffles me that anyone would risk losing someone as amazing as you for the sake of a cheap thrill. All I can say is that whatever the future holds for you it has to be better than being tied to a lying wankstain with zero morals and not enough intelligence to realise how lucky he was to have you. It will be shit for a while, you need to be really kind to yourself while you recover but there will be better times ahead for you

You're a Queen, Wot.

Well done! I'm shocked he didn't even try to argue or lie. But made up too.

The next week will be the hardest, stay strong xxx

You fucking rock wot, a true inspiration!

Stay strong.

Wot you are amazing, I'm in awe.

He he, you nailed it (or him more like!!).

Wishing you all the best. Disgusting man. Not the person he portrayed. What is it with these people. It scares me how people can pretend to be one thing but are something else entirely. Your partner is supposed to be your best friend, the person closest to you. You should value them and your kids above and beyond everything and never risk losing them. The arrogance of people that think they can get away with it. There's no guilt in him. It's not like he fucked up once by getting drunk and doing something and was remorseful. He was conniving and manipulative. Just another shitty liar.

You are absolutely fucking incredible.

What a woman

You've done so well. I've been cheated on a few times by my ex's and I never had the balls you did. I'm ashamed I stayed with them. If it happens again I'll definitely take a leaf out of your book OP.

You've done so well OP! I'm in awe!

Wow. Way to handle it, Wota. No wriggle room, no place to hide.

Well done.

I know you will feel horrendous at times OP, but you honestly are an absolute legend and you will start your new life with your head held high.

I'm sure you don't feel strong or powerful or amazing or awesome. But you are all of the above and more. 💕💕💕

Was that you on the billboard for the new Wonder Woman film, OP?

You've done great op... sending you strength

Thank you guys, kids are fed and in bed. Today is hard. I want to go back to Monday night and just be.

This morning I told him to tell some family of his (hardcore feminist aunt) without leaving anything out and he agreed, which I knew would kill him, but he agreed. He was going to call her on his afternoon break. Last minute I panicked and texted him saying 'I'm not ready for you to tell xxxx'
I just ugh. I don't know. Couldn't bear it. He replied saying 'whenever you are ready let me know' he says he will do whatever it takes to make things right.

Not in anyway softening, just reporting how he's being.

lol yorick

Of course it's hard. This is like a bereavement, in some ways it might even be worse. Just because you are mighty and awesome (and you are) doesn't mean you can't feel sad or shellshocked or fragile. Please don't let our awe of you make you feel bad for being normal and human.

Your strength and resolve are extraordinary! Of course you will feel a crash after all that adrenalin but wow you have been brilliant.

How do you know he will tell the truth?

Because he knows I will tell her everything and show the evidence if he doesn't.