Another Boring Prostitute/Husband one :(

[wotabastard]

Opened H's gmail on his laptop totally innocuously to access mine and low and behold there was an email from u k pun tin a registration email from last Monday = (don't want to link back to that scum) As you can imagine, well, I'm shattered. Two dd's, married 2013, together over 10 years. Did some digging and managed to change his password so I could access his account but there is nothing to be seen, he's not participating in any threads at all.

I was hoping there would be a private messaging thing so I could get some cast iron proof of whatever he's engaging in, but nothing, or am I missing something? I came and did some digging here and read a few threads on the subject, saw someone advising to enter username and adultwork into google, another escort site, to find feedback, so I entered his username for the other site, and he has five positive feedback listed from 2013- April 2016 on there.
His account is not active on there though anymore, so I imagine he can easily bullshit that away, though one of the girls is literally a 10 minute from us, the others all in local cities.

I'm angry I don't have clear and irrefutable proof of communications etc. I want to be able to nail the bastard up to a fucking wall with the evidence when I confront him.

I have taken photos of everything I have found on my phone and will keep them safe until needed.

I logged out of the website I changed the password for and deleted all search history of my snooping. When he tries to log in I doubt he will suspect me, he's likely to brush it off as a glitch or attempted hack or something. He also doesn't know the password to my laptop or phone. Not out of me hiding anything, just well, WE TRUSTED EACH OTHER. What a joke.

We have been having tons of amazing sex recently too. Like, soul joining in love sex. What a dickhead.

Any advice? I'm going to get a full STI exam on Friday morning.

Don't know what to say, except well done. Handled brilliantly.

WOW wotabastard. Thats impressive.

Re. GUM clinic .................the least the slimy cunt can do is pay for you to go private.

OP.

You were unbelievably brave! That must have been unimaginably hard for you.

At least now you have this scumbag gone. Well done!

You are incredible

Your GP can swab for chlamydia.

That was a fucking low point, telling my new partner I'd been tested.

OMG You nailed it!

Handled perfectly, well done!

New to this post OP, but just wanted to offer a handhold

You took no prisoners and left no hostages. Well done.

Well done you x

Well done op

Wotabastard You have done a good thing there. Well done! It will get better, OP.

On the one hand it is awful that there are so many of us in this situation. But at least finding that out online stopped me feeling like I was the only one.

You handled that perfectly, well done OP!
You can totally handle the next bit with the children.
And definitely get him to pay privately for the STD tests!!

Got goosebumps reading your post, what an unbelievably strong woman you are!

I'm tired and teary today. The woman at the clinic brought me into the office and gave me a drink of water and tissues. She was lovely.

My kids are 10 and 2. Both think he's the bees knees.

I said to him, when I could see how horrified and remorseful he actually was, when he could see what the new reality of his life was now, "didn't you think this might have happened one day? Didn't you ever consider I would find out?" He didn't. How bloody arrogant.

WOW.....just wow! I don't comment much on these threads but I am well chuffed with the way you handled it, like he couldn't squirm out of it it and come out with excuses. You should be very proud of yourself. Was it your idea to confront him like this?

Your kids will be OK, as long as they have regular contact with him. Been there and it will be tough at first but they've got all the love that they need.

Grieve, cry, get angry and let the emotions out. Speak to those close around you. You'll be fine.

Wotabastard you are amazing! Well done on not putting up with any of his nonsense and giving him zero opportunity to lie to you! He is under zero illusion about how strong you are and what an amazing wife he has lost!!!!

Please don't try to protect him by hiding from your friends and family his disgusting behaviour! You will need their love and support as you go through this. Please remember that this is his shame alone to bear! You are amazing, you have shown immense dignity and set a fantastic example to your children!

He didn't. How bloody arrogant
Yep - that basically sums them up.
Arrogant cunts.
Well done OP..
It's gonna hit though and it will hit hard.
Eating solid food won't be great.
Ice-lollies, smoothies, soups, sugary drinks are all easier to stomach than trying to chew.
Keep going and get all the support around you that you can.

I was just fantasising about posting this on FB.

I've found an amazing new diet, I've lost half a stone in 3 days! All you need is a lying, cheating, scumbag of a husband and the weight will just drop off!

But I won't.

Wishing you all the strength and courage you need for the days ahead.

This is grief and bereavement (for a marriage and for the man you thought he was).

Be as kind to yourself and as patient as you would be after a death. It will get easier to manage. The children will be ok and so will you.

Already you have really risen to an impossible challenge. I think that your attitude to your children and your dignity have impressed everyone here.

He has lost himself so much.

And again, thank you so very much for all the support. I'm sorry I'm not replying individually, but I am reading and appreciating everyone

wotabastard you are a fucking rockstar

Am sorry that the slimey piece of Shite has put you in that position but I couldn't be more proud of you.

Well done lady, well done

Huge hugs for you Wota.

As PP have said, let yourself grieve. You need to let these things come. It is how you come to terms with it.

I spent one day lying on the sofa just sobbing my heart out. Just one day. Crying over 13 years.

Every man I have seen out in public since I found this out, I have thought, I bet you are doing it, and you, and you, and you. I know it's not true, but ffs, it's like an epidemic. Bastards.