He had an affair...breaking out the Ben & Jerry's (2)

[Syc4moreTrees]

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Not sure if I've managed to create a link to the old thread...someone more tech savvy can maybe help me out a little bit if not?

The old thread closed before i could thank you all again for all the collective wisdom, it's been a very surreal month to say the least, but it's been crazy how much support you can get from a bunch of lovely strangers.

So thanks!! You're all awesome!

WH is all agog at the idea of a man (married) staying with me...i suppose by his logic married men often find women to whom they are not married on the end of their penis.
This made me laugh out loud earlier. You are ace. And he's a complete twit.

Just caught up with your thread trees after a week or so. I think I posted before under a different name. I'm so sorry to hear about the latest discovery. He is indeed a lying twat cuntwadger.

I'm glad to hear he is not moving back in, even temporarily while you recover from cs. As pp said that would be the worst idea.

Stay strong and look after yourself and fgs woman, relax and rest til that baby comes!

Trees, at this time of year you might know of a university student or even a school leaver who could move in temporarily and help you over the summer?

Amazing woman moving with all this going! Look after yourself and use all the help you can get from WH but without the boys thinking he's back for good.

As it is summer and people will be off shortly for school holidays etc could you just arrange heaps of sleepovers for yourself with various different friends and family members so you're not on your own but without asking too much of anyone just a night or two here and there?

I'm sure a few of us mumsneters would sooner mind you than have WH move back in

You're all lovely! Sorry if my language has been a bit course! I'll stop saying penis and wanker so much 😁

Despite us both being a bit awkward about it, BIL is staying in the spare room tonight since it was short notice today and I decided to try and keep WH at bay for a little longer at least. So far no one has been shagged so we're all good. Though I can't sleep!

Will come up with brilliant solution tomorrow when I've had some sleep. BIL is doing the school run which the kids will enjoy the novelty of and which WH is probably a little salty about.

I'm not trying to punish him by keeping him away from the kids but I don't want tp have to keep fudging explainations as to why he's not here permanently anymore 😳

Hi Trees, sorry WH has let you down again, makes you wonder how long the unfaithful wanker been putting it about.
Hope you can manage a nap today or an hour or 2 with your feet up at least - you must be exhausted. Please try an get some rest lovie - I do worry about you.

Hi Trees, take a deep breath and remember how fantastic you are. You have kept your dignity and humour when most couldn't.

I hesitate to offer advice as you seem so sorted but I would take let your married friend stay over. It will give you some breathing space for the moment.

Keep WH away and swear as much as you want!

No need to apologise about language . Not surprised you couldn't sleep what with new house and "strange" man in spare room! Get some rest today x

If he would go and get his own place, somewhere he could have the DC, I honestly think you would start to feel more relaxed. It takes that uncertainty away for you, and DC and allows him to give real practical help, and give you a break. I think much of the tension is coming from the ongoing uncertainty, and him keeping the pressure on to get back in.

Obviously some of it is because a baby is soon to arrive, but a bit of actual physical and mental space seems just what you need, and also allows you time to plan for after the baby's here. You can still have someone stay over if you want/need.

If he's a little salty then so be it

It's not a bad thing - you've suffered enough, he actually hasn't suffered much at all. In fact, if he hadn't had his accident it would all still be going on.

Salty?
I wonder how salty he'd feel if he discovered that his wife had been shagging someone she met on an online game for months behind his back whilst he was pregnant with their child...oh right... but...
He doesn't have the right to be salty about anything really.

He's feeling salty? Consequence of the choices he made.

I hope you're managing to get some rest in amongst all the madness of moving Trees. The fact you've still got your sense of humour through all of this is worthy of a medal

Trees you're amazing! X

How are you doing, Trees?

just settling in for the evening, due to have a baby tomorrow :D Feeling all giddy and excited.

Going to be in the delivery room on my own, WH is coming to the hospital after the boys are deposited at school. He's really too squeamish to be at a delivery anyway I would think so best case all round.

Good luck for tomorrow. I remember the night before my section, I was so excited I didn't sleep a wink! I'm so sorry WH has done this to you. Just concentrate on you and the wee one and everything else will work out.

Wishing you a safe delivery tomorrow, Trees.

I'm sure your boys will be very excited to see the new baby.

How exciting trees! I hope it's a wonderful experience you have your precious little one in your arms asap!!

I am like a little kid waiting impatiently for christmas, though I have also had a few wee teary moments because i don't feel like WH is here to share this with me. I know he's super excited too, but we aren't really talking at the minute, like, not proper talking, and that kind of sucks.

Trees something to look forward to very excited for you . You'll have lovely support from staff. Wouldn't want WH to turn bilious and make prat of himself

Wishing you a safe delivery tomorrow . You're awesome.

In terms of the section I have chosen to think of myself as a casual observer to proceedings as i'm assuming someone else will be doing all the work for me

if i'm wrong about that, don't tell me.

Oh Trees, good luck and how exciting! I've had three planned sections and found them all very calm and happy experiences. He is a very lucky baby to have you as his mum 💐❤️

Thinking about you tomorrow. Hope it all goes beautifully