He had an affair...breaking out the Ben & Jerry's (2)

[Syc4moreTrees]

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Not sure if I've managed to create a link to the old thread...someone more tech savvy can maybe help me out a little bit if not?

The old thread closed before i could thank you all again for all the collective wisdom, it's been a very surreal month to say the least, but it's been crazy how much support you can get from a bunch of lovely strangers.

So thanks!! You're all awesome!

All the best Sycamore! Hope you have a lovelg relaxing birth..

am like a little kid waiting impatiently for christmas, though I have also had a few wee teary moments because i don't feel like WH is here to share this with me. I know he's super excited too, but we aren't really talking at the minute, like, not proper talking, and that kind of sucks.

Then share it with him because it's Your choice to do so and because that's what You want. There are no 'rules' you have to stick to.
This is a unique time, a time you will never have again. If you Want to share it with your husband and father of your child, then go for it. Don't be filled with regret that his actions have spoilt this time for you too.
Maybe it will be an opportunity to do some 'proper' talking and start to move your things forward..

Oh how exciting....best of luck!! I found having a section a breeze, they were lovely in theatre - the radio was playing, lots of smiley happy chat and a very relaxed experience. Recovery was a bit more meh but cross that bridge when you get to it . You're both still parents together at the end of the day, don't feel bad if you need more help/support from him than you'd really like over the next few weeks. Whatever happens between you both, you still have 3 children to share and bring up together. There will be better times ahead, especially with your new little baby .

So exciting, wishing you a calm and safe delivery tomorrow

Wishing your little one a gentle arrival into the world. Lots of good wishes to you.

Good luck for tomorrow and please don't worry about the c-section. I've had three and it's a nice calm environment when planned. The surgical team will first introduce themselves and explain everything before the delivery. You certainly won't feel unsupported in there

All the best for tomorrow.

Wishing you all the best for tomorrow. Xx

I had two planned sections and look back on them very fondly.

I downloaded the songs I wanted to listen to and when I hear them today a huge smile breaks out on my face.

It is a slightly weird feeling, a bit as if someone is rummaging around in the white wash for a black sock. But absolutely doesn't hurt.

ARNICA! Sorry to shout but can you start taking it in pill form now? I did it diligently with DD birth and then was all too blasé a few years later with DS. And that made a big difference in recovery time.

And chug back the lactulose easily the most painful moment of all was the Day 3 constipation from taking co-dydramol.

Best of luck.

Yes, take your favourite CD - we forgot with DD2 and she was born to the sound of JEREMY CLARKSON'S DRIVING ANTHEMS because that's all they had in theatre (had come free with the Daily Mail IIRC)

Arnica did nothing for me but eat prunes for the constipation. And remember it's better to take the drugs and move freely than not take them and limit your movement because of pain - helps pull everything back into place so you'll recover faster.

All the best for tomorrow meeting your baby
You are one strong woman
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Oh yes - don't try to be a hero with your pain meds and stretch them out. By the time you feel the pain it takes a lot longer for them to work IYSWIM. take them on the dot. There's no point in being a martyr

Snorting at Clarkson Driving Anthems.

Aaah all the best for tomorrow OP! Will be thinking of you!

Best of luck tomorrow op-lots of love to you xx

How exciting! Hope you get a good night's sleep tonight and tomorrow is a calm, lovely experience..
You're amazing 😉

Good luck trees, you are a truly awesome lady!!!

Best of luck for tomorrow Trees sure it will all go smoothly.

Good luck

Good luck for tomorrow Trees! Xxx

Very good luck Trees. Enjoy the total high of meeting your baby.

Trees, wishing you all the luck in the world.
I hope you have a wonderful delivery and enjoy your new baby.

I want to be like you when I grow up!
❤️❤️❤️

Good luck mrs. Give babies head a good sniff for me. Nothing better than the smell of a new un. Xx

All the best trees . You are a wonderful person and mother and wife . You are a phenomenal woman. Looking forward to hearing of the new arrival!

I'm firmly in the say yes to drugs camp 😁

I've packed and re-packed my wee hospital bag many times. I feel so giddy.

WH is here for the evening, we have called a ceasefire for the night and are leaving the elephant facing the far wall so we can pretend that life is jolly and lovely and good.

We don't want baby's birth overshadowed by it all. Hopefully it's not a mistake...I'll just pretend it's fine 🤦🏻‍♀️

You are both obviously excited for the birth, hope you can have a restful night, wishing you well for tomorrow. Take care xx