The Dating Thread 118. Online and real life dating advice

[Bant]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

Hi everyone, glad to find this thread (can't imagine reading entire thing to catch up though). One week today on Tinder, it's been lots of fun already. No Idea what I'm doing though!

fortuna yes, you were here then! We had an OI (over investors) corner with wine and chocolate and I was usually in it
I'm thinking Pof is best, I met my lovely man there although I spotted him in match too. Bit pointless paying when most are on Pof too, I think...
tinder drove me mad, I was always swiping the wrong way. Is that the one you can do super likes by accident when you're trying to look at more pics of the same person?

I struggle with tinder and swiping too, accidentally swiped the wrong way on some complete weirdos and they matched me. I prefer POF and I find it easy to use.

I'm not sure if I should hide my profile whilst dating Mr Surf, I'm not really sure if it's going to go anywhere but a huge part of me wants to DTD with him I just don't think our life styles are suited, as soon as he steps foot into my house he will probably run a mile.

I have spent all morning removing clutter from my house, mainly because I'm worried that if I ever bring a man back here he may think I'm some kind of hourder. I have filled the car up with bags of rubbish and my house still looks a mess.

I caved in and paid for tinder (only one month) just for the rewind function because I kept swiping the wrong way or accidentally flicking up and super liking people.

It's easy enough to unmatch but I have a fear of missing out so constantly rewinding to swipe right. Only to unmatch again!

LM I would advise not to hide your profile until he's made some form of commitment to you, but that's because I've done that with two guys, then a few mths down the line I realise he hadn't, then I wished I hadn't, but felt it would be too much of a statement to put it back up

Hindsight is a wonderful thing and I guess that's the point at which I should have walked away...

My house is the same. Maybe that's why my relationships haven't worked out yet

Just wondering what kind of info you put on your profiles? Haven't written one yet, tinder picked out a few recent photos of me and I've just gone with that so far.

Just wondering what kind of info you put on your profiles? Haven't written one yet, tinder picked out a few recent photos of me and I've just gone with that so far.

Smeaton that's great I hope date 2 goes well.

That's a shame Lana but yeah, keep on.

LM I agree with anothernew

My house feels messy but I tend to spend any free time I get working or relaxing. I did housework instead of working extra yesterday afternoon. Young children don't help! The conservatory is basically DD'S playroom it used to be the dining area, but at least I have somewhere to stick stuff when I don't have time for a proper tidy.

I'm literally frantically tidying my house for potential Mr Texan action this evening, just stacked baskets of washing in one of the kids bedrooms lol

Fieryfighter Ha! Hope you have a good night.

Right, going to start getting ready now for my date with Mr Meet Me. I haven't slept well and I feel tired, ugly and bloated, but let's see what magic some GHDs and makeup can do...!

Good luck to you too pringlecat look forward to hearing how it went.

So after complaining of not being able to meet anyone remotely normal on OLD I seem to have done.
Met on tinder, have a date set for Friday after work- no idea what to wear!
He's not bad looking but I don't massively fancy him from his pics. He does make me laugh in the couple of conversations we've had though so figured I might fancy him more in the flesh and it's good to jump in and get this dating malarkey going!

Yes @Movingon1611 I met someone who seems normal on Tinder (rather surprisingly) and so far, so good four dates in. Good luck for Friday!

@Fieryfighter You sound like me as that's the sort of thing I would do - pile loads of washing in the kid's rooms. Good luck for later. Looking forward to hearing how it went ;-)

I like hearing about the Texan sounds good!

No dating apps yet but 2 irons in the fire. One is v ropey.

Actually they both are.

Mr golfer works in my building - he's v cute and flirty and buys me chic every week but I've been burned dating a colleague before and though he might leave soon I plan to be there for years!

Mr mechanic - texting me daily but related to a v close friend. Similar reasons to abo e why this isn't a good idea.

Well, Mr Meet Me was lovely. Very easy to talk to, but I get the impression he finds it easy to talk to everyone. Height was OK (I wore heels) but I don't think there was a spark on his side.

He's cute, but I'm very curvy and he's very skinny and I'm not sure we look right together, if you know what I mean. I'd see him again, but I didn't sense anything romantic on his side.

Hi all to answer the damp questions it seemed worse when he talked, but also generally all over him. So awkward and I wouldn't have the futs to tell him.

Met Mr Cook today and so easy!! Definitely meeting again. He isn't my usual type but is easy to talk with and we have things common and the hugging and snogging was good .

Pringle it sounds like it could have potential. Have you thought about a short "lovely to meet you" message to see if thst encourages some feedback?

Fiery how did it go? hopefully the 'this is my house tour' avoided the kids rooms

Queen would it be safer to cast the line again?

Movingon wear something thst you're comfortable in that flatters your best bits!

Guts not futs!

LanaDReye I want to. I'm being a coward. Will wait a bit because he should still be travelling and won't be able to read a text anyway.

He paid for our coffees (what a gent) and I kinda want to offer to buy him coffee next time, but I don't know if he's interested in a next time. I am not good at putting myself out there!

Lana - line casting indeed. I won't have a sitter for about a month now so I reckon I can start poking around to line up a date for a months time. Stops me launching myself too fast!

Aaargh Mr Texan been delayed on way back from an event in London, date pushed back to 8 instead of 6! I shall be climbing the walls by then 😂

I actually bought condoms while shopping earlier, and I bought normal and king-size in case he really is in proportion... I thought that was hilarious! 😂😂

"Queen* they don't sound like great ideas do they, maybe look further.

Pringle I'd definitely text and say nice to have met you, you might get an idea what felt.

Mr cook sounds like he has potential Lana

Fieryfighter I hope Mr Texan meets your expectations...!

OK, have sent him a friendly message. Now going to put phone down and not stress about it. Easier said than done.

Hope you hear back from him pringle, I try not to get my hopes up, I planed on waiting for Mr Surf to message me after our date, he messaged as soon as he got into his car. I'm trying to play it cool, have had a few messages today, asked me why I was so quiet today (I hadn't messaged because he said he was busy today), he's now asking if he can phone me earlier tomorrow than we planed, he also said he couldn't sleep last night as he was thinking about me . I'm trying not to OI so mad playing it really cool by not saying too much. I don't want to get my hopes up.

My other irons have backed off a bit, they probably sense that I'm not that keen on meeting them. Mr deep thinker kind of ruined things by telling me that he rides a moped and carries his cat in a bag