Dh has died and the MN lifesavers are helping us to keep our heads above water

[JuanPotatoTwo]

New thread :). Thought I'd start this one like I ended the last one - Bertie crashed out after a busy day's mischief making.

Hi Jane I think the belly button may have been worse than the theme park

Well they're all tucked up, DH has made the cake and I've showered and in my PJs.

book another busy day for you! willow the world of work frightens me!

Hope that you all sleep well.

Well,
I am heading for bed- sleep well all
Thoughts and Prayers x

Morning just

feet only just touching the ground! One very happy boy with cake and presents. Just didn't want to go to school of course.

Hope you're all OK. We've got some lovely sunshine today but luckily not quite so hot.

Afternoon all
Happy birthday to your DS Cake - I bet he enjoys school too :) ( do they still sing Happy Birthday at school -?)
Been rather busy - 2 loads of washing done, then picking redcurrants - first load . Its back breaking so I try to do it over a few days , but that lot safely freezing now . Ironed every last thing, including the bits at the bottom of the pile .
Having a sit down - a coffee is due I think - DH is doing something up a ladder - not sure if he is window washing or what to be honest.
Due back at the allotment to do a bit more this afternoon -
It was very warm this morning, but seems to be clouding over now - rain is forecast tomorrow, when we have DGS of course!
Have a good afternoon all

Happy Birthday 🍰🍰 to mini-cake.

Work today, then I've just gardened for an hour - light weeding and pruning in the front to avoid pressure washing in the back 😉.

Thinking of you Juan.

Hello

Had a text from Juan to say she's feeling slightly better.

Yes, book he got sung to and got to wear the birthday hat

Thanks for all the wishes, he's had an epic day and lots of presents lego for DH to build

An hour in the garden is an hour in the garden Squirrels

DD has the orthodontist in the morning, so school run for DS, then after take her off and drop her back and then collect again in the afternoon...and meant to be raining now, but I'm sure the pond and flowers and veggies/herbs will like it. Seem to have some courgettes growing and some lovely big flowers on there too. Quite pleased!

Thinking of you all. Anyone have an update on Selena and her DH?

(((hugs to you all))

Happy birthday to Cake Junior . Glad he had a nice day.

It has rained solidly all day today, not even warm rain either.

I came home from work today to a very industrious house, DS2 cooking, DS3 hoovering and the washing machine going. There was even a queue to use it as I wanted to put a load in and DS3 was going to do his. We managed to sort out a rota.

Thinking of you as always Juan, but especially as it's Monday. Glad Cake has been in touch & you are feeling a little better.

Evening all
Just having a quick break from crotchet.
Chasing - thats an hour banked though :)
Cake - relieved to hear Juan is feeling a bit better - have been thinking a lot of her today, being Monday .
We used to have a pretend birthday cake when I was at school for singing Happy Birthday to. I was the unlucky one mind - my birthday was in the holiday.
Drama - my you have trained them well !

We could really do with the rain, and it is certainly chillier tonight -better sleep for me !

Hi, thanks for asking cake.

After looking and sounding at death's door last Thursday, DH rallied somewhat after nursing home adjusted meds early Friday. He's still classed as 'very poorly', as he is, but 'stable'. Lucid and chats in fits and starts, sleeps a lot of the time. Stubborn as usual but lovely to hear him say that in no pain .

Been raining here so rushed out and scattered 4 in 1 on the lawn in the vain hope the buttercups, daisies (although they do look pretty, I think) dandelions and everything else will give way to the grass.

Sleep well, everyone.

Haha book, did you notice I didn't mention DS1? All my training methods have utterly failed with him. I suppose two out of three isn't bad

Selena so glad your DH is stable & pain free.

Just popped in to say goodnight
Nice to hear from you Selena and that your DH is stable
Drama - two out of three is a pretty good rate ... ( on a side note - when DD went off to uni, she was the only one out of the six in her flat of 3 boys, 3 girls, who knew not only how to cook, but how to wash clothes how to wire and change a fuse in a plug , how to change a light bulb .. )
Sleep tight all
Thoughts and Prayers xx

book DS2 says similar about his university flatmates, that he was the only one who could cook, wash clothes, clean the kitchen properly etc. He was surprised that this was the case. So was I! DS1 actually can do all the above, he just never seems to get round to it...

Goodnight all x

Hello all

Selena that is wonderful news.

Drama I think that's a good hit rate too as that's the one thing I give MIL all the credit for - raised men who can do it all.

DD's dental visit went well. He says it's already made a big difference and praised her for good brushing too. Back in 6-8 weeks.

Not much else to report here. Managed to skype my folks last night and it worked really well for 25 minutes which was just fantastic. (They have very poor mobile internet). Got to chat to the kids, to me, see bits in the house/garden that we've changed etc.

Love to you all x

Nice to hear good news, Selena.

Afternoon all.

Well summer's here its bucketing down since morning

Drama can you come over and work on my teen please? Not that he cant do things he just doesnt want to so does them really fast and half arsed

Well Leavers Assembly over and done with. Bit of a let down as they didnt do a full assembly, no 'mumbled words from the minister', no leavers song. But maybe just as well as that would have started me off! And just had a thought, they didnt get presented with their dictionaries either! Wonder why? The rest was funny and clever and nostalgic. Last day tomorrow! Where did the time go?
(teen not going tomorrow, shhh, dont tell anyone, not doing work will be watching a film and they have a sponsored 5k run! I will pay the sponsor money and he can stay home, his friend is in same boat re hay fever and running around surrounded by fields so will be coming here!)

Selena Glad your DH is having a much easier time and showing his stubborness

Just exciting housework here today. Made appointment for ds2 at gp tomorrow a.m as he has started with a cough last couple of days. Have started him with his inhalers as a precation. Just want a script for steroids and antibiotics for hols 'just in case'. Dont want to spend another 4 hours waiting to see a dr and then tracking down a chemist in bloody GCan like we did on first day of hols in October last year! It never blooming fails, one of them has a medical 'incident' on holiday. DS1 got a bit of heatstroke first day last year, DS2 slipped of a kerb and ripped his knee open and skinned his leg! October was a chest infection. Arghghg kids are a liability

Hope suns shinning for the rest of you.

Willow you'll be glad to hear they improve on the 'fast & half arsed' as they get older . It's so important isn't it to make sure they can do household stuff, I certainly don't want to be responsible for handing over useless men to their eventual partners. I have to say MIL did a great job with her boys, so DH has set ours a good example too.

Lovely sunshine here today, I think you have the rain we had yesterday.

quick dip in, coffee and rest !
raining all day here - keeping DGS entertained indoors not too bad today- trains, the inevitable Paw Patrol and playing generally - though I do have to be the Joker (baddy) to his Batman . I just advise never to get a Richard Scarry Eye Spy game - crawling around on hands and knees to find things on a Richard Scarry game is hard work !
Willow - I am a terrible one for having a little weep - they just grow up so quickly! I'm not a fan of the sponsored runs for children at school - neither of mine were runners, hated it, and it seemed very unfair that every child had to do it, come rain, hail, shine.
Well, back to the coal face
have a good afternoon all xx

Hello. Very grumpy DS and has finally started raining here after first threatening at 9 this morning.

Saves watering the plants

Enjoying the slight reprieve and serving lasagne as DH doesn't like hot food in hot weather.

You sound like a great granny book I rarely get on the floor...

Thunder and torrential rain on and off here today, so no patio washing! I've got some plants from mum that I'll be able to dig a hole for now, and might take out a misplaced shrub - it was bargain basement and has grown to big for where I put it, but when the ground is dry there is no chance of moving it.

I miss being part of a couple, having someone who cares, having someone else to do stuff around the house and take some of the mental-work away instead of everything being down to me, having someone to share the day with, having someone to cuddle and give me a hug - god I need a hug, I was messaging with my WAY contact the other night, nothing specific just taking about stuff, and they suddenly said "I think you need a hug", and they are right.
I miss John for himself as well as for all those things, I'll never have another John and I'll always miss HIM, but maybe one day I'll meet someone else and fill some of those holes.

Day to day I'm just carrying on with life, and doing okay, and in some ways doing better - making contacts, expanding things etc. But it doesn't fill the hole, which is just massive, and it doesn't stop the grief just rolling up and smothering me at times.

Evening all
dishwasher on, toys tidied away, cup of tea = bliss.
Cake - its only one day a week - it would cripple me otherwise! DS is grumpy I assume as an overhang from yesterday ? Hopefully he ( and you) get a good nights sleep tonight.
Chasing - the weather is doing your job for you . I think the hugs and closeness must be the hardest bit - intellectually you can cope, emotionally is another matter . Sorry it's only virtual but ((hugs)) from me .

Sending a hand hold x

I'm just back from seeing DH and beginning to recognise just the glimmer of what it's going to be like, Squirrels, so huge hugs from me too. Coming into an empty house, no-one saying 'how was it' or lost in Holby City so just a wave. The cats do their best!, but going to be worse when we're back to the dark nights.

Oh well, I'll try and remember what we had, and at the moment still have a little bit (DH even brighter today!) and rejoice. It stopped raining here about 11, we've had sun, grey, threatening clouds - bit like my life at the moment!!

Juan, hope things getting a little easier, cheers to everyone and very many thanks for the support, it is so appreciated.

Hugs for everyone who needs one today.

Got txt re' engineer coming tomorrow. Between 8.40 and 11.30!! Ds2's Gp appoint is 8.30! Will leave note on door and if he is early hopefully neighbour will be able to let him in till I get back. Just typical eh? They didn't let me know when they were coming on Monday like they were supposed to and it was apparently my fault they came when I was out!

Raining again and cold have got heating on 😲
Need to get off my butt and do stuff but it's not happening.

oh Selena - i really don't know what to say - knowing what is likely to happen is no help really in these situations , apart from maybe realising its going to be a rough ride and not to stress about the little things . A hand hold from me too. Good to hear that DH seems to be doing as well as he is .
Willow - isn't that the way - its all well and good giving you a 'window', but when its as wide as that, what use on earth is it?
It is cold - had to go and find a cardigan to put on this evening.
Supposed to be pouring down tomorrow, so an inside sort of day it would seem.

Hugs squirrels and Selena sorry you're having a sad day.

It was very warm here today but not in a nice way. I was so tired all day had to really push myself to get stuff done and fell asleep on the sofa during Holby!

DS1 just back from a trip to Belfast. He loves it there. He had a great time with his friends. DS2 went to a friend's paint balling party after school and loved it. He has only two days left until summer holidays. The year is flying by.

Hope tomorrow is a better day for all