Dh has died and the MN lifesavers are helping us to keep our heads above water

[JuanPotatoTwo]

New thread :). Thought I'd start this one like I ended the last one - Bertie crashed out after a busy day's mischief making.

[TheWorldHasGoneToCake]

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2981382-DH-has-died-and-MN-Aunties-are-keeping-things-ticking-over-Juan

[TheWorldHasGoneToCake]

Hey ladies

I've started a new thread. Shame that I will now be the OP not Juan but I'm sure we can keep it going and she can restart when she's back.

[JaneJeffer]

Hi, hope all are well.

Mostly tennis watching here too with a bit of chicken management thrown in!

Hope Juan is ok.

[bookbook]

Evening
have enjoyed my day - sat watching tennis and wrestling with a special square I am knitting . Its not going well, as I was watching tennis at the same time - so of course I went wrong . ah well, start again, and learn from your mistakes .
Willow - the chores sound never ending ( she says eyeing her dried washing, waiting to be folded )
Cake - I have been avoiding the Lego movie - you are the better person!
Chasing - you will have your boys back by now I guess, so hope all is well
Have a good evening all - Selena - hope all is well with you, and lots of thoughts for Juan

[Willow2017]

Evening all

Just a pottering day here. Washing, ironing and never ending dishes😀
Sunny but clouds too and cool breeze out the sun.

Caught the last bit of the men's final ( thanks ds2 and your bloody Xbox game) and some of the doubles. Good for Roger well deserved. I shouldn't watch that kind of stuff I well up like a right woose😀

Caught the new Dr Who promo I was not a fan of a female Dr but will see how it goes from a woman's prospective I just hope they remember she is not human and not do a stereotype. Big Who fans here 😀

On hols we never even saw a mosquito never mind got bitten...until I woke up during the last night with arm itching and put it down to heat ... woke up with 4 bites on forearm! They are still itching like mad now not happy!

Hope everyone is having a relaxing Sunday. Thinking of Juan hope she gets back to you soon Cake

[TheWorldHasGoneToCake]

Yes I am a CM. With my own 2 we tend to have between 1 and 4 children here. Makes for a hectic day, but guess it keeps me out of trouble.

Roast is cooking nicely, waiting to Skype my parents.

DH came in at 2:30 so I took the children to the park and then after lunch I had a quick nap while he entertained DS. DD watched Minecraft vids on YouTube.

Text Juan yesterday but no response. Will let you know if I hear something and will pass on wishes at that time.

book DH has watched the F1 and now the children are watching a Lego movie so no tennis here!

Have a good evening all

[bookbook]

Morning all
nice to hear you had a good meal/night out Chasing - I do hope its helping you .
Cake - depends how big the slab was
Just gearing up to go to the allotment - I need to go to use calories up so I don't feel guilty eating the bacon sandwich DH makes for lunch :)
Tennis and F1 this afternoon - tricky one !
Thinking of Juan in particular as it is Sunday, but also of all of you
have a good day all

[Chasingsquirrels]

Cake, what do you DO? I don't know if I've missed it, I've assumed you childmind?

Had a good evening, thanks. One of the people I've met a couple of times was going and she texted me to see if I wanted to meet half way there (we were coming from slightly different directions) and them go the rest of the way together, so that was nice.

No plans for the day really.

[TheWorldHasGoneToCake]

Morning all

I couldn't manage it all in the end book don't worry

I got bored quickly and switched over to a subtitled drama on BBC4 and then DS woke half way through so messed about on I pad for a bit. DH came home at some point, got back up in the night and came back to bed at 6 - not sure if that means a good night or not!

We're having a relatively quiet day of play in the park, a roast and bits and pieces. Can't wait for Thursday when I will be "off" till the 31st. Of course in reality I'll still be doing everything like cooking/washing/getting up early but at least there'll be a different view

Hope you find the paper Selena How are you doing?

Squirrel I hope you had a good evening out. You're doing so well to put yourself out there when I know you don't really want to.

[bookbook]

Selena - eating gooseberries raw? thats like my DH . I need some sugar .
I was going demented looking for a sewing pattern this week - looked high and low. DD had taken home it to look at it .
Well the last of the tennis was poor, so off now to make some cocoa and a book to bed.
Hope everyone has a good nights sleep
Thoughts and Prayers

[SelenaValentina]

I can't watch tennis, in fact most sport, the commentators drive me wild - have been known to have it on silent but not often.

I thought we had some gooseberries, though not enough for jam, but it appears DS has been at them. He pulled some rhubarb (presumably whilst scoffing the g'berries) so am hoping I might get a bit of crumble courtesy of his partner.

Did spinning class this morning then chilled. Sorted out some of the foothills to the paper mountain and trying to keep on top of the replies from official stuff.

DH playing games again, had 2 copies of Order of Service from yesterday and went to get one to send to friend. Now only one. DS not taken - so where can it be? I remember putting both in the memory box kindly provided by the Undertaker.

Bizarre. Enjoy the rest of the evening everyone - it was horrible and wet here until about 3, then bit of sun, now dark grey again. Warm though.

[bookbook]

A slab! - I'm enjoying the doubles

[TheWorldHasGoneToCake]

LOL my DH has just gone out so I'm going to slob with a slab of mint oreo chocolate! Just watching the end of the men's doubles. Night all!

[bookbook]

ooh, a surrogate auntie and mummy! - no problems :)
DH went out - so pizza it was - plus some salad , and a mix box from M&S of snappeas/edamame beans etc - almost healthy, let down by the chocolate digestive biscuit with my cup of tea !
Willow - I make jam a lot, but its very easy to get complacent - My most spectacular mistake was making gooseberry jam with jam sugar ( the one with the extra pectin) . It was delicious, but you had to carve it with a knife - great with cheese though !
An evening of tennis - still going on - / Miss Marple and crotchet beckons.
Have a good evening all

[Willow2017]

Well jams made but was annoyed with myself I took my eye off the ball and it boiled over! First time in 20 years😉 fingers crossed it sets it's never guaranteed with my jam 😀 there was a huge amount of juice came out the berries. Was a bit ambitious with the amounts in the pan I think.

Book sounds like a plan.

cake shame about the walk.
Missed tennis and watching
Ds2 and my fave prog TWD yet again 😀

Might try a jar of rasp tomorrow if there is enough in the punnets.

Fell asleep on the sofa for an hour! Lazy so and so.

[TheWorldHasGoneToCake]

Hello, well here it's rained more on than off so we had a curtailed walk but as we were in the woods we didn't get too wet.

I'm hoping it's just the changes/exhaustion Squirrel, there's been a lot going on and then of course she's hormonal too!

I see we've both commented on the age gap thread. There's just no telling is there - take the happiness where you can find it! Hope you enjoy your meal tonight.

Glad you and ex found a system that works for you all.

book you can by my surrogate mummy then Hope DH goes out because that sounds lovely! We had pizza and slobbing last night.

We've been subjected to F1 Quali and now the Smurfs so no tennis here today.

[bookbook]

managed to get back from the market in time for the tennis - I am surrounded by shopping bags, will have to put away a bit at a time .
Actually not rained - forecasters eh? but don't mind as got everything done and out of the way. Just quietly willing on DH - he is deciding whether to go out shortly - if he does, I won't have to make tea, can throw a frozen pizza in the oven and watch all the tennis from a chair - total slob!

[JaneJeffer]

Had a quick tidy around and now settling in for the tennis. Horrible rainy and foggy day here.

It's been a few years since I made jam. I love raspberry jam but don't like raspberries on their own weirdly.

It's been one thing after another with my health the past five years but there's plenty of people worse off than me. They say things go in cycles of seven years so I'm hoping that when I get to my fifties I'll be flying I think dwindling hormones don't help either. It's just annoying to be limited in what you can do and as there's nothing visibly wrong people can be unsympathetic. I am a happy-go-lucky type of person so I just carry on the best I can though I do get anxious every now and then.

DH is working today. DS2 is a bit lost with his brother away and is listening to loud music in the kitchen!

[Willow2017]

Book
Screw came out the leg of glasses when I caught them on the washing machine! They are new so didn't cost me for repair. Not much of a saunter as was bucketing rain by time we got there. Stalls lacking in small strawbs for jam and no Rasps but got nice Scottish strawbs and cherries and peas. We go through bagfulls of peas here😀
Popped into Morrison's for strawbs, rasps and school kit for ds2.
Now just got to sterilize jars and make jam! It's really not cheaper to make jam these days but it's such a tradition I carried on from my mum doing it I still like to do it and kids love home made jam.

Ds1 amazingly came without fuss and was very helpful (wonder what he wants 😉)

Hope weather is better where you all are. (Oh well gets me out of washing the car and bike riding😉)

[bookbook]

Morning all
well, no allotmenting today - looked at weather and it is due to rain all day - so off to the big market to stock up on the amazing bread from an Italian bread stall, and take my watch to have a new battery fitted - oh the high life! :)
Jane -sounds like you have a lot to put up with (hugs) . I am on the whole remarkably healthy - rarely anything wrong. Do have one problem, which stopped me from continuing with my business ( well, it didn't but as I lifted lots and lots of books, and stood all day it sort of made sense not to carry on) but its under control, and doesn't really affect day to day life. DH however does have a chronic condition - so we are more bound by him than anything, but he normally just soldiers on , even though he is in pain all or most of the time.
Cake - have a lovely picnic, hope the weather stays nice for you -:) ( you are just about same age as my DD1!) - lack of sleep is a killer no doubting it.
Chasing - I suspect the weekends are not good , when you don't have the boys to keep you on your toes - when my two finally left the nest, I felt a bit rootless at first , not quite sure what my role was anymore, - it takes time to find a new meaning to what you are doing. Take care and pamper yourself Neighbour sounds nice - maybe a new frienship group for support there .
Willow - not a nip into town - a saunter - make the most of it ! glasses repaired from accident I take it?
Thinking of Selena after the emotion of yesterday, and Juan
Enjoy today all

[Willow2017]

Omg this phone!!
WOKE DS2 UP FOR SWIMMING.

[Willow2017]

Morning all.

Change of plans this am. Up and organised and wime ds2 up fit swimming. He came down eyes all red and itchy and nose bunged up and grotty. Not conducive for swimming😀 oh well he spent holidays in a pool/sea so won't stress over it.
Will nip into town before it gets busy and pick up my glasses and get the fruit. My be forced to get a coffee too😉

My 2 both eat fruit like it's going out of fashion. Ds2 loves salad and some other veg but ds1 not so much only really eats 2 kinds of raw veg.

squirrels another busy day for you. Good luck with the rafting. I took the router yesterday and their phones. They can use the Wi-Fi on their phones without the router which is a pain. I control the pc but don't botgrt with setting times now as ds1 is old enough to be up late and if the Wi-Fi went off in the middle of an important part of an online game with one of those you rivers you would hear the wails. He has been invited by two of the 'famous' you tubers to play online with them which in kids world these days is pretty amazing. He is good at those games though.

cake enjoy you day out sounds lovely.

Thoughts of selena & Juan

[Chasingsquirrels]

Cake hopefully your dd-grumps are just end-of-term-ness, enjoy your NT outing and picnic.

My boys are with their dad for half of every weekend, it alternates so one week it is Fri evening - Sat evening, and the next week Sat late afternoon - Sun late afternoon. Plus Mon after school and he drips then back to school on Tue morning. Then school holidays are about 50/50.
We started out like that because they were only 5 and 2 when he left and we through little and often contact was better. We've had thoughts of changing to every other weekend over the years as in many ways it would make life easier, but the kids don't want to. Occasionally we will each have the odd full weekend if we want to do stuff.

Cake can you pass on my thoughts to Juan please x

Willow I've got a fruit eater in ds2 too, ds2 on the other hand thinks most fruit and veg are poison. Hope they stop with the bickering, with your WiFi do you have to take the router away? I've got mine set up so their access is time limited (stops overnight, different times for the two of them) and I can just turn their access off altogether if needed - while keeping my access. Not so useful now they have phones with data, but effective at times.

My mum and dad have an allotment area at the end of their garden and used to have heaps of strawberries, raspberries, gooseberries etc, ds1 used to pick and eat but wont touch stiff now. My dad used to grown beans and loads of other veg. They have cut down a lot recently (age) and are now talking about moving 😐.

Not been a great week, my period is about to start which might explain some of it. Just tired and lethargic and can't be bothered.
Went round to a friends across the road last night which was nice, someone I know from baby group when ds1 was tiny and then ds2 and her ds became friends and are periodically in and out of our houses - ds2 is 2 years younger and it ebbs and flows a bit more now. She is really nice but we've never really established a friendship, more an acquaintance-ship which is a shame. She had a couple of her friends, who I'm more casually acquainted with, round and she asked me over.

Boys are rafting at scouts this morning and then they are investing a load of them - including ds2 who has been going since Easter 2016, but due to various circumstances isn't actually invested yet! So I'm taking them and ds2 friend from above and going to watch, it's on the river about 5 miles away next to a pub.

Then tonight I'm going to a WAY meal, it's booked for 8, a few of the people who went to the NT meet - 1 of whom I had lunch with last week, and some I haven't met.

Selena you are in my thoughts.

[TheWorldHasGoneToCake]

Morning you lot

I'm turning 36 in September and feel about 105. Luckily touch wood I still have all body parts including appendix, tonsils etc and not broken anything either. I haven't been on a bike in years!

We're off to a NT this morning - has great outdoor play area, so packing a picnic.

Willow I hope you get lots of lovely fruit today and make him carry it all.

Jane that does sound like a lot of health stuff piled on. (((hugs)))

book hope you nice weekend full of fruit/veg

Thinking of you Squirrels, Selena and Juan too

[Willow2017]

Book I love gooseberries. We used to have a bush when I was a kid. Nothing like picking them fresh ( and it was great for caterpillars too 😀)

Jane I am a bit of a wreck too. Knackered neck and shoulders from years of nursing before joists were compulsory (and any use) dodgy knee, dodgy ankle and foot after I broke both a year between each other! Went half a century with no broken bones then went mad! And my balance ain't what it used to be either. We can be crocks together 😉
Hope you are having as restful a night as possible Selena .