Tell me there's an innocent explanation for this...

[backscratcher]

Talk me down please.

Been with dp almost 3 years. Lovely guy, good relationship, no doubts whatsoever about him. Both in our late 30s, live together, I have one child from previous relationship. We're happy.

Tomorrow is my sister's birthday. Small party/family meal has been planned - details confirmed about 2 weeks ago. I discussed with dp who said he couldn't make it as he had to work overtime tomorrow and wouldn't be finished until late. Was unsure at what time exactly, but would be late. Overtime isn't uncommon in his workplace, but he doesn't tend to pick it up. We don't need the overtime money. Not well off, but not struggling - managing ok. I thought nothing of it.

Tonight he's gone upstairs for a bath and left his phone on charge in the kitchen. Phone buzzed with a message. It's an iphone where part of the message shows up on the homescreen but it's password protected and I don't know the password. Message said "6:30 suits me. XXXXXX does great french martinis!! ;-) Are you coming straight..." It was from David. I don't know a David. I don't know that he is friends with a David.
I googled the XXXXX place and it's a pub/restaurant place about a 40 minute drive away.

This was about an hour and a half ago.
He's in bed now and I'm sitting here shaking.

Please talk me down. This is innocent, right?

:-(

I just wanted to say I'm thinking of you. This must be incredibly difficult. I hope you are going to be OK. Hugs.

Good luck OP. It sounds a horrible situation to be in.

What was the point of this thread when you're going to let him deny it and decide to stay with him?

You're going to show your hand via a phone call?

Really?

Did you not read any of the advice saying that that is the worst thing you could do?

Why did you post?

If he's supposedly pulling a double shift can't you just ring him at work? If he's slunk off to the premier inn he won't be there will he? If he's at work then he's not sticking his tongue in davids ear is he?

I mean call him on the work number, not his mobile.

zesty I'm assuming she posted for support... she isn't obligated to take anybody's advice

Hey it's not fair to criticise Zesty OP is in an awful situation. She posted for support not us telling her what to do

Fuck off Zesty.

I called him twice. No answer. I text him to say I needed to talk and I'd call him at work.
He text back straight away that he'd call me in 10 minutes, that he was busy.
I called the factory. Big surprise he was on the early shift. Oh silly me, I said, mixed up his rota, so sorry etc.
I called his mobile. He answered. I said that I knew he wasn't at work and that I hoped he was enjoying his French martinis at xxxxxxx. He hung up.
I've called back. Phone is switched off and going straight to voice mail.
Fucking cunt.

Hope it turns out to be OK OP. Good luck 😉

Hope there's an innocent explanation OP.

Pack his stuff and leave it in the garden. . Then block his number. .
What a bastard. .

OP.

What's your plan now? Go to your sisters?

Aw hell op hope you get some answers soon.

surprise Fri 12-May-17 17:53:42
Hope there's an innocent explanation OP.

I think we are beyond that now.

<strong>OP</strong> Big Soft (((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))

Came in to catch on this thread - still hope it's not what you think

I'm so sorry he has been caught like a deer in the headlights so it seems.
You need your friends and family right now xx

At least you've got time to pack his shit and leave it out!
Poor you... go celebrate your sisters birthday and the fact you are a few stone lighter... no one needs a knobhead hanging round their neck!
Best wishes x

Now you know. Clear all his stuff out of the house and cut him out completely. Ghost him. That drives them insane.

I've just read the whole thread - and I'm so sorry to see your latest update :(

Sorry it's turned out like this, OP.

"Fuck off Zesty"

Quite.

Sorry op. He's a cunt. A cunt that's been caught out and will now be shitting his pants.

Go to your sisters. Be with people who love you.

What a dickhead

I'm so sorry OP.

I do think, with such overwhelming evidence, that you should have gone and caught the bastard out and thrown a drink over him, and her.

I'm guessing the hotel room is in his name.

He lied and said he we 'busy at work' whilst getting ready for his date.

He's not going to enjoy his date so much now but I do wish you had ruined it a little bit more. Or phone the hotel and order 1000 French Martinis to the room at midnight. Make sure you pay upfront on his card!!

Shit. I'm so sorry, OP. 💔💐