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Is anyone awake? I think I was just raped

355 replies

AskingForIt · 07/05/2017 02:30

I'm in shock. I don't know what to do. My friends are sleeping

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AskingForIt · 07/05/2017 03:56

I actually can't think straight. My head hurts and I feel sick

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octoberfarm · 07/05/2017 03:57

I'm so, so sorry this has happened to you. They will believe you. You're not stupid. You did nothing wrong. I know you're hurting and it hurts that you trusted him and he let you down, and I'm so sorry he did that. But I promise there are people who will help. Just take that first step of calling 101 to ask for advice. You don't even have to follow it, but at least you'll have options. One step at a time. We're here Flowers

AskingForIt · 07/05/2017 04:01

Thank you for holding my hand. I really need it

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londonrach · 07/05/2017 04:04

Please report this. You dont deserve this. His mental health controlling issues arent your problem. Sorry this happened to you xx

sara221 · 07/05/2017 04:07

Please call 101, you need them to help you. It is a unfortunately not uncommon for vulnerable people to fall prey to predators. The police have encountered your situation and will walk you through and get you to the right support.
I totally get you want to wash, please don't-the need need it all for evidence.
This will sound stupid-but why dont you go make yourself a cup of sweet tea, or get a glass of water(nothing strong) and sip.
Count to 100, just to calm yourself down and distract yourself.
When you feel able do call 101. Sending you more hugs.

AskingForIt · 07/05/2017 04:09

Thank you. Will try to pull myself together enough to call

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sara221 · 07/05/2017 04:14

No need to thank anyone-I hope you just call 101. Sending youFlowers

BusterGonad · 07/05/2017 04:49

Please do call 101 asking, at the moment you are in shock but there may be a time when you want this person to face up to what they have done, you may feel awful now and not strong enough but if you can just do this one thing and be very brave it may give you the strength and power to face it. And like everyone has said, there is nothing wrong with you at all, you are fine, it's the scumbags that did this to you that are disgusting inhumane human beings. Please keep trying to hold of your friends and please try to gather the strength to call the police. They will give you safety and guidance. Xx

AskingForIt · 07/05/2017 04:51

I've just called. Someone is coming to see me. It had better be a woman this time. Not sure I'm actually able to say what happened though

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BusterGonad · 07/05/2017 05:06

Well done asking you are very brave, just do it a step at a time, I haven't been through it myself so please if I'm saying the wrong thing do tell me, I'm here to offer support and hopefully give you strength, we are all behind you!

sara221 · 07/05/2017 05:06

You are incredibly brave and full of courage. The police can provide female officers if requested, the male officers are also trained to help and many are very sensitive.
Take your time and just tell them what has happened.
Sending you hugs

sara221 · 07/05/2017 05:19

I have to get to work, my thoughts are with you Flowers

BusterGonad · 07/05/2017 05:29

Asking I'm free all day so if you need a hand hold I should be around. Stay strong.

tanyadm · 07/05/2017 05:35

Offering support as well, you are so brave. You will be believed, and we believe you. x

picklemepopcorn · 07/05/2017 05:53

I'm sorry this has happened. You are being very brave. I hope the person they send has been sensitive.

Mummyoflittledragon · 07/05/2017 06:00

I hope they're with you now Flowers. So sorry this happened to you again. They will believe you.

cafenoirbiscuit · 07/05/2017 06:05

No is a complete sentence.
Please think about changing your user name. What happened was not your fault.
Flowers Brew

FruitCider · 07/05/2017 06:13

Just got up for work.

I've been in your position, waiting for an officer to come over. Try not to wash if you can, though I understand the wait is horrific. Even if your local SARC is closed they will be able to take you there out of hours, they can ring a SARC nurse/doctor who is on call to meet you there.

Will be thinking of you today

FlowersFlowers

Laineymc7 · 07/05/2017 06:48

They should open for emergencies op. Please call the police now if they can't help. The police will deal with this in the same way. They will not arrest, speak to anyone etc without your consent. But they will get you the help you need and preserve any evidence now. Police always have access to refer people to these centres. Reporting this offence to police doesn't mean you are pressing charges and the suspect will not know you have done this. The report can be closed at Any time and will be guided by your wishes. Please call them and get some help and advice.

Forkrightorf · 07/05/2017 07:40

I'm so sorry OP and so pleased you found the strength to call the police. We are all behind you Flowers

finx14 · 07/05/2017 08:03

This happened to me, first date after marriage split. I was manipulated into having sex, I now know I was raped. I buried it for 5 years but still feel the after effects. No trust, etc x

randomuntrainedcuntowner · 07/05/2017 08:07

What an arsehole. Let him lull himself (he won't), he's not your problem.

SparklyMagpie · 07/05/2017 09:45

Oh OP :(
Well done for being so brave and ringing the police
I hope you've been seen now

Hand hold from me Flowers

BusterGonad · 07/05/2017 09:49

Just me again, just letting you know that I'm thinking of you! 🌷

OnTheRise · 07/05/2017 09:56

I hope you're ok. You've done the right thing by calling the police.