Is anyone awake? I think I was just raped

[AskingForIt]

I'm in shock. I don't know what to do. My friends are sleeping

Are you in the UK? I know youre probably not minded to trust a bunch of strangers on the Internet but perhaps if people who are free right now can give their rough location you can PM a MNer who knows the law to go with you and advocate on your behalf? I'm a firm believer in the power of MN, although I'm sure MNHQ will be along in a bit to remind us to be sensible about it.

Yes I'm in the uk

Oh OP - we believe you

Keep trying Rapecrisis. x

I believe you.

I believe you.

I believe you.

Could you post a rough area where you are. I'm sure one of us can help.

MNHQ I think we are all sensible. The op needs help not money. She really needs help seeing as the authorities have let her down so badly.

Being raped by someone I trusted was bad enough. But this makes it so much worse

OP you can self refer to a SARC. See this:

'If you have not reported the assault to the police, you can still refer yourself to a SARC for assessment and medical treatment to prevent some STIs and pregnancy.
If you refer yourself to a SARC and are considering reporting the assault to the police, the centre can arrange for you to have an informal talk with a specially trained police officer, who can explain what is involved.

There are also specially trained advisers available in some SARCs or voluntary organisations to help people who have been sexually assaulted. These independent sexual violence advisers (ISVA) can help victims get access to the other support services they need'

www.nhs.uk/Livewell/Sexualhealth/Pages/Sexualassault.aspx

You can find your nearest one using this:

www.nhs.uk/Service-Search/Rape-and-sexual-assault-referral-centres/LocationSearch/364

I would like to think they would be more use than the police are being and might be able to speak to the police for you.

I'm sorry I can't offer any practical advice beyond what pp have said, but I just want you to know that I also believe you and I'm so sorry that this has happened and is happening to you

I am sorry the police have been so useless.

I'm not in the UK so cannot give any advice, but I think WaitingYet has it right - get help from people who understand consent.

I'm sorry this has happened op. I wonder if you might get further tomorrow being it's Monday.

Thank you everyone for your support. I think I need to try and sleep now before I start hallucinating

Hope you get some sleep OP

Hope you get some sleep, but if you haven't yet please don't shower. I know that's hard

OP If you need RL help in getting to a police station or a support centre I will gladly do that as I'm sure others would to so if you feel you can say what county you are in - which will NOT in itself be identifying given the vast numbers of folks in each County - then please please do and let us help you

Please please do not wash no matter how grim that may feel, it's vital and it won't be long until you can shower etc; also preserve clothes and bedding. And please call 999 if 101 fobbed you off as clearly that is their error in every sense ok? And sexual assault is an emergency ESP given need to be seen by specialised teams of medical staff as well as Police per se.

I believe you too

I'm in the east end of London OP if I could help at all in terms of going with you. Hope you're sleeping, but please don't shower until you decide what you're going to do. Also, don't wash the clothes you were wearing - police take them too as there will be discharges with his dna on etc.
I hope you'll be ok. I was raped too, though by a stranger. I had an ambulance 'crew' tell me they were there because I called rape and her colleague tell me not to call them ever again in relation to 'this' incident because I then roared at her to get the fuck out. I had bruised and possibly broken ribs.

He raped a 15 year old less than a month later and is now being sentenced on 22nd May (was supposed to be 4th, but probation officer hadn't prepared his report).
It seems horrendous when nobody believes you. I'm guessing the officer you met was not a specially trained sex offences officer.
I believe you.

Appalling behaviour by the police. Keep trying, OP. You deserve justice. We all do.

The police should investigate. They shouldn't try and decide what the outcome of that investigation may be yet. And they should offer you a medical at a sexual assault referral centre.

Please keep calling them.

Frighteningly he is on the sexual offences team. Just keeps telling me that Sex was the natural progression. I just don't understand how it's ok to stick an uncondomed penis into someone without some kind of indication that's about to happen. I didn't have a chance to say no. It never occurred to me that was about to happen so I couldn't try to stop him

Take his name, rank etc and write them down. Then ask to speak to a more senior member of the team. Get their name and rank too. Keep records of who you spoke to and when and what they told you. Rape is penetration without consent. That's exactly what happened to you after you'd clearly stated you didn't want sex.

I'm not sure I have any strength left. I feel so stupid I'm so ashamed of myself for calling the police

He said it was 'just a conversation in a pub' didn't count as me saying I didn't want sex

Neither did any of the other conversations

Just checked Wikipedia and it says in UK law rape is defined as 'any kind of non consensual penetration'. I think you've basically been unlucky and the man you're speaking to is also a misogynist. Definitely ask to speak to someone more senior.

There was s woman with him too. She agreed with him. I thought you had to be certain of consent? I have it in black and white from him that he wasn't and that he got carried away