Is anyone awake? I think I was just raped

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I'm in shock. I don't know what to do. My friends are sleeping

Not sure it will get me anywhere but it was quite therapeutic putting down on paper.

These cases can look very different in the cold light of day. I once did jury service and sat on a rape case that ran for 7 days and the defendant was found not guilty. The circumstances were, in my opinion, much more evidential than this one poetentialy seems to be. Of course only the OP and the alleged rapist know what really went on. Proving it in a Crown court is a completely different matter.

Well done for making that complaint, that is such a brave thing to do given the circumstances.

I'm glad Rape Crisis are reassuring you also. Stay strong op

It's not about whether I can prove it in court. Its about how the police responded and the fact they completely ignored the fact he admitted it

Thank goodness someone somewhere has supported you as they should! That's brought a tear to my eye, well done! I felt so awful that we all said 'we believe you, tell the police, they will too!' And then the sods didn't.

I'm so happy you were able to file a report, OP. I felt the same as pickleme, when we'd all been so confident they'd help and they didn't. But good for you for being so strong and reporting. Hope you're doing okay today

Thank you. Sometimes I think it's starting to all sink in slowly. Other times I'm still completely confused about what happened. I'm sure the police will dismiss the complaint but at least I said something.

OP - well done you. Keep strong.

Well done, OP. Filing that complaint took a huge amount of courage. Whatever happens now, you'll always know you did everything you could for yourself, and for other future victims of rape.

You're one courageous woman.

Thank you. I'm really not feeling strong or courageous at the moment

You are, whether you feel like it or not! Strong and brave.

Well done for reporting in the first place, and very well done for making that deserved complaint; so sad that even now some cops are ante-deluvian still, they need hard kicks up their respective bums. So glad you did that. Well done.

Thank you. Apparently the police don't even have to log it, they can just throw it out

OP, well done. Remember if you need anything else, contact the org that I linked.

Well done, OP!

That information from women against rape was so helpful, thank you. I called them yesterday and hopefully someone will call me back on Monday. From the information in the leaflet it seems that the police haven't followed procedure. And the definition of rape is made very clear in that information so I feel justified in making a complaint. i didn't consent. He knew I didn't consent due to prior discussions and took no steps to check if I had Changed my mind and was now consenting to sex. He just went ahead with no warning and no condom 😡. I'm very interested to see what happens with my complaint. I will most likely be fobbed off and made to feel stupid again...

Good luck OP. You have been so strong in all this. Don't let them fob you off!

Hey OP, just wanted to check in and see how you're getting along? Hope you're doing okay

So have you had any further contact with him since his remorseful texts and admissions that he was not sure about consent? Does he have an inkling that you are trying to pursue this? How did you leave things with him?

Thank you for checking in.

No he doesn't know and tbh I'm not sure what I want to do. My complaint is being looked into and they said that it might be possible to re-open the case if I want to. But I think the most important thing to me at the moment is to have the police response looked into.

Oh yes, just remembered I changed my username

Why did you start a second thread and a third about this under a different user name a week after this thread when you were getting so much support and advice on this one?

Surely there's no rule about how many threads a person can have?! And does it matter if she wanted - or got - more support in addition to this?

I haven't started a third thread. I just needed to say what happened to see if that changed people's opinions. I wanted to make it go away because I trusted him

Wishing you the best of luck - and thank you for taking this further. It's important for all of us that people don't take the easy option and slink way, and you haven't.Thank you.

It's very hard. He says he loves me and would do anything for me. The police are calling me tomorrow...