Are all men stupid fucking immature knobs who lie about stupid things

[Peanutandphoenix]

My stupid immature childish supposedly 31 year old boyfriend told me the world's stupidest and most pointless lie ever yesterday told me he was going for a shower and went quiet for half an hour. Later on he got his knickers in a twist and started saying that I was trying to cause an argument after it transpired that he'd not had a shower he's still refusing to speak to me over it all I don't care whether he's had a shower or not he had been looking for an argument all day that wasn't there but what got my back up was the lying why lie about something so pointless and stupid. Are all men really this fucking childish.

Rant over just needed to vent.

So what did he do instead of going for a shower? Did he look at porn or something? (Curious )

Well to start with, no they're not.

And secondly I don't know why this is such a big deal. Maybe he sat down and thought "ooo I'll just have a quiet moment here". I often do that.

I think you're maybe overreacting to that

Sounds like there must be a back story

There has to be more to this...

You both sound pretty childish to be honest.

Unless there is a back story we are unaware of I think you are over reacting.

In answer to your question. No not all men are childish.

No, not all men are childish. Why does he need to give you a reason to go quiet for half an hour? That would drive me nuts.

malificent7 I don't know what he did instead of having a shower.

bitoutofpractice it's not a big deal it's just I don't get the whole am going for a shower and then going off the deep end later on when he drops himself in it. Generally he's absolutely but it's not the first time he's tried to say that am looking for an argument when it's him who's acting like a tit first time was about 2 weeks ago trying to show off in front of his mate and acting stupid to the point where I called him a knob I apologised the next day and I thought all was sorted out until later on that day he started again trying to find another arguement that wasn't there. He so far hasn't spoken to me today and I'm not in the mood to speak to him at the minute either. Am ill with a chest infection right now that I think I caught off him but getting him to go to the doctors to get checked out is like banging your head against a brick wall.

The relationship is great until he decides that am looking for an argument both times this has happened I have only just woken up and haven't spoken to him for most of the day (I work nights so am nine times out 10 asleep during the day) and he just starts on me for literally no reason.

Wouldn't bother me at all. I often intend to do something, and then get side tracked and end up doing something else instead. I guess that could be construed as me lying by a totally paranoid partner but it's not really.

Dropped himself in it? Because he didn't go for a shower? OP with respect, you need to get a grip. You sound like extremely hard work, and also the way you speak to him isn't right. I wouldn't stay with someone who demanded to know what I was doing and if that changed threw a tantrum, and I certainly wouldn't stay with someone who called me names because they didn't like me goofing around.

Drops himself in it?

So he goes for a shower, doesn't have one for some reason. That's fine, i do it.

Why are you so angry about it? How did you find out? What did you say?

I don't get it.

I do that all the time! Tell DH I'm going to have a shower and then get distracted by something else and end up not having one. I can't imagine DH caring though - did you give him a hard time?

So he said he was going for a shower but then maybe decided he didn't need one and maybe did something else instead. Maybe having a shower is code word for having a massive poo.

It's hardly a lie. I think you are massively overreacting and you are the one in the wrong.

Also you called him a knob and are annoyed that your apology didn't immediately reset his emotions to normal.

How would you feel if he called you names and pointed out when you didn't do something you previously said you would do.

You sound controlling and demanding.

He's great it's just the whole him starting on me over nothing when I've just woken up and I haven't spoken to him all day that just upsets me because what can I do so wrong when am asleep like yesterday what did I say or do so wrong to make him decide that I was looking for an argument and now he won't speak to me I was asleep most of yesterday because of my chest infection. I don't care if he has a shower or not just don't start on me when I've done nothing wrong.

Hmmm, well I confess that more than once I've had the intention of doing something, like having a shower, but got side tracked with something else and not ended up doing what I had intended but I would have been pissed off if DW had accused me of lying as a result.

Why did him going quiet for half an hour matter when you'd just woken up? Your story doesn't make sense OP, and the language you use about him is combative, so possibly he's on the defensive all the time because he feels like he's being attacked.

No I didn't give him a hard time over it just asked if he had got side tracked like usual and that was me starting an argument. Literally all I said to him was what did you sidetracked with this time a brew or your PS4 and I got told not to start an argument and he would speak to me tomorrow he wasn't in the fucking mood now.

Hmmm

When I lived with family, going for a shower meant no one coyld do anything else with the water supply as the shower wasn't electric and didn't have its own pump.

That meant no washing up, no washing clothes and no flushing the toilet in the other bathroom.

Going for a shower was an inconvenience to everyone else in the house so not having a shower was wasting everyone else's time.

Your message is very passive aggressive, and also patronising. I think that the fact you've called him a stupid, immature fucking knob in the title and cannot understand why he's so fed up of being attacked little passive aggressive digs tells me that you need to have a look at your own behaviour not his.

No we where talking for a few hours after I got back from the doctors in the morning that was when he said oh am going for a shower and he told me that I had to go to bed and get some sleep because of my chest infection so from 1pm until 7pm I didn't speak to him we had this petty little falling out after I woke up at 7pm.

Genuine question OP, can you not see that the way you speak to him isn't normal?

TBH you sound like hard work OP