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Dating Thread 117 - summer loving!

997 replies

InfoSec21 · 01/05/2017 00:26

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread.
OP posts:
Allthembuckets · 03/05/2017 19:56

For Bumble, it says BFF Connection is free but won't let me access any of them without paying to subscribe, what am I doing wrong?

Original poster
InfoSec21 · 03/05/2017 19:58

Cover I'm fair game alright 😂😂

OP posts:
CoverMeLadsImGoingIn · 03/05/2017 20:11

Ah, OK, Far and I absolutely take your point. Looking forward to a signed first edition of your book Grin

Polarbear and DoI how exciting! Really hope things work out for you.

Pav MrTwoWords has messaged me with a compliment and chattiness and ended his message with a Q. Looks like I may have spoken too soon ahem Wink

DoIDontIhavethetalk · 03/05/2017 20:13

Oh FGS - my POF subscription runs out in few days so I signed in to save mine and The Nurse's messages (sentimental person that I am) He's online. I really don't know what to do now Confused

CoverMeLadsImGoingIn · 03/05/2017 20:13

Sorry missed your question All; I don't know, I just went "oh sod it" and dropped £7.99 to get the full shebang for a month. Don't really understand BFF.....

Allthembuckets · 03/05/2017 20:29

DoIDontIhavethetalk he could be doing the same or just replying to messages? I have been replying to each one (most with a too far away etc) then got fed up of it.

Cover do you mean per week? I don't really want to pay out, my credit card bill is going to be huge after this month with car MOT, service and insurance to pay. And a child who keeps growing so I have to keep buying her trousers and dresses. And I'm going out on Saturday night so might meet someone... sigh like I've been hoping would happen for months...

Lovemusic33 · 03/05/2017 20:41

I refuse to pay for OLD Grin

I'm getting fed up of the same crap on POF, Mr Normal didn't message me for over 24 hours so kind of gave up, I then get a message this morning saying 'hope you have a good day' I replied with 'you too' ( I was at work so couldn't write a huge message) and then I messaged him this evening asking if he has a good day and telling him a little bit about my day, i then get a message saying 'had a rubbish day at work, now at the gym' so thought I would leave him too it but he's on POF so obviously not too busy and I have heard nothing back. One day I would like a man to chase a little.
I'm waiting for Mr tree to come online to see if he messages, I like him, he seems interesting but maybe not my type, we shall see.

I desperately want a date for Sunday as I have a child free day.

CoverMeLadsImGoingIn · 03/05/2017 20:43

All no no; £7.99 for the month. It means I get to see the guys liking me, rather than having to wait for one of my picks to message me back. Plus I get to extend the 24hr window for a further 24hrs, which is handy.

Original poster
InfoSec21 · 03/05/2017 20:49

Mr Tree 😂

OP posts:
LanaDReye · 03/05/2017 20:53

Date 4 and 5 arranged with Mr Bike. He seems like a really nice man. I'm now wondering if I should check pof though to see if he's still on there given your experience DoIdontI

What if he's gone on to check that you're not on there? It's worth asking?

Allthembuckets · 03/05/2017 20:57

Cover it's £7.49/week or 1 month for £20.99 on the app for me? Confused

DoIDontIhavethetalk · 03/05/2017 21:04

I spoke to him because there could be many reason why he's there.

Told him directly I'm not interested in anyone else and I won't be renewing my subscription. The response was positive overall, that's the best I can hope for for now I guess.

Bant · 03/05/2017 21:08

I think some of the sites/apps have different prices for different regions or profile types (e.g. Those with lots of profile views get charged less)

doidonti

Yeah, it's bloody annoying when you see that. I was actually showing a friend MissCivils photos a few weeks back and saw she was online then. That was before telling her I wasn't chatting to anyone else and didn't want to, then going to bed with her, and then I accidentally saw she was online again. And again. And then offline, and then online.

So fuckit.

DoIDontIhavethetalk · 03/05/2017 21:14

Bant - is it possible that she's checking? Or re-reading your messages? Or showing her (large?) group of friends your picture?

I've been on a few times in the past few weeks: several times to show friends The Nurse's picture, a couple of times to re-read our old messages, a couple of times to clear down my inbox and if I'm honest at least 3 times to check and see if he was still signing in because I so hope it's going to work out between us and my usual cool, laissez-fair attitude towards whether someone wants to commit or not has been blindsided by the utterly wonderful but very unnerving thunderbolt I've been struck with since meeting The Nurse.

Pavonia · 03/05/2017 21:18

DoI well done. If he might be the one it is worth being straight with him about it.

CoverMeLadsImGoingIn · 03/05/2017 21:27

All' that's odd. I got it through my iTunes and it's called Bumble Boost. And I literally did it straightaway so I don't think it's cos my profile had had many views......

MrTwoWords message was odd, on reading it properly. He says to check his profile: there's nothing on his bloody profile except his age and location and three rather phwoar photos. So I still think he may be a bot.

Bant · 03/05/2017 21:43

It's possible she's checking, doi - although she'd have to be checking several times a day, while being slow to respond to messages on whatsapp.

As it is, she hasn't read my last whatsapp message after three hours, when the kids should probably be in bed and she's gone on to pof and off again.

So. I can send a cheerio message or just wait to see if she replies.

Either way I can't be arsed.

Meh.

(And she was a bad kisser and not that good in bed)

DoIDontIhavethetalk · 03/05/2017 21:44

Ugh - that's not promising Bant.

I'd be inclined to move on in that situation.

MagnumPieEye · 03/05/2017 21:56

Why do you think it fizzled out Bant? (apart from the kissing)

You seemed to like her a lot at the start and she seemed very keen.

Scary that it can go downhill so fast.

Bant · 03/05/2017 22:20

I didn't fancy her enough, she's not great in bed, she can't share a bed with someone else so I kipped on the sofa bed.

She's funny and clever and nice to spend time with, all of which made me ignore the first three points.

But it mostly came down to the fact that I was seeing how it went with her, and had stopped going online, but she was there almost every time i looked, after that first accidental login after a month off pof.

It makes you reevaluate things. If someone isn't interested enough in me to be exclusive when I've said I was weeks ago, then I don't want to be with them.

Mumfun · 03/05/2017 22:21

thinking same Magnum Sad

well done DOI do our best at communication and hope it pays off

Info sorry it isnt working for you at present

Cover hope you get some quality responses . if they write very generic stuff only its a scammer or terminally dull . Either way.....

Ooh Polar enjoy!

Far cant wait for your bestseller either

Mr Social still being good communicator etc. Almost dont want to say too much to jeopardise it all Smile

LanaDReye · 03/05/2017 22:28

If dating stands a chance I think you have to go for it. Spend time together, including intimate time. It can take weeks or months to even start to know someone. Bant can you see positives from the experience too?

Personally I've been upfront on ending things before going back online, so no crossovers, but I have gone back quickly. It unnerved the last man I saw and I'm wondering if Mr Bike asks how much to say. I spent a lot of time with a man over two months and after ending it was back on OLD a week later I knew it wouldnt work and wanted to look again, but does it seem cold?Confused .

lettucesoup · 03/05/2017 22:29

Marking my place Envy

Allthembuckets · 03/05/2017 22:31

Cover I have a Samsung so it was straight through the app, oh well Smile

Bant · 03/05/2017 22:34

Oh I've learned some new jokes from her.

I was always completely honest, told her what I was looking for, told her that I wanted to be exclusive before going to bed together. She was noncommittal, though.

And two weeks later she's still regularly on PoF, while still chatting to me on whatsapp.

I dunno. There was something missing. The oomph. She seemed to be more into me than I was into her, and yet she's still wanting to chat to others, so..

It's just OD. People are odd. It's a shame but I'll take a week or two off and then try again.

Bugger.