Dating Thread 117 - summer loving!

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

Out that gave me a good laugh, thanks Unappealing on SO many levels....

pav joining GSM is all it takes!

So after my disastrous week with mrcars now name mrdickhead, I saw him in waitrose yesterday, he ignored me so I just laughed at him!! There has to be something said for not dating on your door step!! Ggrrr!

Anyway I'm back on it, I've gone off POF, can't be doing with checking if online, plus the men who I haven't messaged back seem to get really arsey!!

I'm chatting to a few nice guys from tinder and bumble, got a date lined up for Saturday night with mrenergy. Which is either going to be amazing or a complete let down as we seem to get on so well!

I have a horse, spaniel and a pair of hunter wellies ... Think I might be on the wrong site bant?

DoI I know I should tell Mr Outdoors to stop texting and he totally would. It's my fault really because I contacted him at the weekend, a few days after his text saying it wasn't working for him, to say that I would still like to chat occasionally but didn't think it wise from my point of view to meet up. And now our texts are back to previous frequency but not anything more than friendship, nothing flirty.

coverme I did reply to Mr Bike after his second text saying that I was busy at work and would reply later - obviously not quite true if you see all my Mumsnet activity.

Out that's insane.

I haven't had any matches, guy on Tinder from work hasn't replied since my last message early Sat morning. Mr Levi is supposed to be calling tonight but he was delayed last night so I called it off as too late, still didn't get to sleep!

Well after six months of seeing someone, he told me he didn't want to lead me on but we could still go out for dinner and have sex (by, then).

This was a few weeks ago. Anyway, went on a date with a guy last week (and yesterday) and we just click.

No texting, worrying if he'll reciprocate

No mad fantasies (on my part) that's he's the one.

No losing myself to compensate my perceived inadequacies.

No game playing.

No obsessive thinking, but when he randomly comes to mind, smiles.

Just easiness (sp).

No wondering if he'll call or text again, I know he will.

And no 'best behaviour', dressing to the nines to impress, blah blah blah.

I am just myself..watch this space

Now that sounds like the kind of dating that's worth the effort, Lollo. Do keep us updated!!

That sounds like what it should be ^^ 😉👍

Ignore the typo's

Yes, that sounds great Lollo

Re-ordered my photos - 5 messages tonight, 3 of which are new people. One is the guy who just says 'oi' every few days (???) and the other is the return of the surgeon!

I shall concentrate on the new guys.

Oi???? Quite the wordsmith

Love Mr Oi, get him messaged back!! Absolutely adore the fact he does it ever few days.

"4/20/2017
what part of [town] are you in?

4/20/2017
no rush...

4/20/2017
so many messages lol

(I replied here saying 'so many messages, so little content')

4/20/2017
Lol

4/20/2017
harsh......... nice 'chatting'

4/21/2017 8:24:57 PM
hey miss alltalk

4/22/2017
oi

4/26/2017
zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

4/27/2017
Good Morning! you well?

5/7/2017
coooooooooooooooooooooi, how the devil is you, going well? lol

5/10/2017
oi oi"

(I only made the one comment, as noted above)

I deal with idiots at work so why am I surprised by anything ppl do?

I'd reply with something like

'So this is the online equivalent of walking down the street and having some random stranger start shouting abuse at me. Not saying anything interesting, not being funny or witty or clever or attractive in any way. It's similar to when you're going home from the pub and some random drunken bloke wants to get in a conversation with you about, say, mopeds. And you don't know whether he's angry about mopeds or he loves mopeds, but you're slightly aware that he may decide to head butt or possibly stab you because of his feelings about mopeds. He's not going to engage in witty conversation, he's not going to make you think he's interested in your views on mopeds, he's just going to yell 'fucking mopeds!' as you walk past, and then he's going to follow you ranting about mopeds. For the next three weeks.

You appear to be the weirdo on the night bus, yelling randomly into the abyss. I'm going to block you now, but please think about how you come across to others, otherwise you'll end up thinking about mopeds way too much.

Good luck '

Then block.

I think you have a cyber stalker there out!

You must admit he is quite amusing, in a 'laughing at, not with' kind of way.

Well, I saw one of my irons last night which was lovely so I feel all happy and content today.

I have another iron from infosec's neck of the woods too who Im seeing this weekend.

Still havent seen anyone worth persuing in POF.

Lollo that sounds perfect and effortless.

I love that guy, just chatting to himself. Bonkers tactic though, never gonna work is it!!

I strongly suspect that analogy would go right over his head Bant!

I did reply this time, I said "stop messaging me", if he does again I'll block him, just cos it's boring to keep seeing them.

Ah, he has responded to my message telling him to stop messaging me. Yes, a well thought out response, putting his side of the argument and laying out what he's looking for. It says:

"lol"

I wonder how many of these utterances he's throwing out there in the hopes that one will bounce back? Something tells me he's taking the numbers game to the extreme.

I almost feel sorry for him, want to take him by the hand and gently introduce him to a Peter and Jane book - from behind a very large sheet of reinforced glass.

Any tips on getting more interest on POF? I'm close to giving up, all I get is people who are not my type (lazy, unemployed with 8 kids) message me , I don't know what I'm doing wrong, last time I was on POF (2 years ago) I was getting loads of messages and going on lots of dates but this time it's so quiet, I'm beginning to think that I'm not what people are looking for, I wouldn't say I'm ugly, I'm slim, I have a good job and lots of hobbies, my photos are not too bad and I think my profiles ok.

I joined another site last night but have not upgraded so can not message, I have had a few messages and likes but again most are not my type, one or 2 look reasonably normal but live too far away. I'm beginning to get bored in the evenings as I'm not talking to any irons.

Are you using the mutual match (or whatever it's called) where you swipe right or left? I tended to end up talking more to those who had matched with me.

I didn't find pof that great love have you tried OKC or Match? Maybe hide your pof profile and then go back to it in a few weeks?

I have a coffee date this afternoon with (I'll call him) Mr City (the recently single, father of 3) - will let you know later how it went. We haven't actually been talking very long so there should be enough to keep the conversation going