Dating Thread 117 - summer loving!

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

I'm a northern too!
Mr ideal date seems to have vanished. I text after two days got a light conversation response and then left it at that. Nothing since so I'm leaving alone an seeing if any of my other irons turn into anything. Date still planed for Tuesday with mr third time called so as this is the third time we've planed a date but this time it might just go ahead.
Good luck to the dates this weekend and enjoy the sun, I'm working it all so no doubt will be glorious!

Yeah we'll have a North meet on the same day!!

I'm hopefully seeing The Nurse this evening - he was online again earlier today. All I can hope for is that he's not looking for anyone else 😕

I'm a northerner who'd love a meet up too.

DoIdon'tI personally I'm often blunt when I have an idea / thought so would just ask.

If you're more subtle careful could you start the talk by saying that you think things are going really well, how does he feel? If this doesn't work what about the straight "I'm not dating anyone else at the moment..." silence for him to fill in what he's doing. If subtlety doesn't work, an outright "I think I'll come off all the dating sites how about you?"

Has anyone ever dated someone from the gym? I really fancy someone there.

Lana - I told him the other day that my subscription ended this weekend and I had no plans to renew because I wasn't interested in talking to anyone else, let alone meeting anyone else. He replied saying he was having a fabulous time with me and loved being in my company...

Free - do it! Ask him out

Free. I'm really quite shy and quiet IRL and I'd liked someone for ages without the courage to say anything. By the time I did, I asked her and she said I wasn't her type. That's totally fine but I promised myself I wouldn't just silently like someone for ages ever again because all it does it so your bonce in.

Go for it 👍

He is a trainer though. If he turns me down I'll have to stop going to his classes and I like them.

Which do you like more?

I dont know. I enjoy his classes but not sure I can hack the embarrassment if he says no

There are other gyms - there's only one him

When will I learn not to click on anyone called 'Dom' on tinder?

Free I'm often attracted to people at the gym but find it hard to approach any of them as often they are wearing headphones and are really focused on what they are doing, I rarely see anyone speak at the gym. Gyms should have a singles night where people can sort of work out whilst talking to other singles.

I'm pretty shy in RL too which is why I like OLD as I find messaging really easy, I get very anxious on first dates but after ten minutes I'm ok.

Free the one that I asked worked at my place and I'd known her for ten years. If I can do that and work with her, you can ask the guy at the gym 🙂🙂👍

What Info said

Oi oi, I'm a Midlander so don't have the meets on the same day or else I'll have to pick a side . Mind you, I'm disowned by both halves of the country anyway .

Enjoying chatting to AR and looking forward to the date, but aware I shouldn't put all my eggs in one basket yet, so will be swiping like a mofo over the weekend.

Hope those on dates are having good ones, with much clickage and zero escapes through the loo window.

Free I would too as you'll just kick yourself (mentally) otherwise.

Non-dating question... my ex has a girlfriend, I don't know how long for as he has never told me, however DD told my mum that he was going to move in with his gf and marry her once she'd completed her studies this year. I'm not sure how accurate that was as she has been quite insistent that he was getting her an iPad for her birthday rather than any tablet - spoke to him today and it'll be an Android OS tablet. Anyway, should I just ask outright how long they've been together and if they have plans to move in together? I don't care either way but know DD dislikes how far away he lives. Ppl around me say I should wait for him to tell me but I don't think he ever will. He visited me in hospital with her (when we were still in a relationship and I was in hospital for a major life threatening and altering issue) then her mum looked after DD the next summer a few times so I could do some therapeutic work stuff. So, I think his reluctance at telling me is that he think I'll hit the roof. I can finally divorce him, going to text him about that and hope we agree on everything so can do it without getting solicitors involved.

Midlander here, Cover

All as the barren divorcée of the parish, I'll leave that to another to answer but have some meantime. I hope you're better/recovering now xx

DoI do you ever feel disenfranchised when the North/South divide gets mentioned? Also, yay us! hi-five

I'll spend a bit more time around him and see what happens! He is at the gym most days.

Free could you ask Mr Gym for some personal training and get to know him more? Pick early morn when gym is quiet?

DoIdon'tI You'll just need to ask Mr Nurse outright then. Subtlety didn't work!

Buckets I don't tell my ex anything about my life and don't ask him about his. Our DCs have stayed at his GFs house for many months and they'll get their own place soon. Divorced 5 months ago (separated 17 months ago). Everyone is different, but unless you have specific concerns about DCs I don't think you can ask him about his decisions (well you can but he's unlikely to reply!).

Going through a fairly amicable divorce cost me around £5500. If you can avoid solicitors costs it would save lots of money.

Meant DCs live me with, only have few o/n stays with ex and GF.

Free could you ask Mr Gym for some personal training and get to know him more?

Lana I've had some sessions and he was very open and talkative before but last time was a bit off. Probably nothing to do with me though.

Thanks Cover I'll never be back to my old self, new normal regarding physical limitations but I'm about as recovered as I'll get and it could have been much worse, I think the mortality rate is around 70% or higher.

Lana is that in total for you both or you alone? Ex does not have that kind of money that's really expensive. It's just getting ridiculous now as his mum had Xmas lunch with me, his sister lives around the corner from me and is coming over tomorrow yet his gf's name must not be mentioned in front of me! No one gave that memo to DD
Also, I thought you had to be living separately for 2 years before you could apply for a "no fault" divorce? Otherwise I'd have done it long ago! The relationship ended Feb 2 years ago and he moved out 2 years ago this month.