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Disappointed with your sex life part 2

185 replies

gettingthere · 05/07/2004 01:33

here you go folks. last thread was getting long. For those who are new, go back to Disappointed with your sex life.

OP posts:
lonelymumof3 · 21/07/2004 23:35

nothing to tell really......he's gone......thats it.........

lonelymumof3 · 22/07/2004 07:35
Sad
reallyembarrassedbut · 22/07/2004 08:29

poo! gone gone lm?

tell me you're exxagerating

lonelymumof3 · 22/07/2004 08:36

no i'm not...he left last night.....

lonelymumof3 · 22/07/2004 08:38

i feel so alone. My stomach is all scrunched up and I can hardly see through my tears to type this. I feel so empty. I don't know what to do or where to go next. I want to just curl up in the corner and never wake up again

Caribbeanqueen · 22/07/2004 08:57

What happened lmo3? What made him leave?

Caribbeanqueen · 22/07/2004 09:07

Sorry, hope you don't mind me jumping into the thread like that but I have been wondering for a while how you were getting on.

reallyembarrassedbut · 22/07/2004 09:10

lm, you need someone who can really be there, now, a friend rather than a family member preferably - please, call someone who can come round now, failing that were are you, maybe there is someone from MN nearby

lonelymumof3 · 22/07/2004 09:12

i have not friends or family....i really am alone apart from my kids. I am quietly falling apart......

mummytosteven · 22/07/2004 09:12

lm - can't come over today as am going to London again for the weekend - but please msn me and get my contact phone numbers - i'm going to a concert tonight but other than that you can call me absolutely anytime

reallyembarrassedbut · 22/07/2004 09:13

lm, this isn't right, not at all, please - whereabouts are you?

Caribbeanqueen · 22/07/2004 09:16

Please don't fall apart lmo3. Call someone, a friend or anyone Even the Samaritans if there's nobody you know that you want to talk to. Or just keep posting here and plenty of people will try and help.

You can contact me via CAT anytime if you want to talk via msn.

Please try and keep going. Big hugs xxx

lonelymumof3 · 22/07/2004 09:34

i dont know where to go from here.......

reallyembarrassedbut · 22/07/2004 09:35

you ring someone, or you message someone on this board, and you find someone to cry to. I don't mean that to sound so blunt, but you mustn't be on your own if you can avoid it - like I said, whereabouts do you live

lemonade · 22/07/2004 09:40

lmo3 - So sorry to hear your news. Can you post your position on housing, money and stuff so that anyone here who knows about such things can help? I know this won't bring dh back, but it might show you a way forward. Take care, l xx

reallyembarrassedbut · 22/07/2004 09:44

very good point - can I suggest a new thread lm, so people can see what's going on, and offer help without being out off by this thread title?

lonelymumof3 · 22/07/2004 09:44

i am in our rented flat....in his name....he will want me to leave cos he has asked me to when we had a rough patch a while ago. He said that i might as well go back to my home town now.....like he wants rid of me.

We have no money and are in quite a bit of debt (which is now in his name for the past 2 months due to consolidation loan)

REB i am in shropshire

lemonade · 22/07/2004 09:46

REB - I remember from previously that lmo3 doesn't have any family or friends or MNers nearby. I know that she does have MN friends on this thread and from others.

lmo3 - Let us help you as much as we can. l xx
P.S. We understand that you have 3 little ones and can't be online all the time.

lonelymumof3 · 22/07/2004 09:50

have started another thread. thank you everyone x

lemonade · 22/07/2004 09:50

lmo3 - REB's suggestion is a good one. Do you feel up to starting a new thread? We will follow you there. l xx

reallyembarrassedbut · 22/07/2004 09:55

ok.. I'm no expert, but the denbts being in his name has got to be good, but get some advice first - I am sure people here know what the score is, but I'm sure you have some rights that mean you don't go if you don't want to, especially if he has abandoned the family home.

start trying to work out how you can see the DSS, CAB, and even the bank - if you don't have a bank that's pretty understanding, find one, a good one will see that if they look after you now you will repay them with your business in the future.

If it seems we are all going "good, he's gone" when that's not how you feel, then I hope you understand we are trying to protect you a bit, and help you plan, partly for the future, and partly as a distraction.

xxxx

lemonade · 22/07/2004 22:13

I don't know what to post here. I'm glad that we were here to reply to lmo3 and encourage her to start a new thread that has given her lots of excellent advice and support.

lmo3 - You're welcome back here anytime you want, of course. I do hope that things get better for you soon. Take care. l xx

Original poster
gettingthere · 22/07/2004 22:22

lm - please feel welcome on this thread as well as the other one

lemonade - are you feeling better? you sounded very down - feel free to share if you want to?

have had crap day at work and cellar flooded when i got home. plus the gym was flooded, and lovely man hasn't been in touch (normal communication pattern for us)

am putting in smileys to see if they make me smile!

OP posts:
lemonade · 22/07/2004 22:38

gettingthere - Thanks. Your smileys made me smile, anyway.......

Yep, you're right, I am feeling a bit down. I can't post freely for a few days so I'll do it when I can. I can't just now.

Grrr....flooding! Why can't water be happy living where it's supposed to, like the sea and rivers and stuff!

As for your chap, you could perhaps send him a postcard with just a few words like "Thanks for a memorable weekend" on it! " No name, just a message and his name and address. Yep, full of daft ideas, me!

reallyembarrassedbut · 23/07/2004 13:31

lol, I'm wondering if the flood waters are symbolic, anyone here know their Freud?