Dating Thread 116 - come join us!

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

Candlestickmaker may be a challenge!

It has occurred to me that I might date Mr electrician, Mr decorator, Mr plumber, Mr IT, Mr builder, Mr Cook....... Not necessarily in that order but each at specific times, mainly around my house move. I'd settle down with Mr Cook though I think.

I have zero use for a fecking candlestickmaker (I like the White Company ones anyway)

Out I like your practical list. I have some odd jobs that need doing, perhaps I could add that in my profile

Mr Putupashelf.....

Mr Fix abikeracktomycar

I'd like a Mr Gardener and Mr Putmypicturesup... and Mr I'vetriedtofixthetoiletseatit'snothappeningcanyouhaveago.

LanaDReye Ha! Not for a second. Apart from the fact I'm sure he asks every woman he passes in his taxi, there's young and then there's cradlesnatchingly young and he was definitely in the latter category.

Honestly, you lot... I too could do with a Mr Decorator, Mr Plumber, Mr Cleaner and Mr Secretary. Biddylee If you meet Mr I'vetriedtofixthetoiletseatit'snothappeningcanyouhaveago and he doesn't work out for you, can you please send him my way?

I did come across a Mr Mansplain if anyone wants him .

Ah, you met my ex biddy!

What is it with toilet seats anyway? Why can't they make them more durable? Our maintenance chap at work (who is, by the way, totally bloody gorgeous with these eyes you could fall into, but who is at least twenty years younger than me) says that at other sites pretty much all he does is replace loo seats!

MrSpiderrelocator anyone?

I wonder what useful skills we might offer men?

Could I annex Mr Isntphasedbythosehalogenbulbsyourenotsupposedtotouch please?

pringle most salsa classes you don't need a partner, the format is usually that you stand in a circle and dance with each man in turn. Ballroom classes are much more inflexible and you would find yourself dancing alone without a partner

Tom my last partner drove 200 miles to give me a bit of cheesecake when we first got together, we lasted a year, seems he was dishing out cheesecake to everyone . The way to someone's hart is usually through their stomach, I have made various food items for people.

I had a new message this morning from a man who seems very intelligent, I looked at his profile last night but because it didn't say much about him I didn't click on 'meet me'. He sent me a lovely message, he had obviously studied my profile and mentioned a few things that he liked about it as well as commenting on my photos. He's not my usual type at all, I'm not the most intelligent person, he has a high end job and is possibly from Asian background. I'm trying to decide if I should message him or not.

Maybe message love. What's to lose. He could be your wildcard!

LoveMusic is he local to you? Some people are quite private and don't like to put it all out there on the profile. Try an exchange of messages but don't feel bad about pulling out if he is not a good match for you.

I had quite a fun date last night. He wasn't what I was expecting based on his photos, job, and very limited messaging. He was quite funny and could talk for England. He sent me a nice message straight afterwards saying that he would like to do it again, but that might just be him being polite. In truth we are very different characters and have different interests so I probably won't see him again.

On the subject of paying on first dates, he bought a round and then I bought a round. He seemed to be quite happy to pay for everything but let me get the second round when I made it clear that I intended to. I am a bit horrified that the expectation that men pay for women on dates still seems so prevalent.

Sunday's date hasn't messaged so he obviously isn't going to. It's probably for the best as his work plans are going to take him away from London. A fact which I was conveniently overlooking because I liked him.

I've conjured up a couple of new matches on OKCupid and Happn but I'm going to wait a bit to see if they message me. Next weekend is child-free so it would be good to fix something up.

I'm not sure how local he is as his location just states what county he lives in ( not specific ). I might message him tonight as I am curious.

outto I can offer the skill of sewing on shirt buttons properly.

Lovemusic Go for it - if it's only a coffee, there is nothing to lose.

Pavonia I'd like someone who can talk for England . Did you get on and was he good company as you can work around different interests? And essentially did you find him attractive?

Biddy he was more attractive than I had expected based on his photos, but it wasn't wow. I actually found it quite relaxing that he seemed to like to talk as it took the pressure off me but of course he didn't find out that much about me. I think we got on OK but the differences are quite fundamental he likes pubs, restaurants and holidays whereas I'm more into arts and culture. I think a problem with older men (he's 50) who have never had children is that they often live a very carefree life focused on work and fun, with little in the way of responsibilities. It gives them a different perspective and a higher disposable income. I am a little concerned about possible differences in our finances and how to handle that in a new relationship. I don't want a new man subsidising me but I also don't want to be spending more than I can afford when going out.

It also made me realise that I really can't drink much anymore. I only had two drinks and any more would have been too many.

pav (can I call you pav? ) My recent ex was 46 - no kids, only one long term relationship and it felt that there was no room in his life to understand/adapt to the pressure on me to be a responsible parent. I get the difference in finance thing and how it can cause problems. Recent ex in his fabulous fast forwarding of our relationship talked about paying for me to go away with him ( I don't want that - not without a proper discussion).

I like pubs but I have to watch that I don't find myself yet another alcoholic (otherwise I'm joining a nunnery... or something along those lines!)

Biddy Pav is fine! I think this guy would be sympathetic to family needs. Finances are a potential minefield in later life (gosh I'm making myself sound ancient ). I wouldn't like someone assuming they could pay for me to go on holiday either without discussion.

I'm seeing Mr Naval Officer tonight.
First date.

Neither Mr Train Driver or Mr Scientist have messaged me back after I sent a message so I am leaving the ball firmly in their courts!

A couple of years ago, I bought a big bunch of flowers for my girlfriend, nipped round the local supermarket and hid half a dozen different types of cheeses in it. She liked the flowers, but she loved the manchego.

pav or living situations... presuming things went well.

Bant flowers AND cheese - perfect!

mr naval officer .....ooh, makes unseemly squeaky noises. If it was me I would be extremely tempted to ask him to wear full dress uniform . (Ahem).

For a ranty feminist, I've always been supremely relaxed about men paying for things. I've had quite a few boyfriends who have been better off than me- to be fair, it would be quite difficult to be worse off than me.

I find the thing to do is to let them pay for the big things, and pay for lunches, coffees and small thoughtful bits and pieces yourself. (This is what I did in Prague w/ Mr Anarchist, anyway. I hope I never find out how much that hotel cost).