The yuk factor

[Snotmeitsyou]

Not sure if I am in the right forum here but anyway. DP stays with me most weekends as he works away. Been together for 18 years but not lived together - reluctance on my part really.
DP seems to have some mucky behaviours I struggle with. For example, this weekend he uses loo as usual, flushed several times, then uses loo brush to 'help' contents of pan flush away. Loo brush back in holder, covered in poo. I then have to clean brush and holder.
Last week I found poo smears on wall next to loo roll. He must have got his hands dirty wiping arse then used loo roll.
He recently got into car with big poo smear up back of t-shirt. I guess he wiped bum but belt was in way and smeared his shirt.
Using his car I found crispy stuff under driver's seat - he had wiped nose on hand then wiped under seat I guess.
He can't eat a meal without getting food around face or on clothing/floor.
All this makes me feel queasy and affects how I feel about him. He is a good person but thinks I over react. He finds it funny.
Is it me or am I being a bit too fussy here?

No one seems to have mentioned the obvious about the dogs, OP are your living standards really so low that you would consider shit from a DP and shit from your dogs around the house normal?
No one has mentioned it Sleepy (well named) because every one else is intelligent enough to understand that I didn't say dogs shit in the house. I clean up after them in the garden, in the park wherever. I am not squeamish.
I posted because I know it's not normal to have shit in the house but was wondering how best to tackle this, apart from LTB.
God help anyone on here who hopes for a considered reaction to their dilemma.
I think your post was rude, ignorant and bitchy.

OP, my comment about having to teach a grown man how to clean his bottom was neither bitchy nor nasty; I am bloody serious about saying that actually; I think your anger at the responses are misdirected; people are genuinely agog at what you are putting up with. I get that it's your norm but don't come on an internet forum with that title and not expect shocked responses, and yes, some humour, so what, your issue is with him, not a bunch of strangers on here.

I made the mistake of reading the OP. Words fail. How can you post this sort of disgusting stuff?

Is this on the level?
There is no way on earth I would ever be in the same vicinity as someone like this.

Is it wrong that I read this whole thread whilst eating grapes? Quite impressed I haven't choked myself from snorting with laughter at some of the replies.

OP - I'm sorry you've had a bashing on here. It's amazing what we find ourselves tolerating in a relationship and I guess it's just your post goes way beyond what a lot of people would tolerate so it's shocked them.

Snotmeitsyou it's not that you are not being too fussy, if anything you are being far too tolerant. Have to admit it would be a deal breaker for me. There is no way he doesn't know what he's doing, he just doesn't care.

I think your post was rude, ignorant and bitchy.
Oh dear, I don't feel i was rude, ignorant or bitchy! I was mentioning something you had brought up in a previous post and insulting my user name really is unnecessary.

I think the more responses you are getting that explain just how unusually disgusting your DP's behavior has been and the lack of any serious action from you is getting your hackles up slightly?

Anyway - hopefully you will digest what you have been told by many people and live a shit free existence (like the majority of the population)

Oh snotme... don't take to heart the bitchy comments. You're post was a shocker and I think people type before they think. Your DP obvs has issues, it needs addressing. What is happening isn't normal, but I think you know that. Sit down and have a chat with him, tell him how you feel, what you think. If you love him, which I'm guessing you do to have put up with all this, you can help and support him to make improvements and changes.

Note3 right with you there except it was a sandwich

shootfruit we're both wrong ens

Note3 if you don't laugh you'll cry! The reversing shitty arse still has me howling with laughter! He would be reversing his manky arse right out the door mind you.