What's the worst thing a DH/DP has ever said to you?

[Norky1975]

Mine include
"Are you doing any ironing this week?"

On a first date with a fellow recent divorcee he said "trouble is when you're older the pool of people you get to choose from is much smaller"

Doesn't seem so bad when I write it down but I took it that he was scraping the bottom of the barrel 😄

Some of these are seriously shocking!

I'm the reason he doesn't come home after work he goes to the pub

Telling me I'd driven him to his abuse and then later completely rewriting history for court.

That I should be grateful he still wanted to have sex with me, because no one else would, without a white stick or a guide dog.

ExDP 'why don't you have a heart attack and die you fat cunt'. Probably together another few months after that too

Wow these are so shocking! I knew there were some vile people in this world but this has really shocked me!

Oh just remembered at me after he had yet again reduced me to hysterical tears with a twisted up angry face 'they are just words, what do words do?!?!'

And frequently 'I am not going to indulge your dramatic tantrums' because he had yet again taken me to a party with the woman he was cheating on me with and ignored me all night while he followed her round like a love sick puppy, followed by not speaking to me for a month.

The most memorable ones were:

Drop dead of fucking cancer (in front of people and the kids)
You look like Mr Burns (I am a healthy weight but had been exercising a lot, and I think looking good)
When you get emotional and cry I see that as a weakness
When he had been horrid and I challenged him " you are so melodramatic and sensationalist"
Cunt was one that came out a few times
Don't be such a stupid bitch etc

And when I had the nerve to challenge him "why do you put so much focus on words"

They are just a few, there were many more I chose to erase from memory. 21 years together, 6 weeks an EX.

Read the first half of these and im shocked. These men sound pure evil tbh. My ex did a number on me, but some of these are shockers.

Oooh I forgot one that made me livid was always "I am not dancing to your drum beat" Again if I called him out on his vileness.

Lying down feeding my newborn told me I was a lazy, fat cow and a shit mother so he was going to buy baby milk and take my baby away and I would never see her again. Took me years to get rid. Oddly he hasn't bothered to see the dc he wanted to keep from me for years. And I work full time while studying to support the dc with no help from him at all. His loss.

"There are people out there with cancer. Don't know why you are so upset when you have suspected there was something wrong all along" . When I found out I had a heart problem.

"Let's have some pain". During sex when I said he was hurting me and he replied that he didn't care.

That I was not lady like and was embarrassing him when I sat on a low sofa in a bar. My legs were closed and not showing anything

When he finally admitted to cheating: 'You can't tell anybody about this or it will ruin me' and 'I thought you were getting over it. You just have to pretend it never happened'

Also (not said in a good way) 'You are just too much like your mother'. I'll add that my DM gave him a bed to sleep in, food to eat and showed him nothing but kindness for several years while we were dating.

Your teeth would take 2 minutes for me to knock out

When my Dad died. "Why are you upset. He didn't love you anyway".

And telling me I was fat and lazy, when I'd gained weight after my Dad died and because of the stress of having a 2 year old DS with ASD who didn't sleep and behaved in a challenging way (we didn't know at the time).

Happy to say now my ex-DH.

Some of these are really harrowing. to all.

My ex DP 'you ruined my fucking life' he decided after 6 months of parenting he couldn't carry on his disappearing acts every weekend on coked up binges and went out to a game of football one day and never came back.

'Your a psycho, no one likes you.' Both during PND and then later because when i moved on into a new relationship 9 months later I had once again ruined his life.

Had a wine colored tunic thing with black legging on. (Think Shrek) said to DP, I feel like Shrek in this outfit... his reply after looking at me with some consideration was 'his tunic is a different shade' ... nothing about me clearly not looking like Shrek, i

The worst things are too bad to say.

But one said 'If I was anybody else, I'd kill you.' The good guy.

And another said 'If you were anybody else, I'd kill you'. The psycho.

I concluded I talk too much ...

That we wouldn't piss on me if I was on fire
Think dc's and I well rid. Since diagnoised as narc bpd. ..still doesnt excuse the abusive behaviour!

I remembered one from a different ex.

Nobody else would want me because I have a bucket for a pussy.

When I told my recent at the time ex boyfriend of a number of years that my dad had died he asked me 'when the big day was?' In reference to his funeral. I explained a 'big day' was a wedding not a funeral, promptly left and never contacted him again. I could give you a list on him. He was a controlling emotionally abusing twat.

When our first born was two he fell from the top of a slide. I was 8 months pregnant and didn't get there in time to save him. He was knocked unconscious and broke his arm. My husband met me at the hospital, looked at me and said with such venom 'why weren't you watching him'? I still feel gutted when I think about it

My ex was truly a king amongst men. His gems included:

"If you don't get rid of that baby I'll kick it out of you" (he would have done, too)

"You only care about what your dad thinks because you've been fucking him for years" (my dad did not abuse me, exP was a jealous pig)

"I cheated because you deliberately got pregnant then blame me for making you have an abortion, nag all the time and make me beat you, I hate you because you make me act badly"

(After I took an overdose and ended up.in a psychiatric ward) "just do it properly next time, nobody will miss you anyway"

He was so awful to me, referred to women as split arses and had no respect for me.

My lovely DH on the other hand - I have tried my hardest but can't think of anything bad that he has said even during an argument. Other than moaning about the duvet or being untidy, but nothing horrible.