What's the worst thing a DH/DP has ever said to you?

[Norky1975]

Mine include
"Are you doing any ironing this week?"

Norky I hope you said "No. Are you?"

I've just read the whole thread and found it very difficult reading. Can't believe how cruel people can be. I'm sorry for anyone who's been though this

Where do I start?

"Is that an attempt to look smarter than me because you don't get many opportunities."

"My grandparents had servants and probably had people like you working for them."

"Why do women have to have such fat arses." (I weighed 8st at the time)

"You STUPID FUCKING BITCH."
That one was said after he had just pushed me to the floor and buckled my legs underneath me and had his hands around my throat as he screamed in my face.

"I'm never cooking for you, you cant even boil an egg."

I dont think there was a part of me that he didnt insult.

I had the last laugh though. I looked him up on facebook. He is in a dead end job with a wife and kid and they all live with her parents as they have no money. He is a worthless ugly piece of pigeon shit who has done nothing with his life.

my theory is he put me down to feel better about himself as he knew he was shit.

Wow. Just wow.

You women are incredibly strong and resilient. My heart goes out to you.

On reading these, the one thing that runs through my mind is 'this is someones son. Some mother gave birth to that total cretin and assisted in some way into turning them into the monsters they became.'

I wonder if these mothers knew what they'd parented?

How can we stop this cycle?

I expect most of them had fathers too at some juncture

Just reading some of these posts is like looking at a snapshot of my life with my 2 very abusive exes.

Glad to see that you all seemed to have moved on. Took me more than 18 years to leave the second one, and the first ex is now on his 5th wife. By all accounts, he's still treating other women the way he treated me - sadly including the violence 😔

I am in awe of the amazing women on here who have had to deal with some of the worst humanity can throw at you. And you're still here! I am pleased that most of these horrors are Ex's! sanityssake that's what I was thinking. That's some mothers son doing and saying these awful things, how did he get like that? I've a lovely wee ds, I'd be gutted if he grew up to be like any of the men on this thread.

Called me a Fat, Disabled Honey Monster

Told me I was effectively a prostitute when I was on maternity leave. When I was he said that he was still paying for having had sex with me because he (and my decent maternity pay) were supporting us all.

Recently told the children I was "one of life's takers" and complained about all the "free money" I get. My son rightly pulled him up on the fact that he was talking about the maintenance he gives me and that didn't come close to covering half of the costs of raising him and his sister...

Although, I have been feeling a bit down about the fact that I'm single, and now... feeling quite positive about it!

XP- screamed at me in front of both our families that he didn't want our son and I should have an abortion at 19 weeks pregnant. Now pretends to be sad of the year once a fortnight

Dad of the year, even.

Wow. Just wow. These are horrific.

for all of you.

Going to give my DP a big hug and count my lucky stars

How many of them are there though? This is just a snapshot of these abusers that we know about.
How many other women are still putting up with it, thinking it's their fault, like I bet many of us did to start with?
How do they end up behaving like this?
Nature or nurture? My ex had an abusive father, who had an abusive father, but my ex acknowledged that this was so, and still continued to be abusive. Perhaps compounded by the fact that they married women who tolerated the behaviour. But even if they hadn't done, why would someone want to behave in such an evil way? Very complex.
For my own part, ex-h called us a pair of cunts on Christmas Eve once, split - arse was a regular, threatened to set my parents house on fire (actually, with hindsight, this was enough for police involvement wasn't it? Arson is taken very seriously), pinned me on the bed by a piece of Perspex on my throat, a few belts etc etc

Gosh! I opened this thread expecting the comments to be like OP's and to comment something similar but a lot of these are disgusting how people can speak to other people like that especially someone they're supposed to love and care about!

Wow. Just wow.
Some awful memories coming back now.
This isn't so much a awful thing he said, but when DD was 2 weeks old, he came home with my cousin (he used him as a shield) and took the debit card out of my purse. He said "don't worry, it's for something good."
Money was spent on cocaine.

I don't think you can stop the cycle.

My ex-MIL always maintained that she'd kill her son if he ever hurt me.

She sheltered him and stood by as he completely rewrote history.

The worst thing that I can remember is :
How much he regretted every evening when I arrived safely home from work and that I had not been killed in a car accident. This was upon announcing that he was in love with another woman but that she didn't love him, just after the death of my mother. Great memories. Is now ex and he still doesn't understand why...

My Ex husband always used to say that I enjoyed being in hospital having IVF treatment! It was due to male factor infertility, had I not been with him I'd probably had children naturally.
I was desperate for a baby, and no, injecting myself with huge needles (IVF in the 1990's) everyday wasn't my idea of fun.

Re why they speak to people they love like that, Lundy has it - they have a set of beliefs that mean they feel entitled to. That's it, entitlement, that is all.

That he must have been hard up to get with me. Saying I needed psychiatric help for crying after that.Regularly tells me I am mental, a nutter, a psycho. That if I didnt nag he would come home from the pub. Not an ex but rapidly heading that way.Noneforgretchen my husband refers to women as split arses too- vile vile saying!

"Do you really think you'd make a good mother?"

That I was making a mountain out of a molehill when I was upset that a customer threatened to kick the shit out of me and burn my workplace down.The next weekend he was drinking with her and her mum.Turns out the mum was an ex friends with benefits and even though Ive been with him 3 years I never knew. And he sort of got me be friends wwith this woman even though I had a bad feeling about her that I couldn't explain.

Ive just read the whole thread, some of these are heartbreaking and all are vile

The thing is they just can't see that they shouldn't be saying and doing these things. My ex still tells me that he loves me and that I broke up the family. This from the man who spat in my face with a mouthful of food because of some minor disagreement, who used my son's buggy to push me down a flight of steps on the tube, who would order me out of HIS living room in the evening so he didn't have to look at my ugly face, who told me he couldn't stand it when I received bad news - mother having heart attack - because I went all went and shocked looking and he it was so annoying that he couldn't stand to look at me. Yet this man still loves me? And still abuses me to this day whenever he gets the chance but still believes I should allow the family to be together and stop putting my own selfish wants before my children's right to be in a family.

They think they have a right to behave like this, they really do and that's the scariest things about it. Could send you mad if you thought about it too long and there's a LOT of these men around.