What's the worst thing a DH/DP has ever said to you?

[Norky1975]

Mine include
"Are you doing any ironing this week?"

"You killed (my dd) she would still be alive if it wasn't for you, noone will ever want your fat stupid ass now because you're a child murderer"

EX DP when I dumped him for raping me after I had had to hold my ten day old DD and turn the life support off because there was nothing else that could be done. (she had a health condition that was unpreventable and not caused by me but at the time I was blaming myself)

Ooooo, I've got loads.

"You're ok, but OW is stunning"
"You've no friends and it's no wonder" after he'd stopped me seeing them.
"You need to lose weight, I like slim women" I was a size 10
"I'm still in love with my XW, totally" on our wedding day
"Cry then, you'll piss less" after breaking my nose.
"I'm going to make your life hell" when I'd dared to refuse sex
"Say goodbye to DD, you'll never see her again" same reason as above
"Which of your fingers shall I break first"

Sadly these come from three different exs, I sure can pick em.

Told me I was a weak woman and a doormat.

That I caused myself to be abused as he couldn't be responsible for abusing me as my ex did too.

I refused him in the bedroom and he told me I was using sex as a form of power and control. Also that I'm not very good at keeping my man happy. This was after years of rape/coercive sex when I finally started saying no and refuse to be bullied.

That he would get a knife and stab me. It would be my fault for going on at him.

I left him a couple of weeks ago.

Wow these are all so sad and cruel. How do people like these even carry on with their lives as normal after making saying things like this to their own partners

I'm so glad to read though that they are all exes

I wanted to discuss life insurance (for us both) with my husband (now ex!). He asked me why I should "benefit from his death". I thought about it and asked myself why he should be benefiting from my life? Wasting decades of my life on the likes of him was okay for me to do apparently!

I decided for this (and many other reasons - this was just another reason) to leave the twat. I earned more than him and within a month he was door stepping me at work for help to pay his bills! Oh, how I laughed

It appears that even though I have been verbally abused in the past I have got off lightly. I am glad these are all exes (I hope!)

EXH told me he wanted to drive me to the forest,kill me, cut my body into pieces, dig a grave and hide my remains there. All because he had to wait 20 minutes longer in the car, while me and 2 young dcs went to Tesco for weekly shop.

I realised ex H was even more of a twat when he asked me to come to his office to discuss our divorce and showed me a photo of his now wife and said "this is Ally, I know she is never going to be in your league but shes ok". Apart from doing a large laugh inside, i actually felt sorry for his gf. What an utter wanker, talking about his current gf being second best to his ex W, wierdo.

That he would cut my throat.
That I was killing my daughter because I won't remove her from school and home ed her - she loves school and is doing well.
That I was making up my child's disabilities so I could get attention for myself.
Crawl back into the hole you crawled out of.
Money Grabber - more times than I can ever remember.
He called me a stupid fat cunt 78 times over the three days of Christmas one year - yes I counted.
I will knock you out and take the kids to Spain.
If you try and make me leave I will tell social services you're an unfit mother.
I can't ever leave you because you'd move another man in and let him abuse me kids because you're so desperate to have a man - I have been single now for almost 8 years...so yeah 😒

Loads more. That marriage almost killed me, only my kids kept me hanging on.

Why you getting back into bed when you've been in it all day.

I had literally just given birth.

Don't ever expect me to clean a toilet that's a woman's job.

And many more than I care to remember. He is now gladly an ex

Current dh has called me :
1.a pedantic piece of shit.

1. A fucking cunt
2. A fucking

Bitch 4: a nasty person 4: I have no friends 5: My brother doesn't love me 6: "you're destroying lives!" When I've got Close To Leaving

Saying he felt sorry for me.

Gosh, mine are mild, really.

Called a bitch for tidying away a computer game and moving his stuff. I'd refused to go into that cesspit of a study for over a year, never mind clean or move any of his shit. All the same, I walked up to the shelf I'd last seen it on, picked it up and handed it to him, which simply prolonged the rant about how I'd done that on purpose.

Cornered, held by the shoulders and told that the world out there had nothing for me and that he was the only person who could give me what I needed.

I didn't stick around much longer.

When my Uncle was in hospital dying, and I was visiting him and supporting my DM, DH (now ExH) said 'I hope all this stuff with your Uncle won't impact on my life,'

Meaning he didn't want to have to pick up any slack around the house or with our DD if I was busy.

Ex
If you didnt answer back i wouldnt hit you
If you ever leave me i will go to your grandparents and kill them

And the best one was
Look at me and then look at you. Your so lucky to have me (he was a violent, jobless idiot)
I blocked most of the verbal out along with the violence.
DPs worst comment is to ask me if i need to start the ironing

Called me a loony because I had PND

God my ex said so many horrible things! But I guess one of the worst was telling me that "I don't need ya our kids don't need ya no one fucking wants ya so why don't you just go fucking kill ya self ya useless cunt?! I'll even fucking tie the noose for ya. Fucking bitch" and then kicked the bedroom door in where I was hiding from him.

I was 3 days post birth. Both the baby and the toddler were screaming and crying. I'd snapped at him to help me get the steriliser to work coz it wouldn't and he'd then nagged at me to keep breastfeeding. Took me 5 more years and many more horrible examples of abuse before I left him for good. Didn't tell a single soul at the time about that because I was so sure it was my fault for "starting it".

Ex DH staring at me...

What are you looking at? (me looking around confused).

Ex - Nothing - absolutely nothing.

When I left - 'I'll make sure your friends and family never speak to you again'. To be fair - he achieved that in some cases but I'd given up caring by that point.

Wow.
Mine was ridiculous!
Been thinking - my STBXH used to call me a cunt regularly, talked to me like he was trying to pick a fight with a man. Turned he had a huge coke habit.
On our wedding day - "I can do what I like now"

My ExH was a student (I was financially supporting him) I was working full time and studying in my spare time.
After I came home late after a tutorial he said "A proper wife would be at home with her husbands dinner ready, when he got home".

Norky - that reminds me of another one...sounds like our ex's were similar!

'I can do whatever I want now as you'll never leave because it will break your fathers heart if you get divorced'.

The men mentioned on here (including my ex!) are unbelievable. They are not men at all, but entitled cowardly abusive bullies!!

It makes me just reading this. So glad to read so many are exes!!!!

That being raped by my ex wasn't 'real' rape.

"Oh you loved it really" - I was crying because I was 8 months pregnant, had SPD and he'd just raped me

&

"Happy Birthday" followed by a wink, after he raped me after I'd broken up with him

So so many more, but on the dark days I remember the look on his face when he said those and I find my resolve to never ever let myself be treated the way he treated me ever again

for everyone on here, there really are some spineless cunts in this world

My ex called me a lot of nasty names and threatened me a lot when he was angry. Too many to list here.

One incident that sticks in my mind is when I was really ill and had been up all night with diarrhoea. He'd slept the whole night. In the morning I told him how sick I'd been and he just said 'well make sure you wash your hands before you make my breakfast then' For some reason it was always my job to make his breakfast and iron his shirts in the morning even though we both worked, my job was far more high-pressure and (not that it should matter, but...) I earned twice as much as him and bankrolled him for most of the relationship.

The most hurtful, though, was when he very openly had an emotional affair with a woman in his office. Not only did he not bother to hide it, he actually expected ME to counsel him about all these confusing feelings he was having. After he tested the water and decided she probably wasn't interested, he came home to me saying that he didn't want to leave me after all because he was scared to be alone.

I left the next day. Should have done it about six years earlier!